What to do when a narcissist is mad at you
If you’re in a relationship with a narcissist, you know their moods and emotions can be unpredictable. One minute they may be happy and content, and the next, they may be angry and resentful. If you’ve done something to upset them, it’s important to try to make things right. Here are some tips for when a narcissist is mad at you.
What Is Narcissistic Personality Disorder
An inflated sense of self-importance characterizes a narcissistic personality disorder, a need for excessive attention and admiration, and a lack of empathy for others.
People with this disorder often have a grandiose view of themselves and believe they are superior to others. They also may have a sense of entitlement and expect special treatment.
A narcissistic personality disorder is one of the most difficult to treat because people with this condition often do not believe they have a problem.
Narcissism and Entitlement
Narcissism and entitlement are often used interchangeably, but they are two distinct personality traits. Narcissism is characterized by a sense of self-importance and a need for admiration. Entitlement, on the other hand, is a belief that one deserves certain privileges or special treatment.
Though narcissistic personality disorder and entitlement are different, they share some similarities. Both narcissism and entitlement involve an inflated sense of self-worth and a lack of empathy for others.
Furthermore, both can lead to problematic behavior. For example, someone with a narcissistic personality disorder may take advantage of others to get what they want.
In contrast, someone who feels entitled may expect others to do things without reciprocation.
The main difference between narcissism and entitlement is that narcissism is rooted in insecurity, while entitlement is rooted in the sense of superiority.
Narcissists and anger
Narcissists are well-known for their inflated sense of self-importance but may also be quick to anger. While narcissists tend to have big egos, they can also easily offend. If you’re in a relationship with a narcissist, you may find yourself walking on eggshells to avoid their wrath.
Narcissists are quick to anger because they feel entitled and expect others to cater to their needs. They may lash out in anger if they don’t get what they want. They may also become angry if they feel you’re challenging them or not giving them the attention they deserve.
What happens after a narcissist gets mad
When narcissists get mad, they usually lash out and try to hurt the person they think is responsible for their anger. This can involve verbally attacking the person in public or private.
They might also try to damage the person’s reputation by spreading rumors or lies about them. In some cases, a narcissist might even become physically violent.
If you’re on the receiving end of a narcissist’s anger, it’s important to try to stay calm and avoid getting drawn into an argument.
These clowns love arguing with people.
It’s also a good idea to avoid being alone with the narcissist, if possible. If you can’t avoid being alone with them, keep your guard up and be prepared for anything.
Narcissistic Rage, Silent Treatment
Narcissistic rage responds to real or perceived rejection, criticism, or abandonment. It is a narcissistic individual’s reaction to feeling attacked, threatened, or hurt. Narcissistic rage can be triggered by anything threatening the individual’s self-esteem or sense of self-worth.
Narcissistic rage can manifest itself in different ways. The most common is silent treatment when the narcissist withdraws from all communication with the person they perceive as threatening. The narcissist may also become aggressive, verbally abusive, or physically violent.
Narcissistic rage is often disproportionate to the trigger and can be very destructive. It can damage relationships and lead to further emotional distress for all involved. If you are on the receiving end of narcissistic rage, staying calm and avoiding engaging with the narcissist is essential.
The Silent Treatment
The silent treatment is a popular form of discipline used by parents on their children. It is also a common tactic used in relationships.
Silent treatment is when someone intentionally ignores another person. The purpose of silent treatment is to make the other person feel bad or to punish them.
The silent treatment can be very hurtful, and it can damage relationships. If you are on the receiving end of the silent treatment, it is important not to let it upset you; accept that they are ignoring you and move on.
Narcissist withdraws when hurt
It’s not uncommon for narcissists to withdraw when they’re hurt. It’s a defense mechanism that allows them to avoid feeling the pain of rejection or criticism. Narcissists are also known for being highly sensitive to slights, so even something that seems minor can trigger their withdrawal.
If you’re in a relationship with a narcissist, you may have noticed that they tend to pull away when upset. This is because they’re afraid of being hurt. Narcissists often build a wall around themselves to protect themselves from emotional pain. It can be excruciating for the narcissist when someone breaks through that wall.
Narcissists may also withdraw from relationships when they feel they’re not getting the attention they deserve. They may become sullen and withdrawn if they feel like they’re being ignored or taken for granted.
The Narcissist’s Perspective
Narcissists are never wrong and always have a right to be mad. This is because they see themselves as perfect and always justified in their actions.
They believe that they are better than others and deserve special treatment. If you’re in a relationship with a narcissist, you’ll likely find yourself walking on eggshells all the time.
Narcissists always look for ways to make themselves look good while putting others down. If you’re the one who is constantly being blamed for everything, it’s time to take a step back and reassess your relationship.
Why is the Narcissist Mad at You
There could be several reasons. Maybe you needed to give them the attention they wanted or needed.
Maybe you challenged their authority or disagreed with them. Or perhaps you refused to do what they wanted you to do.
Narcissists are notoriously difficult to deal with, so it’s essential to understand why they’re angry.
If you can figure out what triggered their anger, you can diffuse the situation and avoid further conflict.
What to do when a narcissist is ignoring you
A narcissist’s silence can be deafening. If someone is ignoring you, you love, understanding what might be happening is essential.
They’re testing your limits. Narcissists may ignore you to see how much they can get away with.
They may also test your reaction to see if you’ll still be there when they finally deign to acknowledge you again.
The best way to deal with this behavior is to stay calm and consistent. Show them that their games won’t work on you, and eventually, they’ll give up and move on.
How to take control away from a narcissist
If you’re in a relationship with a narcissist, you may have noticed that they always seem to be in control. While it’s true that narcissists do like to be in charge, there are ways you can take back control.
Here are three tips to take control away from a narcissist:
1 – Set boundaries. One way to take control away from a narcissist is to set boundaries. Explain to them what you will and will not tolerate in the relationship. If they try to cross your boundaries, assertively stand your ground.
2 – Don’t engage in their drama. Another way to take control away from a narcissist is to refuse to engage in their drama. Narcissists love nothing more than attention and often create drama just for the sake of it. If you ignore their antics, they’ll eventually get bored and move on.
3 – Walk away from them. This is the ultimate way to show your power over your life. By walking away, you show them they have no control over you and you can live your life on your terms.
How to make a narcissist fear you
The best way to make these people fear you is to show them how much YOU DO NOT NEED THEM in your life.
When you show the narcissist that you do not need them in your life for anything, what this shows them is that they have no power over you.
To have power over you, they need you to NEED them because if you need them, you will be forced to always rely on them and reach out to them, which is what they want.
When they realize they have no power over you, this brings out fear in them because, in their minds, they need to control everyone around them.
These people are control freaks and need others to need them to feel good about themselves.
Narcissists getting angry can be a bit disconcerting; however, you have to stop and ask yourself, why should you get perturbed by their anger?
You are not responsible for other grown adults’ emotions; they need to be in control of their emotions.
If a narcissist is upset or angry at you for whatever looney-toon nonsense reason, let them be upset.
If they discard you, let them discard you and move on with your life.
As an adult, taking control of your own life is important. Narcissists, the kidults they are, think it is everyone else job to manage their emotions.
Think about the time you lose, the energy they feed on, and the life you waste away focusing on making these parasites happy.
They are bottomless pits of despair, self-pity, and chaotic drama.
You will always have to work hard to satiate their irrational demands.
If they are angry with you, have the “I don’t give an f- mentality.”