- 1 Let Go Of Past Relationships
- 1.1 21 – Stop Feeling Regretful (You Are Only Human)
- 1.2 22 – See The Experience As A Learning Lesson
- 1.3 23 – See It As A Dark Chapter
- 1.4 24 – Reward Yourself Every Time You Accomplish Something In the Presence
- 1.5 25 – Loving Myself Means Letting Go
- 1.6 26 – Learn A New Skill
- 1.7 27 – Write Out Your Future (Plan Your Tomorrows The Night Before)
- 1.8 28 – Visualize The Friends and Life You Want To Live
- 1.9 29 – Get To Know You (Focus On Who You Are Now)
- 1.10 30 – Set Up Boundaries (This Sets Up For The Next Entry)
- 1.11 31 – Don’t Stop Dating Again (Don’t Let The Narcissist Strip Love From You)
- 1.12 32 – Focus On Creating Stronger and Healthier Bonds With Those Close To You
- 1.13 33 – Cry About What Happens (Release The Pain)
- 1.14 34 – Research Upcoming Events To Expect In The Coming Future
- 1.15 35 – Accept That They Will Never Apologize (There Are Just People Like Them Out In The World)
- 1.16 36 – Help Others Less Fortunate Than You
- 1.17 37 – Surround Yourself With Uplifting People
- 1.18 38 – Write Your Story With The Narc And Then Write Out How You Want Your Story To End
- 1.19 39 – Think About Future Generations: Will You Have An Impact
- 1.20 40 – Meditate or Pray
Let Go Of Past Relationships
21 – Stop Feeling Regretful (You Are Only Human)
You are only a human. There is no blueprint to this thing called life. Nobody has it right in life. The relationship was not a prison but just a training ground to show you what NOT to have in a partner.
22 – See The Experience As A Learning Lesson
To piggyback off of the last entry, you need to see your time with your narcissist as a classroom. They were showing you everything that you don’t want to be, who you don’t want to be with, and what type of life you don’t want to live.
23 – See It As A Dark Chapter
All great stories have dark moments in them. The dark moments are not meant to END the protagonist but to strengthen and reveal to them something.
See your dark moments as not the end but as the means to which will make you a person much stronger, wiser, and better.
24 – Reward Yourself Every Time You Accomplish Something In the Presence
Reward yourself every day for each step you are moving in the right direction (which is forward). If you wake up and say to yourself “I love myself” instead of “I hate myself” — then reward yourself for taking the necessary steps in the right direction of healing.
25 – Loving Myself Means Letting Go
There is no greater love you can have for yourself than but to move on from people who don’t love you.
26 – Learn A New Skill
Replace old thoughts with new thoughts. You cannot change the past, and you cannot change the person you were. But you have everything in you to change the person you are right now.
Learning a new skill will rewire your brain, and thus, new thoughts and feelings will arise.
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27 – Write Out Your Future (Plan Your Tomorrows The Night Before)
This is a personal favorite of mines. I love to schedule my day ahead of me. And the reason for this is because when I wake up, my FOCUS is on the things I need to do in a day. My thoughts are all about what I need to tackle on this day.
By doing this, I am better able to keep myself from thinking about the negative past relationship and focus on building myself up.
28 – Visualize The Friends and Life You Want To Live
This goes hand and hand with the previous entry. By visualizing where I want to be in the next week, month, or year I find that I subconsciously place myself there.
29 – Get To Know You (Focus On Who You Are Now)
You are not what you were but who YOU choose to be.
30 – Set Up Boundaries (This Sets Up For The Next Entry)
Learn to set up boundaries. I give myself 7 things that I look for in a person to be able to enter into my life. If they do not have 5 of the 7 (yes, I know that may be steep), I don’t allow them to be my friend or to work with me.
31 – Don’t Stop Dating Again (Don’t Let The Narcissist Strip Love From You)
I know you may feel hurt by the narcissist and what they have done. But NOT all people are like this. By setting up your boundaries, you will be able to wheen out all the potential narcissists.
Finding a healthy relationship will do wonders for you in regards to you moving on in life. Love is a fantastic emotion; don’t let the narcissist take that away from you.
32 – Focus On Creating Stronger and Healthier Bonds With Those Close To You
During this time (after your separation from the narcissist), you may feel lonely. Reach out to those who have been there with you and create a stronger bond with them.
33 – Cry About What Happens (Release The Pain)
34 – Research Upcoming Events To Expect In The Coming Future
What I have found to help me, and I hope it can do the same for you is to research upcoming events. Like what will happen in the next ten years, twenty years or thirty years. How is life on earth going to be?
I love the idea of what life will be like in the coming decades. Check out this article “33 Dramatic Predictions fo 2030“.
Would you not want to be part of this?
35 – Accept That They Will Never Apologize (There Are Just People Like Them Out In The World)
Just knowing that there are people like them out in the world is reason enough for me to move on with my life. Knowing that nothing I do will ever change them saves me plenty of future headaches.
36 – Help Others Less Fortunate Than You
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37 – Surround Yourself With Uplifting People
We are the average of the four people we hang most around. So why not surround yourself with uplifting people?
38 – Write Your Story With The Narc And Then Write Out How You Want Your Story To End
I like to see myself as a character in a story. But I have the pe to which i. can write out how the rest of. My life will play out.
Focus on how you want your story to end and less on how your story was messed up in the middle or beginning.
Finish your story on a BANG.
39 – Think About Future Generations: Will You Have An Impact
I had written in a previous article of mines “The Fate Of Aging Narcissists” about how, when they die, they will leave NO IMPACT. But is that how we want our story to end?
Think about the impact you will leave on the next generation.
“Because when our curtain of life falls on us, we should be remembered for the person we are. We should be applauded for the story we lived in. And we should have a bouquet of flowers thrown on our stage of life for inspiring the next generation.” – Xavier