100 Ways To Let Go And Move On With Life After Narcissistic Abuse

100 Ways To Let Go And Move On With Life After Narcissistic Abuse

Let Go Of Shame

81 – Reconnect With Your Inner Child

Get back in touch with your inner child. Let them know that they are loved and that they are stronger than they really know. Often times, we still feel shame in life because our inner child has been taught that.

82 – Forgive Yourself For Allowing The Abuse

More than anyone else in this world, the person who always needs an apology from us, is ourselves. Forgive yourself for going through and allowing the abuse.

83 – Learn To Laugh at Yourself

Learning to laugh at yourself takes so much shame off your back. We all do stupid things in life.

Damnit, I know. I have made so many stupid mistakes in life. But I look at them now and just laugh.

You have to stop taking life so dangerous because we only get one go at this.

84 – Understand There Is No Such Thing As Perfection

Perfection is not a thing. Even the universe is imperfect.

85 – Avoid Rumination

When you catch yourself ruminating, bring yourself back into the present by focusing on a present-day goal (remember to have a schedule).

86 – Remember To Stay In The Present (The Greatest Gift Ever)

“Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. But Today is a gift….that’s why it is called the present.” – Master Oogway

87 – Stop Caring What Others Think

Excuse the explicit language in the quote from “The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A F*ck” By Mark Manson.

Wait!

No, don’t excuse it — or do.

I frankly don’t give a f*ck. 😉

“You and everyone you know are going to be dead soon. And in the short amount of time between here and there, you have a limited amount of f*cks to give. Very few, in fact. And if you go around giving a f*ck about everything and everyone without conscious thought or choice—well, then you’re going to get f*cked.”-  Mark Manson

88 – Know That Most Peoples Opinion Are Not Their Own

I had written an article called “Flying Monkeys Have No Minds Of Their Own“. Most people do NOT KNOW HOW TO THINK. So stop caring what these parrots keep reciting. What they say is not their own opinion.

89 – Accept Your Shameful Moments

Hey, we do stupid things. Accept it.

All successful people have done shameful things, but they keep moving on. That is why they are successful.

90 – Focus On Building A Strong Self-Esteem

Little by little. Day by day. Step by step.

Each day build your self-esteem.

91 – Read Autobiographies (All Great People Have Felt shame At Some Time)

Know that the greatest among us have had hard lives. Read the autobiographies of men and women, and you will see a life full of people who also had to live and deal with narcissistic people.

Narcissists are everywhere.

But here is my question.

If you had a story, would anyone want to read it?

Make sure you have a story that inspires the next generation.

92 – Speak Your Daily Affirmations

Check out my “24 Amazing & Uplifting Quotes On Self-Love: Develop A Strong Self-Esteem.

93 – Know The Difference Between Opinion and Fact (It’s Not What They Think, It’s What You Know)

This is a phrase I often tell myself

It's not what others think of me that matters. It is what I know of myself that matters. Click To Tweet

94 – Learn To Appreciate Your Uniqueness

You are one of a kind. In all of existence, there is nobody like you who has, does, or will exist ever again. You need NOT live up to anyone’s expectation in life save but for yourself.

95 – Get An Objective Opinion

Tell someone about your story, but don’t tell them the story is about you to get their objective opinion about it.

96 – Turn Shame Into Compassion (Would You Tease Your Kid?)

Would you tease your kid if they did something shameful? Or would you be compassionate to them and UPLIFT THEM?

I am pretty sure it would be the latter and not the former.

97 – Let Your Shame Be Your Means To Transform

Let your shame be the cacoon that metamorphosis you into a beautiful butterfly.

98 – You Live For No One’s Amusement

You live for no one’s amusement. Remember that.

99 – Let People Laugh (Who Cares?)

Stop giving people power over how you feel about yourself. People make fun because they are trying to control you.

100 – Take It One Day At A Time

It will not come easy. But take all these steps.

One…Day…At…A…Time.

NoteGaslighting is a favorite tactic of narcissists to use on their victims. Download my FREE eBook “Am I Being Gaslit” to better understand their sneaky tactics.

No Shame In Therapy

Narcissistic people can do a wonder on someone’s mind and psychology. 

In fact, I wrote an article called “10+ Mental Illnesses Caused By Staying With A Narcissists“.

The narcissists and their legion of fools can slowly drive you insane. And sometimes the best help you can ever receive is from a stranger. 

When everyone around you is trying to convince you that YOU are the bad person, sometimes an objective view of you from someone you don’t know maybe what saves you from drowning in the sea of insanity the narc and their legion of fools try and drown you in. 

Therapy can help heal in ways that reading blogs, listening to videos, and talking with other WARRIORS (we are not survivors, we are warriors) can ever do. 

Join my Facebook Fan Page “No Shame In Therapy” to get a 20% discount on your first-month session, as well as articles and updates on the benefits of therapy.

Narcs have a legion of fools behind them to hurt you, I think it would be a good thing to build your own army of warriors and allies to help stand by your side. 

