The 5 Step Process To Ignoring A Narcissist
It is very important to be able to ignore a narcissist and move on with your life. Narcissists are attention fiends. These are people who NEED ATTENTION; otherwise, in the lunatic minds, they will disappear somehow.
And yes, I know that we are all sociable creatures. We are social animals.
I get that.
But reasonable and mature people can deal with someone moving on with their lives.
Hell, I have been in love with females before, and they weren’t interested or moved on after we broke up and I UNDERSTOOD.
There was no stalking — no crying and wallowing around for them to take me back.
It was, “it was fun while it lasted, and I respected their right to live their lives WITHOUT ME.”
Now, I know some may disagree, and that is fine.
But narcissists take things to the extreme, and they WILL stalk, harass and send their flying monkeys after you.
Life with a narcissist will NEVER be a fairy tale.
It will only be a nightmare.
If you are tired of the chaos, the drama, the insanity, and the sheer irrationality of the narcissist and want to move on finally, then this is the article for you.
We get ONE LIFE.
ONE LIFE TO LIVE.
Stop wasting this precious gift on a troll.
Live your life for you and be unapologetic about it.
Here are five steps you will need to follow to properly and effectively ignore the narcissist in your life.
The 5 Step Process To Ignoring A Narcissist
Step # 1 – Do Not Feed The Beast: Ignoring Them KILLS THEM
You have to KNOW THIS!
Narcs NEED ATTENTION like we need air to live.
These people are such drama queens. Attention is their life force.
When we deny them our attention, we effectively take away their substances to survive.
They are people who cannot stand being alone. They cannot stand being by themselves.
Much like evil cannot stand looking at itself, so too are narcissistic people.
When you stop feeding the beast, they will be forced to starve, and like the parasites they are, they will shrivel up and fade away.
NO CONTACT and ignoring them is the greatest revenge that we can have on them.
We don’t engage with them and live our lives the way we did before we met them.
Step # 2 – Remove Everything They Ever Gave You From Your Life: Detox Time
This step is crucial. You must remove everything that the narc may have ever given you (they may have done this during the love-bombing stage).
Hanging on to their stuff may cause you to think about them positively.
And you have to understand that the person they were when you met was NOTHING MORE THAN A FACADE.
Get rid of anything that reminds you of that false person. They never existed.
Step # 3 – Learn Something New
Placing your attention and focus on something NEW will help you to stop thinking about the narc.
One of the primary reasons why so many of us find it hard to move on and forget the narc is because of the harm they caused us.
And that is why they hurt us. They want us always to remember them.
However, by focusing on something new or something you have always had an interest in, you will discover that your thinking will change.
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Step # 4 – Meet New People…BUT TAKE IT SLOW
Meet new people. There are still good people out there. By living as a hermit and allowing the narcissist to make you think that all people are not to be trusted, you give them what they want.
There are still many good people out there. So go out there and try and meet them.
Of course, you will want to take it slow. But it is important to see the good in others so that you don’t wind up becoming cynical.
Step # 5 – Join A Support Group
Lastly, join a support group.
Ignoring and kicking a narc out of your life is, sadly, like kicking a drug.
These people are toxic, and they can make us want to go back to them despite all the negative things they put us through.
Reach out to a support group or a talk to a therapist.
You don’t need to do this alone.
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The best revenge is learning all over to BE HAPPY.