Stop Crying For The Moon…Wanting The”I’m Sorry”
An apology can do more for our healing process than making as much money as we ever dreamed of, having the best therapy sessions, or even entering into a new loving relationship.
Simply hearing “I’m Sorry,” hearing the admittance of wrongdoings, and just having them (the narcs) behave like adults and admit “I did you wrong” can heal in SOOOO MANY WAYS!
We live in a world where we are told to “GET OVER IT,” that we need to move on.
But it can be hard to move on when someone has taken SO MUCH FROM YOU.
Money and material things are one thing, but when you take time away (something you can never get back), when you take away someone’s ability to trust in others and IN THEMSELVES, and when you damage someone’s perception of the world…” just moving on” is not the easiest thing to do.
Narcissistic people, D*MN IF THEY HAVE A DISORDER, have no right to cause the harm that they do.
And it is this realization that they hurt us and get away with it that causes the healing process to slow down or even come to a complete halt.
The feelings of being used and the thoughts of being manipulated make us feel as if we are stupid for not seeing the red flags…or for some of us, ignoring the red flag.
Love has a very powerful effect on the rational mind.
It hurts being used by a narc and thrown away as if we are just trash.
Believe me…I know!
But I also know that they will NEVER APOLOGIZE — or at least do so sincerely.
Every day that we spend hoping, praying, and wishing they would say those two words, are days we are torturing ourselves.
They will never apologize to us…and that is okay — because we do not need their apology!
Stop Crying For The Moon…Wanting The”I m Sorry”
Nothing frightens me as much as this idea — that I will look back and regret on my deathbed!
Regret NOT doing the things I did, but regret wasting my life away wishing someone outside myself would show me I mattered and that my feelings mattered.
There can be no greater feeling of shame and regret than but to be on my deathbed and to look back and see how many years, decades of my life, I wasted WAITING FOR AN APOLOGY that was never going to come.
This is a sad and scary death that pushes me to keep moving forward.
The narcissistic people in my life have done me so wrong when all I did was try and help them.
But to spend my life waiting, wanting, and needing the apology only serves to rob me, each day, of a day of happiness, joy, and self-improvement.
What Does Crying For The Moon Mean?
“Crying For The Moon“- to make an impractical or unreasonable request, especially one unlikely to happen.
I use the expression “crying for the moon” to illustrate better what wishing for an apology for the narc is like.
As much as we may wish we could have the moon in our hands, crying about it will never make that a reality.
And as much as we may cry over what the narc did and cry, hoping for the apology — will not bring the apology.
Narcissistic people will never acknowledge the wrongs they did. But that is okay.
Let them waste their life trying to find someone to fill that bottomless black hole of sadness and worthlessness that is their hearts.
We have hearts made of gold; precious material.
Know this, that the best way to get back at the narc and to show them you don’t need their apology to be happy and prosperous to live your best life as possible.
Focus on being the person they said you could never be. Focus on having the life they so worked hard to keep you from having. And focus on having a loving and healthy relationship.
Look inside yourself and remind yourself that YOU are loveable, despite the lies and gaslighting of the narc and their legion of fools.
Their apology may be orbiting thought that revolves around your thinking mind.
But inside you is a star that orbits the infinitesimal potentiality that COULD BE your future self…if you but would stay focus on YOUR LIFE!
What is a moon to a star?
What is a star to a galaxy?
And what is a galaxy to a universe?
Stop crying for the moon when you have a UNIVERSE within yourself to explore!
Struggling With C-PTSD?
I often say that living with a narcissist is like living in a war zone! This comparison may very well seem hyperbolic, but research has shown that living around narcissists can have the same effects on a person’s mind as people living in a war zone!
I wrote an article describing the “10+ Mental Illnesses Caused By Staying With Narcissists“.
These people are monsters, plain and simple.
If you are struggling with emotional flashbacks, dealing with mental and emotional battles that NO ONE but yourself seems to see and feel, and if you find it hard to get out of bed every day, you may be dealing with C-PTSD.
As great as support groups may be, or as profound as articles can be, they are no substitute for professional help.
Sometimes the best way to heal and move forward is with therapy.
Speaking with someone and getting the hurt off your chest is a great way to unload.
Online Therapy is a site that offers visitors the chance to speak with professional therapists who will be able to help you get through your emotional and psychological battles.
If you sign up with my link, you can get 20% off your first month’s session.