100 Ways To Let Go And Move On With Life After Narcissistic Abuse

100 Ways To Let Go And Move On With Life After Narcissistic Abuse

Let Go Of Stress

41 – Spend Some Time In Nature

Spend some time out in nature. Whether it being hiking, trekking, cave exploring (WITH A GUIDE OF COURSE), or camping. Just being out in nature can be incredibly helpful in lowering your stress levels.

42 – Distance Yourself From People For A While

Most oftentimes, people can set us off, and they may not even be aware of it. By distancing yourself for a while, you can step back from everyone, the narcissists, and everyone surrounded by the narcissist, to see everything for and objective vantage point.

Staying around the narcissist and their lackeys (flying monkeys), you remain in a fog state, never seeing that there are life and happiness out there if you but separate yourself from these people.

43 – Get Off Of Social Media

This is SO CRUCIAL.

Detoxify yourself from social media toxicity. Just think about this for the second. You feel angry and stressed out because you look at their social media profile and see that they are happy.

You are hurting yourself by doing this.

Get off of social media for some time.

44 – Change Your Diet (Foods Can Also Influence Your Stress Levels)

Contrary to belief, comfort foods, foods high in sugar, are not very comforting. In fact, these foods can lead to you feeling more stressed out and depressed.

45 – “Memento Mori”

This is a phrase I tell myself every day when I wake up, “Memento Mori.” 

This is Latin for, “remember that you are going to die.

Remembering that I only have so many tomorrows ahead of me is reason enough for me to focus on all the time I have left.

Focusing on the past will only rob me of the present. Click To Tweet

46 – Aromatherapy

Aromatherapy is a great way to relieve stress. Certain scents have an effect on us at a sensational level. Lavender and cinnamon are great for helping your mind to enter into the state of being relaxed.

Check out these candles and Incense at Sivana Warriors.

47 – Musical Therapy

“That’s Life”

48 – Five Second Rule

Mel Robbins came up with this technique where you give yourself 5 seconds to feel whatever it is that you are feeling, and after the five seconds, let it go. 

As simple as this sounds, there are have been millions of people who have become a better person due to this technique.

Check out “The 5 Second Rule: Transform your Life, Work, and Confidence with Everyday Courage” written by Mel Robbins

Using the science of habits, riveting stories and surprising facts from some of the most famous moments in history, art and business, Mel Robbins will explain the power of a “push moment.”  Then, she’ll give you one simple tool you can use to become your greatest self.

49 – Swimming

Swimming is a GREAT way to relieve yourself of stress. Here are just a few examples of what it can do:

  • Swimming improves memory (remember the good times in life)
  • Increases mindfulness
  • Helps You Get Bette Night Sleep
  • Creates NEW Brain Cells

50 – Lower The Amount Of Self-Pleasure You Do

Now, there is NOTHING wrong with self-pleasure. But you might want to ease up on the frequency to which you are doing this. And this tip is more so for my dudes than they females.

Having less testosterone leads to you feeling depressed. Try No fap for a week or two, and you will notice how much more energy and confidence you will have.

51 – Look At The Incident From A Higher Perspective (Become The Superior Person)

You have to look at this situation as an ADULT. Understand this, narcissists are what I like to call kidults. They throw temper tantrums simply because they cannot regulate their emotions.

Yes, they may have done us harm, but we have to see them as kids in adult bodies; kidults!

Could you really stay mad at a kid?

52 – Be Kind To Yourself (You Are Only Human)

This is yet another of the tips that I personally use. I have come to learn to forgive myself and to be kind to myself. I know after my separation, I felt LIKE A FOOL.

And I saw the signs, but I ignored the red flags.

Learning to forgive me and just accepting what happened. I have been able to move on. Day by day.

53 – Take More Breaks

Take yourself out for a date once in a while. If you are at work, head off to your favorite cafe instead of going to the worker’s lounge. Give yourself a break from people, it will do you a world of good.

And also, it will reveal to you certain people who really do not matter to you as much as your thoughts. If you can give people a break for a month and feel like you can go for the rest of your life without them, that is a clear sign, it is time to move on from them.

54 – Turn Your Time WIth The Narcissist Into A Time Of Training

By changing your perspective on time with the narcissist, you will see that the time was there to make you stronger, wiser, and better. I like to see time with them as training me for the war that is called life.

They were the hard generals (which we don’t need to like or respect) to make us ready for FUTURE SUCCESS. Because success is not hard to gt, and it is not easy to maintain.

You have to be strong.

55 – See Stress As A Gym For Your Emotional Strength

Much like going to the gym and lifting up heavy weights, doing so will increase your muscle mass. Dealing with a rise in narcissist your skin. You get thick skin in a world where most people are paper-thin fragile.

56 – See Yourself As A Superhero

Batman is easily my favorite superhero of all time. And this is because he is a man who has turned his tragedy into his strength.

He deals with an assortment of deranged NARCISSISTIC VILLIANS, with Joker being the biggest narcissist of his Rogue Gallery.

Batman is my favorite superhero because, despite the chaos, they ring in his life…HE KEEPS FIGHTING ON. 

57 – Exercises

Exercising has been shown to have a myriad of benefits on our physical health but also our mental and psychological health.

58 – Go Hiking

This is just a personal favorite of mines and something I do myself. Hiking and climbing to HIGHER HEIGHTS are very symbolic. Instead of roaming around on the bottom, the ground, I climb higher and higher. And as a climb, I get to see the are around me in a new perspective.

59 – Learn Fishing/ Go Fishing

I personally am a vegetarian pushing to becoming a vegan. But I have often heard how peaceful and relaxing fishing can be. So you may want to try and give this a go.