14 thoughts on “100 Ways To Let Go And Move On With Life After Narcissistic Abuse

  1. Truly Inspiring!OMG, what an outstanding collection of ideas! Bravo, man these hundred things might just save my life!? Once again thank you for your time and efforts. I say to myself every morning you could always be worse, but then I was thinking that’s a lie? I felt like it could be worse, but now with new thoughts and ideas I realize it could have been much much worse? Also it could still be worse so now it’s time to turn the tide and changed my life helping people, as I’ve done before, button much different methods and ways! Thanks for saving a soul today! Once I save my mine I will be extremely motivated to help others oh, but I can’t help anyone until I am truly saved myself! This fabulous forum I feel will truly be life-saving! I cannot even put into words how much I appreciate this your time and efforts are above and beyond the Call of Duty as a human. So much appreciation thank you a million times over!

    Sincerely,

    Steve D

    1. Man, I appreciate that brother. And I appreciate you.

      Keep fighting — because a brighter tomorrow is just around the corner.

      I struggled for two years with EXTREME DEPRESSION and HATRED and pulled myself up and out.

      And now I want to help others.

      We have to be there for one another. Because narcissists and flying monkeys work together.

      Empaths have to unite.

      Wishing you well.

      And sending love your way.

      1. Hoping I can be as upbeat and positive when I’m brave enough to leave my relationship with a narc

        1. Im with you on that, everytime i think it couldnt possibly get worse then this…sneak attack my narc shows me next level.
          I am trying to prepare myself for no comminication buttt the thought of it kills me

  2. Apologies for grammar mistakes lol. English and grammar have never been my strong points, but science is and I feel a lot of science is in here! Science saves lives! Been proven over the centuries, science has saved Humanity! Now we need the higher power to help. also I pray for the souls that live in this drudgery of Life as a narcissist. For if they truly knew what they were doing, I highly doubt they would continue? They’re ruining lives and unbeknownst to them, they really don’t have a clue I believe? And if they do have a clue and do this purposely every dog has their day! However I do not wish bad things on anyone I’m sure there is a great reason why they are this way, but narcissism is evil in its highest form! Hoping one day I can get my self back? Today I am and I will start my journey blanking all negative thoughts out of my brain! God willing you will allow me!

    Many Thanks again,

    Steve D

    1. “Oh father, forgive them for they know not what they do.”

      It’s very true narcissistic people are not as intelligent as they think they are. If only hey had a better understanding of themselves they could see that the life they live is just being wasted.

      I applaud you for not wishing ill will to them. I say the same thing.

      I wish you success and I am routing you on.

      I was where you were at as well.

    2. I am in exactly the same place. After 10 years and 2 kids, he finally discarded me when I’d known 4 a long time that I was compromising my dignity and ‘self’ for this relationship… and I did that for him and his happiness and to keep the idealistic view of a happy family alive for myself and the kids and him… I dont know who I am or what I feel atm… Totally lost… and would really really appreciate any info from any1 that can help kickstart my healing as I’m dying inside (and I’m a very strong person and have always been known as one and was proud that I was so strong) I dont know how I’ve become someone who is or feels soooooo weak… Totally lost.
      TIA for any responses given xxx

  3. I do not feel anger because I know him for what he is and I know he cannot change what he is. I do need to learn to forgive myself for, I too, saw the red flags and I chose to ignore them time and again. Eight years with a man who put me down, criticized me, physically, emotionally and psychologically abused me. And I stayed and, when he kicked me out, I was the one that begged to come back for more. The last discard was almost 4 months ago; its the longest one and it is the last one. He has gone back to a previous discard (no surprise) because he cannot be alone.
    And, honestly, the only thing I feel is HURT. I am one giant ball of walking, talking, breathing hurt. I am like a wounded animal. How does one begin to move past the hurt?

    1. The hurt that you feel is normal. Believe me, you are not the only one who saw the red flags and stayed. You are not the only one who begged to go back to them. And you are not the only one who may feel like they are worthless.

      I say this NOT to devalue what you are going through but to let you know there are others out there like you and there are others who have HEALED.

      How I have healed and how I continue to strengthen myself is through educating myself.

      Do not beat yourself up over what has happened — you thought, at an emotional level, that maybe I can get to him; reach him.

      We are not taught about narcissism. And sadly, most of us never learn about them until only being with them.

      But focusing your time and energy on a topic you love — you can switch your thoughts and feelings.

      This is not hyperbole.

      By focusing your attention on something you love to do you will be able to rewire your brain and thus forget about your narc and move on to live a happier life.

      Rumination will KEEP you in the past.

      I know…I wasted a few good years ruminating and it has only caused me to miss out on SO MUCH.

    2. I am in exactly the same place. After 10 years and 2 kids, he finally discarded me when I’d known 4 a long time that I was compromising my dignity and ‘self’ for this relationship… and I did that for him and his happiness and to keep the idealistic view of a happy family alive for myself and the kids and him… I dont know who I am or what I feel atm… Totally lost… and would really really appreciate any info from any1 that can help kickstart my healing as I’m dying inside (and I’m a very strong person and have always been known as one and was proud that I was so strong) I dont know how I’ve become someone who is or feels soooooo weak… Totally lost.
      TIA for any responses x

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