100 Ways To Let Go And Move On With Life After Narcissistic Abuse

100 Ways To Let Go And Move On With Life After Narcissistic Abuse

Let Go Of Anxiety

61 – Learn BJJ/ Judo/ Aikido

Brazilian Jui Jitsu, Judo, and Aikido are great martial arts that help you not only defend yourself but do so in a way that always keeps you CALM and in control of yourself as well as your opponent. You turn their attack against them.

62 – Each Day Strengthen Yourself by Doing Something That Makes You Scared (Baby Steps Of Course)

By merely stepping into the things you are scared to do, you inch closer and closer into the realm of bravery.

63 – Allow Yourself To Scream

Let the fear and anxiety…OUT!!!

Yell, because it releases the tension in your body.

64 – Fire Ritual (Write Out Your Anxiety And Pain And Burn It In The Fire)

Much like the hiking tip. This is more symbolically than anything else. By writing out your anxiety on paper and burning it up, it is a small step in the right direction of taking back your life…one day at a time.

65 – Start To Be More Assertive in Life (Learn To Say No)

Learn to say NO. Learn to say NO.

Listen.

LEARN TO SAY NO. 

Who cares if someone’s feelings get hurt. Should you feel hurt just because someone else will get hurt if you CANNOT DO SOMETHING FOR THEM.

You own nobody ANYTHING.

Learn to say NO.

Check out “The Power of No: Because One Little Word Can Bring Health, Abundance, and Happiness

Synopsis

How many times have you heard yourself saying yes to the wrong things—overwhelming requests, bad relationships, time-consuming obligations? How often have you wished you could summon the power to turn them down? This lively, practical guide helps you take back that power—and shows that a well-placed “No” can not only save you time and trouble, it can save your life.

66 – Start Hitting The Bags (Build up Your Courage)

Being able to hit a bag not only lets out that frustration, but it also helps you learn how to attack. And being ready to attack is a great way to get rid of your anxiety.

67 – Take Responsibility For Your Happiness (Know That You Are Responsible For Your Happiness)

Know that YOU are responsible for how you feel. By telling yourself that others need to affirm yourself, you are giving away your power.

68 – Find Out Why You Are So Anxious

Discover what event in your life made you feel anxious early on. You may be anxious by nature, but often, it is an event that triggers this way of feeling. Once you discover that, you will be able to uproot it and plant something better.

69 – Use Natural Soothing Oils

Not too dissimilar to aromatherapy, essential oils can relieve stress and anxiety. So next time you go for a full body massage, try getting an oil massage.

70 – It’s Okay To Be Scared; Without It, You Couldn’t Be Brave

There is no bravery without fear. Remember that.

71 – Spend Time Alone Each Day To Recuperate

Whether it be an hour, 30-minutes, or just five minutes to YOURSELF…gve yourself time to just simply recuperate.

72 – Forgive Yourself

I mentioned earlier how forgiving myself truly freed me of my past. We are only human. We are meant to make mistakes.

No.

Not mistakes.

We are meant to learn lessons.

73 – Know That You May Often Time Romanticize The Past

Now I am not suggesting that the time with the narcissists wasn’t all bad. But what I am suggesting is that often times we romanticize ourselves as being really stupid when in actuality we did what we thought was best at that time.

74 – Learn To Trust Yourself

In learning to trust yourself, you will be able to be much more confident, thus easily removing anxiety from the equation.

75 – Understand That You Cannot Change The Past

The sheer fact that the past is the past and there is nothing you can do to change it gives you the strength to change the present and this your future. You are anxious because of the past.

Realize it for what it is and learn from it.

76 – You Don’t Need To Fear The Future

Your future does not need to be like your past. Take control of your present, by being aware and mindful, and your future can be what you want it to be.

77 – Be Compassionate With Yourself

See yourself and talk to yourself as if you would to your child.

This is something I do even now as a Man.

78 – Stop Apologizing When You Haven’t Done Anything Wrong

Say “Excuse my ignorance,” “It’s a shame you feel that way,” and “that’s unfortunate.”

Stop saying sorry to people when you haven’t done anything wrong. As this only intensifies your anxiety.

79 – Accept Change In Your Life

Change is NOT a bad thing. Learn how to adapt and flow with the changes in time.

80 – Broaden Your Mind

Learn new things. I have discovered that the more I educate myself, the less angry, anxious, and stressed out I was before. Education is not as saddening as many would say it is.

I have found that it has liberated me from my anxiety.

Because if I don’t know anything…I can always LEARN something.

