100 Ways To Let Go And Move On With Life After Narcissistic Abuse

100 Ways To Let Go And Move On With Life After Narcissistic Abuse

Let Go Of Past Relationships

21 – Stop Feeling Regretful (You Are Only Human)

You are only a human. There is no blueprint to this thing called life. Nobody has it right in life. The relationship was not a prison but just a training ground to show you what NOT to have in a partner.

22 – See The Experience As A Learning Lesson

To piggyback off of the last entry, you need to see your time with your narcissist as a classroom. They were showing you everything that you don’t want to be, who you don’t want to be with, and what type of life you don’t want to live.

23 – See It As A Dark Chapter

All great stories have dark moments in them. The dark moments are not meant to END the protagonist but to strengthen and reveal to them something. 

See your dark moments as not the end but as the means to which will make you a person much stronger, wiser, and better.

24 – Reward Yourself Every Time You Accomplish Something In the Presence

Reward yourself every day for each step you are moving in the right direction (which is forward). If you wake up and say to yourself “I love myself” instead of “I hate myself” — then reward yourself for taking the necessary steps in the right direction of healing.

25 – Loving Myself Means Letting Go

There is no greater love you can have for yourself than but to move on from people who don’t love you.

26 – Learn A New Skill

Replace old thoughts with new thoughts. You cannot change the past, and you cannot change the person you were. But you have everything in you to change the person you are right now.

Learning a new skill will rewire your brain, and thus, new thoughts and feelings will arise.

If you want to learn a new skill, then try (this is an affiliate link) Skillshare.

In the link provided above, you get access to 2 months of online courses to which you can learn anything you may have a passion for.

27 – Write Out Your Future (Plan Your Tomorrows The Night Before)

This is a personal favorite of mines. I love to schedule my day ahead of me. And the reason for this is because when I wake up, my FOCUS is on the things I need to do in a day. My thoughts are all about what I need to tackle on this day.

By doing this, I am better able to keep myself from thinking about the negative past relationship and focus on building myself up.

28 – Visualize The Friends and Life You Want To Live

This goes hand and hand with the previous entry. By visualizing where I want to be in the next week, month, or year I find that I subconsciously place myself there.

29 – Get To Know You (Focus On Who You Are Now)

“Know Thyself.” 

You are not what you were but who YOU choose to be.

30 – Set Up Boundaries (This Sets Up For The Next Entry)

Learn to set up boundaries. I give myself 7 things that I look for in a person to be able to enter into my life. If they do not have 5 of the 7 (yes, I know that may be steep), I don’t allow them to be my friend or to work with me.

You have to be strict with whom you allow into your life. Click To Tweet

31 – Don’t Stop Dating Again (Don’t Let The Narcissist Strip Love From You)

Don't let the narcissist strip love from you. Click To Tweet

I know you may feel hurt by the narcissist and what they have done. But NOT all people are like this. By setting up your boundaries, you will be able to wheen out all the potential narcissists.

Finding a healthy relationship will do wonders for you in regards to you moving on in life. Love is a fantastic emotion; don’t let the narcissist take that away from you.

32 – Focus On Creating Stronger and Healthier Bonds With Those Close To You

During this time (after your separation from the narcissist), you may feel lonely. Reach out to those who have been there with you and create a stronger bond with them.

33 – Cry About What Happens (Release The Pain)

Crying is not a sign of weakness....it is the releasing of weakness. Click To Tweet

34 – Research Upcoming Events To Expect In The Coming Future

What I have found to help me, and I hope it can do the same for you is to research upcoming events. Like what will happen in the next ten years, twenty years or thirty years. How is life on earth going to be?

I love the idea of what life will be like in the coming decades. Check out this article “33 Dramatic Predictions fo 2030“.

Would you not want to be part of this?

35 – Accept That They Will Never Apologize (There Are Just People Like Them Out In The World)

Just knowing that there are people like them out in the world is reason enough for me to move on with my life. Knowing that nothing I do will ever change them saves me plenty of future headaches.

36 – Help Others Less Fortunate Than You

[bctt tweet=”Shred the labels and rise as a human being – a human being of compassion, a human being of kindness, a human being with real psychological freedom. – Abhijit Naskar”

37 – Surround Yourself With Uplifting People

We are the average of the four people we hang most around. So why not surround yourself with uplifting people?

38 – Write Your Story With The Narc And Then Write Out How You Want Your Story To End

I like to see myself as a character in a story. But I have the pe to which i. can write out how the rest of. My life will play out.

Focus on how you want your story to end and less on how your story was messed up in the middle or beginning.

Finish your story on a BANG.

39 – Think About Future Generations: Will You Have An Impact

I had written in a previous article of mines “The Fate Of Aging Narcissists” about how, when they die, they will leave NO IMPACT. But is that how we want our story to end?

Think about the impact you will leave on the next generation.

