Why You Shouldn’t Defend Against A Smear Campaign

The Smear Campaign

Those of us who have just left a narcissist or have been discarded by a narcissist we know how nasty the smear campaigns can be.

When the narcissist does this, the best thing to do is to not say anything.

And here is why.

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Why You Shouldn’t Defend Against A Smear Campaign

Smear campaigns are a means to make us lash out. They are means to get under our skin.

Most narcissists, cannot bear the idea of people throwing dirt on their names. To them, this is the ultimate torture.

They need to seem and appear great in the eyes of everyone around them.

The reason many of us, those of us who have left the narc and are happy now, say to not respond to a smear campaign is that this is exactly what the narc, flying monkeys, and enablers want.

They want us to lash out. They want us to try and “defend ourselves” from their slings and arrows of unjust verbal attacks. The parasitic narcissists want us to…THINK ABOUT THEM.

It is as Hamlet asked, “to be or not to be. Whether it was NOBLER in the mind of man to suffer the slings and arrows of OUTRAGEOUS FORTUNE. OIr to take up arms against of sea of oppression.”

There are times to fight and enter into an unseemingly fray where DEFEAT is all the GUARANTEED.

But then there are times to stay back and not enter the fray where VICTORY is all the GUARANTEED.

The purpose is of the smear campaign is to DRAG YOU DOWN IN THE MUD…WITH THEM.

They want you to get dirty.

By not entering into the mud pit (smear campaign) YOU WIN.

NoteGaslighting is a favorite tactic of narcissists to use on their victims. Download my FREE eBook “Am I Being Gaslit” to better understand their sneaky tactics.


I call myself the Rational Humorist. Narcs to me are cancer to humanity. The only way to beat cancer is to fight back against it.

The best way to defeat a narc is to see them as the jokes they are.

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  1. Julia says:

    Leave those sleeping anger dogs lie. According to my mother “ Never stoop to their levels of depravity. It is infantile. Rise above them just as the cream rises to the top so shall you . “. You are so far above them that they would have to climb ten thousand feet from beneath their rock in the gutter to reach the tip of your shoe. And always exist in that higher plane. And you know “ YOU JUST CANNOT FIX STUPID.” Do not give them the privilege to know that have hurt you.
    Guys. You are so much better than them.
    No one can hurt you that you do not give permission to hurt you.

    1. Well said. And I WHOLLY AGREE! 🙂

    2. Hi ,well said but what to do when the smear campaign the narcisist does is in a legal way ? With police involved and maybe also Court …
      What to do when the narcisist try all he’s best to destroy you by turning a fact into his way and trying to make you to look like the abuser ??…
      This isn’t only about narcisist smearing you with friends in common or family….which is still very ,very ugly ..

  2. Indeed by not showing that it may affect us, even if it deeply does, continue as if nothing has been said, nothing even is you know they have, focus on yourself and your grounding, even if it is hard, even if you want to react, do not play the game of ‘drama’, as soon as you do your power, your strength will shift over to the narc and the flying monkeys, the flying monkeys have a purpose as well, REM hey will test you, get information, observe you and even exaggerate to get validation when reporting to the narc.
    As the Maori proverb says, be strong, be brave, be steadfast. This is my mantra every day when I wake up, when I want to react because the unfairness of the narc, when she is in my head…and remember to them you were, are and will be nothing always specially if you give them an inch of your soul.

    1. YES! I agree so much. We must never let them know they got to us. That will only make them happy.

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