14 thoughts on “100 Ways To Let Go And Move On With Life After Narcissistic Abuse

  1. Truly Inspiring!OMG, what an outstanding collection of ideas! Bravo, man these hundred things might just save my life!? Once again thank you for your time and efforts. I say to myself every morning you could always be worse, but then I was thinking that’s a lie? I felt like it could be worse, but now with new thoughts and ideas I realize it could have been much much worse? Also it could still be worse so now it’s time to turn the tide and changed my life helping people, as I’ve done before, button much different methods and ways! Thanks for saving a soul today! Once I save my mine I will be extremely motivated to help others oh, but I can’t help anyone until I am truly saved myself! This fabulous forum I feel will truly be life-saving! I cannot even put into words how much I appreciate this your time and efforts are above and beyond the Call of Duty as a human. So much appreciation thank you a million times over!

    Sincerely,

    Steve D

    1. Man, I appreciate that brother. And I appreciate you.

      Keep fighting — because a brighter tomorrow is just around the corner.

      I struggled for two years with EXTREME DEPRESSION and HATRED and pulled myself up and out.

      And now I want to help others.

      We have to be there for one another. Because narcissists and flying monkeys work together.

      Empaths have to unite.

      Wishing you well.

      And sending love your way.

      1. Hoping I can be as upbeat and positive when I’m brave enough to leave my relationship with a narc

        1. Im with you on that, everytime i think it couldnt possibly get worse then this…sneak attack my narc shows me next level.
          I am trying to prepare myself for no comminication buttt the thought of it kills me

  2. Apologies for grammar mistakes lol. English and grammar have never been my strong points, but science is and I feel a lot of science is in here! Science saves lives! Been proven over the centuries, science has saved Humanity! Now we need the higher power to help. also I pray for the souls that live in this drudgery of Life as a narcissist. For if they truly knew what they were doing, I highly doubt they would continue? They’re ruining lives and unbeknownst to them, they really don’t have a clue I believe? And if they do have a clue and do this purposely every dog has their day! However I do not wish bad things on anyone I’m sure there is a great reason why they are this way, but narcissism is evil in its highest form! Hoping one day I can get my self back? Today I am and I will start my journey blanking all negative thoughts out of my brain! God willing you will allow me!

    Many Thanks again,

    Steve D

    1. “Oh father, forgive them for they know not what they do.”

      It’s very true narcissistic people are not as intelligent as they think they are. If only hey had a better understanding of themselves they could see that the life they live is just being wasted.

      I applaud you for not wishing ill will to them. I say the same thing.

      I wish you success and I am routing you on.

      I was where you were at as well.

    2. I am in exactly the same place. After 10 years and 2 kids, he finally discarded me when I’d known 4 a long time that I was compromising my dignity and ‘self’ for this relationship… and I did that for him and his happiness and to keep the idealistic view of a happy family alive for myself and the kids and him… I dont know who I am or what I feel atm… Totally lost… and would really really appreciate any info from any1 that can help kickstart my healing as I’m dying inside (and I’m a very strong person and have always been known as one and was proud that I was so strong) I dont know how I’ve become someone who is or feels soooooo weak… Totally lost.
      TIA for any responses given xxx

  3. I do not feel anger because I know him for what he is and I know he cannot change what he is. I do need to learn to forgive myself for, I too, saw the red flags and I chose to ignore them time and again. Eight years with a man who put me down, criticized me, physically, emotionally and psychologically abused me. And I stayed and, when he kicked me out, I was the one that begged to come back for more. The last discard was almost 4 months ago; its the longest one and it is the last one. He has gone back to a previous discard (no surprise) because he cannot be alone.
    And, honestly, the only thing I feel is HURT. I am one giant ball of walking, talking, breathing hurt. I am like a wounded animal. How does one begin to move past the hurt?

    1. The hurt that you feel is normal. Believe me, you are not the only one who saw the red flags and stayed. You are not the only one who begged to go back to them. And you are not the only one who may feel like they are worthless.

      I say this NOT to devalue what you are going through but to let you know there are others out there like you and there are others who have HEALED.

      How I have healed and how I continue to strengthen myself is through educating myself.

      Do not beat yourself up over what has happened — you thought, at an emotional level, that maybe I can get to him; reach him.

      We are not taught about narcissism. And sadly, most of us never learn about them until only being with them.

      But focusing your time and energy on a topic you love — you can switch your thoughts and feelings.

      This is not hyperbole.

      By focusing your attention on something you love to do you will be able to rewire your brain and thus forget about your narc and move on to live a happier life.

      Rumination will KEEP you in the past.

      I know…I wasted a few good years ruminating and it has only caused me to miss out on SO MUCH.

    2. I am in exactly the same place. After 10 years and 2 kids, he finally discarded me when I’d known 4 a long time that I was compromising my dignity and ‘self’ for this relationship… and I did that for him and his happiness and to keep the idealistic view of a happy family alive for myself and the kids and him… I dont know who I am or what I feel atm… Totally lost… and would really really appreciate any info from any1 that can help kickstart my healing as I’m dying inside (and I’m a very strong person and have always been known as one and was proud that I was so strong) I dont know how I’ve become someone who is or feels soooooo weak… Totally lost.
      TIA for any responses x

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