Because when our curtain of life falls on us, we should be remembered for the person we are. We should be applauded for the story we lived in. And we should have a bouquet of flowers thrown on our stage of life for inspiring the next generation.” – Xavier

40 – Meditate or Pray

14 thoughts on “100 Ways To Let Go And Move On With Life After Narcissistic Abuse

  1. Truly Inspiring!OMG, what an outstanding collection of ideas! Bravo, man these hundred things might just save my life!? Once again thank you for your time and efforts. I say to myself every morning you could always be worse, but then I was thinking that’s a lie? I felt like it could be worse, but now with new thoughts and ideas I realize it could have been much much worse? Also it could still be worse so now it’s time to turn the tide and changed my life helping people, as I’ve done before, button much different methods and ways! Thanks for saving a soul today! Once I save my mine I will be extremely motivated to help others oh, but I can’t help anyone until I am truly saved myself! This fabulous forum I feel will truly be life-saving! I cannot even put into words how much I appreciate this your time and efforts are above and beyond the Call of Duty as a human. So much appreciation thank you a million times over!

    Sincerely,

    Steve D

    1. Man, I appreciate that brother. And I appreciate you.

      Keep fighting — because a brighter tomorrow is just around the corner.

      I struggled for two years with EXTREME DEPRESSION and HATRED and pulled myself up and out.

      And now I want to help others.

      We have to be there for one another. Because narcissists and flying monkeys work together.

      Empaths have to unite.

      Wishing you well.

      And sending love your way.

      1. Hoping I can be as upbeat and positive when I’m brave enough to leave my relationship with a narc

        1. Im with you on that, everytime i think it couldnt possibly get worse then this…sneak attack my narc shows me next level.
          I am trying to prepare myself for no comminication buttt the thought of it kills me

  2. Apologies for grammar mistakes lol. English and grammar have never been my strong points, but science is and I feel a lot of science is in here! Science saves lives! Been proven over the centuries, science has saved Humanity! Now we need the higher power to help. also I pray for the souls that live in this drudgery of Life as a narcissist. For if they truly knew what they were doing, I highly doubt they would continue? They’re ruining lives and unbeknownst to them, they really don’t have a clue I believe? And if they do have a clue and do this purposely every dog has their day! However I do not wish bad things on anyone I’m sure there is a great reason why they are this way, but narcissism is evil in its highest form! Hoping one day I can get my self back? Today I am and I will start my journey blanking all negative thoughts out of my brain! God willing you will allow me!

    Many Thanks again,

    Steve D

    1. “Oh father, forgive them for they know not what they do.”

      It’s very true narcissistic people are not as intelligent as they think they are. If only hey had a better understanding of themselves they could see that the life they live is just being wasted.

      I applaud you for not wishing ill will to them. I say the same thing.

      I wish you success and I am routing you on.

      I was where you were at as well.

    2. I am in exactly the same place. After 10 years and 2 kids, he finally discarded me when I’d known 4 a long time that I was compromising my dignity and ‘self’ for this relationship… and I did that for him and his happiness and to keep the idealistic view of a happy family alive for myself and the kids and him… I dont know who I am or what I feel atm… Totally lost… and would really really appreciate any info from any1 that can help kickstart my healing as I’m dying inside (and I’m a very strong person and have always been known as one and was proud that I was so strong) I dont know how I’ve become someone who is or feels soooooo weak… Totally lost.
      TIA for any responses given xxx

  3. I do not feel anger because I know him for what he is and I know he cannot change what he is. I do need to learn to forgive myself for, I too, saw the red flags and I chose to ignore them time and again. Eight years with a man who put me down, criticized me, physically, emotionally and psychologically abused me. And I stayed and, when he kicked me out, I was the one that begged to come back for more. The last discard was almost 4 months ago; its the longest one and it is the last one. He has gone back to a previous discard (no surprise) because he cannot be alone.
    And, honestly, the only thing I feel is HURT. I am one giant ball of walking, talking, breathing hurt. I am like a wounded animal. How does one begin to move past the hurt?

    1. The hurt that you feel is normal. Believe me, you are not the only one who saw the red flags and stayed. You are not the only one who begged to go back to them. And you are not the only one who may feel like they are worthless.

      I say this NOT to devalue what you are going through but to let you know there are others out there like you and there are others who have HEALED.

      How I have healed and how I continue to strengthen myself is through educating myself.

      Do not beat yourself up over what has happened — you thought, at an emotional level, that maybe I can get to him; reach him.

      We are not taught about narcissism. And sadly, most of us never learn about them until only being with them.

      But focusing your time and energy on a topic you love — you can switch your thoughts and feelings.

      This is not hyperbole.

      By focusing your attention on something you love to do you will be able to rewire your brain and thus forget about your narc and move on to live a happier life.

      Rumination will KEEP you in the past.

      I know…I wasted a few good years ruminating and it has only caused me to miss out on SO MUCH.

    2. I am in exactly the same place. After 10 years and 2 kids, he finally discarded me when I’d known 4 a long time that I was compromising my dignity and ‘self’ for this relationship… and I did that for him and his happiness and to keep the idealistic view of a happy family alive for myself and the kids and him… I dont know who I am or what I feel atm… Totally lost… and would really really appreciate any info from any1 that can help kickstart my healing as I’m dying inside (and I’m a very strong person and have always been known as one and was proud that I was so strong) I dont know how I’ve become someone who is or feels soooooo weak… Totally lost.
      TIA for any responses x

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