And of course, put the fish back after you have caught it. 😉

60 – Start Learning Philosophy (Stoicism Preferably)

If ever there as a philosophy that I believe would be able to instill in you the strength to overcome your current situation (after leaving your narcissists), it would have to be stoicism.

Stoicism is:

“Stoicism has just a few central teachings. It sets out to remind us of how unpredictable the world can be. How brief our moment of life is. How to be steadfast and strong and in control of yourself. And finally, the source of our dissatisfaction lies in our impulsive dependency on our reflexive senses rather than logic.” – Daily Stoic  

14 thoughts on “100 Ways To Let Go And Move On With Life After Narcissistic Abuse

  1. Truly Inspiring!OMG, what an outstanding collection of ideas! Bravo, man these hundred things might just save my life!? Once again thank you for your time and efforts. I say to myself every morning you could always be worse, but then I was thinking that’s a lie? I felt like it could be worse, but now with new thoughts and ideas I realize it could have been much much worse? Also it could still be worse so now it’s time to turn the tide and changed my life helping people, as I’ve done before, button much different methods and ways! Thanks for saving a soul today! Once I save my mine I will be extremely motivated to help others oh, but I can’t help anyone until I am truly saved myself! This fabulous forum I feel will truly be life-saving! I cannot even put into words how much I appreciate this your time and efforts are above and beyond the Call of Duty as a human. So much appreciation thank you a million times over!

    Sincerely,

    Steve D

    1. Man, I appreciate that brother. And I appreciate you.

      Keep fighting — because a brighter tomorrow is just around the corner.

      I struggled for two years with EXTREME DEPRESSION and HATRED and pulled myself up and out.

      And now I want to help others.

      We have to be there for one another. Because narcissists and flying monkeys work together.

      Empaths have to unite.

      Wishing you well.

      And sending love your way.

      1. Hoping I can be as upbeat and positive when I’m brave enough to leave my relationship with a narc

        1. Im with you on that, everytime i think it couldnt possibly get worse then this…sneak attack my narc shows me next level.
          I am trying to prepare myself for no comminication buttt the thought of it kills me

  2. Apologies for grammar mistakes lol. English and grammar have never been my strong points, but science is and I feel a lot of science is in here! Science saves lives! Been proven over the centuries, science has saved Humanity! Now we need the higher power to help. also I pray for the souls that live in this drudgery of Life as a narcissist. For if they truly knew what they were doing, I highly doubt they would continue? They’re ruining lives and unbeknownst to them, they really don’t have a clue I believe? And if they do have a clue and do this purposely every dog has their day! However I do not wish bad things on anyone I’m sure there is a great reason why they are this way, but narcissism is evil in its highest form! Hoping one day I can get my self back? Today I am and I will start my journey blanking all negative thoughts out of my brain! God willing you will allow me!

    Many Thanks again,

    Steve D

    1. “Oh father, forgive them for they know not what they do.”

      It’s very true narcissistic people are not as intelligent as they think they are. If only hey had a better understanding of themselves they could see that the life they live is just being wasted.

      I applaud you for not wishing ill will to them. I say the same thing.

      I wish you success and I am routing you on.

      I was where you were at as well.

    2. I am in exactly the same place. After 10 years and 2 kids, he finally discarded me when I’d known 4 a long time that I was compromising my dignity and ‘self’ for this relationship… and I did that for him and his happiness and to keep the idealistic view of a happy family alive for myself and the kids and him… I dont know who I am or what I feel atm… Totally lost… and would really really appreciate any info from any1 that can help kickstart my healing as I’m dying inside (and I’m a very strong person and have always been known as one and was proud that I was so strong) I dont know how I’ve become someone who is or feels soooooo weak… Totally lost.
      TIA for any responses given xxx

  3. I do not feel anger because I know him for what he is and I know he cannot change what he is. I do need to learn to forgive myself for, I too, saw the red flags and I chose to ignore them time and again. Eight years with a man who put me down, criticized me, physically, emotionally and psychologically abused me. And I stayed and, when he kicked me out, I was the one that begged to come back for more. The last discard was almost 4 months ago; its the longest one and it is the last one. He has gone back to a previous discard (no surprise) because he cannot be alone.
    And, honestly, the only thing I feel is HURT. I am one giant ball of walking, talking, breathing hurt. I am like a wounded animal. How does one begin to move past the hurt?

    1. The hurt that you feel is normal. Believe me, you are not the only one who saw the red flags and stayed. You are not the only one who begged to go back to them. And you are not the only one who may feel like they are worthless.

      I say this NOT to devalue what you are going through but to let you know there are others out there like you and there are others who have HEALED.

      How I have healed and how I continue to strengthen myself is through educating myself.

      Do not beat yourself up over what has happened — you thought, at an emotional level, that maybe I can get to him; reach him.

      We are not taught about narcissism. And sadly, most of us never learn about them until only being with them.

      But focusing your time and energy on a topic you love — you can switch your thoughts and feelings.

      This is not hyperbole.

      By focusing your attention on something you love to do you will be able to rewire your brain and thus forget about your narc and move on to live a happier life.

      Rumination will KEEP you in the past.

      I know…I wasted a few good years ruminating and it has only caused me to miss out on SO MUCH.

    2. I am in exactly the same place. After 10 years and 2 kids, he finally discarded me when I’d known 4 a long time that I was compromising my dignity and ‘self’ for this relationship… and I did that for him and his happiness and to keep the idealistic view of a happy family alive for myself and the kids and him… I dont know who I am or what I feel atm… Totally lost… and would really really appreciate any info from any1 that can help kickstart my healing as I’m dying inside (and I’m a very strong person and have always been known as one and was proud that I was so strong) I dont know how I’ve become someone who is or feels soooooo weak… Totally lost.
      TIA for any responses x

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