The Narcissist Wants To Control You: Become Self Reliant

The Narcissist Wants To Control You: Become Self Reliant

The Narcissist Wants To Control You: Become Self Reliant

“Nobody can bring you peace but yourself.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Narcissistic people are all about control. They have an insatiable desire to control everyone that stumbles in their lives.

These people are control freaks, and they have a desire to control others because they know that if people had the FREEDOM and wherewithal to be with them of their own volition, most people would leave them in a heartbeat.

This is why narcs wear a mask, drop massive love bombs on people, gaslight, and try and devalue people.

If they can CONTROL the way you think and feel about yourself than they can keep you anchored in their worthless lives.

And their lives are WORTHLESS…to them.

This is why they seek drama, attention, and crave to be with people ALL THE TIME.

They need others to remind them that they aren’t anything.

Break free of their conditioning and become self-reliant.

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The Narcissist Wants To Control You: Become Self Reliant

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Self-reliance is a TRAIT that we must all strive to cultivate. There is nothing that can make you happier and more robust in life than but to develop the mindset of being able to STAND ALONE.

To a narc, being self-reliant is a massive slap in the face, as it shows them THEY HAVE NO PULL OVER YOU.

You are no longer their puppet being moved by strings.

You are AUTONOMOUS, unlike their legion of fools (i.e., flying monkeys).

Self-reliance is a trait that will not only remove the narc from your life, but it is also something that will help you heal.

Your “Locus Of Control” will give you the strength to tell yourself to stop mopping. Stop resenting, ruminating, venting, and hurting because of what the narc did.

(Locus Of Control – Locus of control is an individual’s belief system regarding the causes of his or her experiences and the factors to which that person attributes success or failure.)

When you start to see YOURSELF as the means to your healing, NOTHING WILL EVER BE ABLE TO HURT YOU.

When you see YOURSELF as the person who can provide for you, NO LONGER will you need a job you hate working at or be financially abused by the narc.

Shifting your Locus of Control internally instead of keeping it external, will allow you to move forward with your life.

As long as you think that in having the narc apologize to you will heal you, you will keep on hurting.

As long as you think getting others to see the narc for what they are, you will continue to resent.

And as long as you place the control of your healing in the hands of the narc and their legion of flying monkeys…YOU WILL NEVER BE ABLE TO MOVE FORWARD.

Self-Reliance Will Set You Free

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The narc is a needy loser. This is why they have their legion of mindless drones (flying monkeys) around them at all times.

They cannot rely on themselves to do anything.

This is why I call them kidults. They don’t know how to regulate their emotions, thoughts, feelings, or know how to manage their lives without someone else “parentifying” them.

By you leaving and becoming self-reliant, you take away their control over you.

And to a narc, this is a HUGE LOSS.

If you want to get back at the narc who hurt you…TAKE YOUR LIFE IN YOUR OWN HANDS.

Become EVERYTHING and MORE that they said you could never be.

If they said, “no one would ever love you because you are so broken, “…fix yourself up.

Become the bombshell of a woman you were BEFORE you met the narc.

To a narc guy, this will destroy their petty ego.

I know, I have listened to these loser males. They hate a woman who has confidence and women who know their worth.

If you are a guy and she has divorced you…keep your head held high.

Become a happy, successful, and BACHELOR of a man.

Women of worth will see who you are and want to be with you.

To a narc female, this will crush her worth.

Never Give Up Being Who You Are

Narcs and flying monkeys are CHARACTERLESS people. They have no character.

This is why they focus so much on their image.

They have no path in life, so they are always trying to jump on someone’s path and keep you stuck with them.

Did I mention how much of a loser these people are?

The world is full of narcs who are all a bunch of needy kidults.

The best way to get back at them is not an eye for an eye. Or to fight fire with fire.

The best way to get back at them is NOT to NEED THEM. Become self-reliant and live life on your terms without them.

By becoming the best version of yourself WITHOUT them in your life, you reveal to them; THEY WERE THE ONES NOT GOOD ENOUGH FOR YOU. 

And your great life, without them, will prove this.

Struggling With C-PTSD?

I often say that living with a narcissist is like living in a war zone! This comparison may very well seem hyperbolic, but research has shown that living around narcissists can have the same effects on a person’s mind as people living in a war zone!

I wrote an article describing the “10+ Mental Illnesses Caused By Staying With Narcissists“.

These people are monsters, plain and simple.

If you are struggling with emotional flashbacks, dealing with mental and emotional battles that NO ONE but yourself seems to see and feel, and if you find it hard to get out of bed every day, you may be dealing with C-PTSD.

As great as support groups may be, or as profound as articles can be, they are no substitute for professional help. 

Sometimes the best way to heal and move forward is with therapy.

Speaking with someone and getting the hurt off your chest is a great way to unload.

Online Therapy is a site that offers visitors the chance to speak with professional therapists who will be able to help you get through your emotional and psychological battles.

If you sign up with my link, you can get 20% off your first month’s session.

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