Truth Hurts: You Don’t Want To Move On
Let me brutally honest and get straight to the point. The reason many of you, who have been discarded or have left your narcissist and are still hurting months to years after, is not because of what they did, but what you refuse to do.
What do I mean by this, you may be asking?
It sounds like I am victim-shaming.
And NO, I AM NOT.
What I am doing is quite the opposite.
This is victim obliteration.
Obliterating the concept of us ever being a victim. We are warriors.
To consider you a victim and call you a victim is to make you sound like you are helpless. And when you or anyone else is helpless with life, you become easy prey.
This is a mindset that so many people have. And this is why so many people are stuck in situations, they don’t have to be in.
The reason why you still hurt after all these months and years, crying yourself to sleep every night, no longer be able to be in a committed relationship, taking EVERY DAMN STATEMENT OR COMMENTS to heart (what do you mean by that?) is that you REFUSE to let go and move on.
And this is insanity.
It is like willfully walking in into an insane asylum.
In your symbiotic attached “love” (and I use this word loosely), you have become so dedicated and committed to the insanity that is the narcissist, that you cannot see yourself without them in it.
They have borrowed their insanity into your psyche so deep that the thought of moving on from them literally hurt you.
You feel sick. You feel depressed. Your vibrant, brilliant smile is no longer as hopeful or beautiful as it once was.
CHALLENGE ME ON THIS.
Look at people before and after pictures with a narc on Facebook groups, and you will see a huge difference.
(If you would like to share your story of how you became better AFTER leaving your narc, I would love to hear it and share it with my readers.)
So here is the harsh truth you must listen to.