When A Covert Narcissist Feels Defeated: Let The Covert Narcissist Have The Battles, Win The War
Narcissistic people wage war on us for irrational reasons. Most oftentimes we don’t even know we are at war with them until it is too late.
They will wage war against us for reasons that make no sense to us rational individual — but makes all the sense in the world to them.
It can be annoying to have someone needlessly attack you. But to enter into that irrational fray with them, only gives them what they want.
They want WAR.
The war on living a happy life.
Let the narcissist win their petty battles in life, focus on winning the war.
Life For Man Is A Warfare
“The life of man upon earth is a warfare, and his days are like the days of a hireling.” (Job 7:1)
Life is (explicit) tough. People seem to go out of their way to make life needlessly difficult for others. And it leaves many of us empaths questioning, “why”?
“What could you possibly gain from causing me harm?”
“How is dragging me down, lifting you up?”
“Why is my happiness anathema to you?”
You can rack your mind around these questions ALL your life and STILL never come up with an answer.
Most people do not think, they simply act. The world is FULL OF FLYING MONKEYS, all of whom champion the lunacy of the narcissistic campaigns. They are some of the lowest creatures that you will come across on this planet.
And as polemical a statement this may sound like, the truth of the matter is that flying monkeys ARE NOTHING IMPORTANT.
They do nothing that improves their lives and they focuses only on serving their narcissistic masters.
Flying Monkeys truly are fools at the highest level.
The Narcissistic General
And then there are the narcissistic people, who sadly just feed on chaos and destruction.
Narcissistic people are in every sense of the word “chaos”. They embody all that is the abstract concept that is chaos lived out in the vessel that is called the human body.
They are living out an experience that is nothing more than pain, hurt, anguish, and irrationality. So them attacking us, is just natural to them.
They wage wars against people and enter battles to which most people aren’t even aware they are in.
Take this for example:
Working at a job and having someone go around the office telling people you don’t talk to them and you don’t like them. When you have clearly greeted them every morning.
Narcissistic people do this because they are trying to drag you into a fray with them.
For a variety of reason.
They may want your FULL-ON DYING ATTENTION (they are NEEDY attention fiends).
They may want you to fear them.
Or they may, for most of the time, just want to hurt you.
It is our ability to reason that often times allows us to LOSE the battles with the narcissist and then ultimately lose the war on happiness and life because we give so much time to them, wondering “what did we do wrong”?
WHICH IS NOTHING!
Stop blaming yourself.
It is NOT YOU but them.
When A Covert Narcissist Feels Defeated
Narcissists, despite their bravado, are some of the most fragile and weak people you will ever come across. In my previous article titled, “25 Things Narcissistic People Hate and Fear” I go over and show how ridiculously scared these people are.
Like animals out in the wild, they will constantly attack people, not because they are showing that they are great. No, what they are really doing is defending their mediocrity and their patheticness.
Successful, confident, and brave people don’t attack others because they have no fear of other people.
But narcissistic people do.
Here Is How You Win The War Against The Covert Narcissist
“Sometimes we have to lose the battle to win the wars.” – Sun Tzu
In trying to win all battles with narcissistic people, along with their flying monkeys, you will drain yourself to the point of not being able to win the war.
By focusing your time, attention, and energy on all the PETTY little battles they wage against us, such as:
- gossiping and spreading rumors (hoping we will tell people we aren’t this person)
- engaging in verbal disputes that denigrates into name-calling
- doing our own smear campaigns
We only show to them that they have dragged us down into their dirty pit. And as Mark Twain once said, “Never argue with stupid people, they will drag you down to their level and then beat you with experience.”
By engaging in these petty battles with them we end up too weak, annoyed, frustrated and messed up, emotionally, to win the war.
By walking away from petty battles, to which AGAIN you did not even know you were in, you take away your power and you win the war.
And you win the war without even having to attack.
This is easily the best way to show your superiority and to do so in a way that truly makes you the superior person.
When you walk away from them and move on in life to become happy and successful this is when a narcissist feels defeated.
In their warped minds, they say this, “I wasn’t able to destroy them….I’m a FAILURE”.
Walk away and live your life as best as you can because that is when you win the war.
I end with this quote by one of my favorite essayist, writers, and intellectuals of all-time:
“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
No Shame In Therapy
Narcissistic people can do a wonder on someone’s mind and psychology.
In fact, I wrote an article called “10+ Mental Illnesses Caused By Staying With A Narcissists“.
The narcissists and their legion of fools can slowly drive you insane. And sometimes the best help you can ever receive is from a stranger.
When everyone around you is trying to convince you that YOU are the bad person, sometimes an objective view of you from someone you don’t know maybe what saves you from drowning in the sea of insanity the narc and their legion of fools try and drown you in.
Therapy can help heal in ways that reading blogs, listening to videos, and talking with other WARRIORS (we are not survivors, we are warriors) can ever do.
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Narcs have a legion of fools behind them to hurt you, I think it would be a good thing to build your own army of warriors and allies to help stand by your side.