You Are Not Their Parent
If you really want to get to your narcissists, but can not go “No Contact“, then give them no reassurance. Grey rock the hell out of them.
When I say don’t give them reassurance it doesn’t strictly mean to love.
When I say no reasurnace I mean, NO:
- Asking what is wrong
- Making them breakfast
- Preparing things for them
DO NOTHING FOR THESE PEOPLE.
This will drive them batshit insane (well, more batshit insane), and you keep your sanity.
By giving into their insanity, by REASSURING THEM, you only validate their crazy mindsets.
And much like a toddler who cries and cries and cries…given time, they will cry themselves to sleep.
One of the best ways to deal with a narcissist is to simply not reassure them and validate their insanity. They will “crazy” themselves out; sooner or later.
And not reassuring them gives you back your POWER.