Start Saying Yes To You & No To The World
You know it’s quite the spectacle to watch, once your eyes have been open, the level of entitlement that most people have in life.
Most people are mediocre, less than mediocre, yet they have this twisted and irrational sense that they are just OWED something or/and EVERYTHING in life.
The reason they are poor is because of the system.
Life is hard for them because of some cosmic being that is hellbent focused on destroying their lives, i.e., Satan, Lucifer, Beelzebub, or whatever the hell you want to call it!
They are a failure in life because the world is against them — and ONLY them!
These people, most often, are some subset of narcissists!
When all goes wrong in their less than mediocre life, they blame everything and EVERYONE they can.
Because hell if they take responsibility for their action!
They never learn how to deal with the hardships of life because they never grow up beyond the mental and psychological age of 6 years old; this is why I call them kidults!
And because they are kidults, they have this illogical notion that “I deserve everything and people should always say ‘YES’ to me!”
If you really want to hurt an entitled narcissist, all you need to do is start saying “YES” to you and “NO” to them.
This will crush them on a massive level!
Start Saying No To Them: This Is How You Hurt An Entitled Narcissist
Before I continue — let me state that I am not advocating that you go out and be a dick or douche!
Because heaven knows that the world is not lacking in either of those types of characters.
But more so, I am trying to show you the POWER of what saying NO has — and what it does to the narcissist and what it does for you.
As empaths or just mature, rational, and reasonable adults (because not everyone is an Empath), we have this notion that saying NO to people is mean and, I guess, uncalled for!
We feel as if we deny someone something.
And although there is some truth in this logic, why is that a bad thing?
Why must we sacrifice something of ourselves for someone who will not do the same for us?
Saying NO is a power that we must learn to cultivate…because it gives us the ability to set boundaries.
It gives us the POWER to be firm in our positions.
It plants our character deep in our hearts and minds.
The most successful people you will ever meet in life are people who know how to say NO!
But most importantly, it breaks any subtle conditioning tactics that a narcissist may be trying to enact on you.
On my journey of life, I have noticed how narcissist who wants me to do something or be something to them would always throw a hissy fit when I would say “No, I can’t do that” or say “S***y I am busy” (I don’t say S***y anymore as I do find that to be a self-esteem killer — as we are made to feel crappy about who we are, but more about that in another post)!
When you say “NO” to a narcissist, what you are doing is:
- Showing them they have NO CONTROL over your life.
- Show them you have boundaries that will NOT be crossed.
- Show them that you have character, and believe me, to a person who has no character, a person who has character is like a sun to a vampire — they will not be able to handle out beams of light!
- It hurts them on a psychological and even physical level — it is well known that being rejected or ignored lights the brain’s areas where the pain is located. Ignoring a narc’s needs is literally causing them pain. And rejecting a narcissist is like setting them on fire (This is why people say, “You got BURNED when you get rejected)!
The last one is something you really need to absorb as many people so desperately want to get back (revenge) at the narc!
But the best revenge is to walk away and live your life as if you never met them. It reminds them of how WORTHLESS they really are!
And they are worthless people. This is not a knock, but a truth.
This is why they need so many people to validate their worth because they know by themselves they are NOTHING!
And this is another reason why they seek to destroy and tear down.
“If I can’t have it or be like you, I will destroy you.”
Start Saying YES To Yourself
You, more than anyone else, are deserving of your own love.
But I think so many people have been so conditioned and so manipulated into believing they need others to see their value to be worth anything!
As MEN, nothing is more desirable to a woman than to see a self-sufficient man and who really needs NO ONE to be happy.
It’s that sense of “I got my life in my hands” that is appealing to women because they believe that that mindset can somehow rub off on them.
Women who can say YES to themselves show men that they will not be clingy. Nothing is more of a turn-off for most guys than to have a woman SUFFOCATE THEM with their neediness!
Saying YES to yourself is NOT saying “I don’t need anyone”…it’s about saying, “I place myself first in my life without having to step on others.”
This is the difference if you think that this is narcissistic.
Narcissists put themselves first but do so by knocking others down and stepping on them to feel superior.
We put ourselves first without having to do that.
It’s about trying to make ourselves happy without intentionally hurting others, but if we do, that is not our wish or desire — but it is what it is, and we MUST cultivate this mindset!
Many people have LOST years, DECADES of their lives because they said YES to the narc when they wanted to say NO!
They said NO to themselves and their own happiness and said YES to the narc and their own sadness.
The world owes you NOTHING, and likewise, you owe the WORLD NOTHING.
Start saying NO to things that make you sad, angry, upset, frustrated, that causes you anxiety, depression, and insomnia, and start saying YES to things that bring you joy, happiness, pleasure, a drive to strive and grow, and that just make you a better person in life.
We get ONE SHOT AT LIFE — stop giving your life to someone who just wants to destroy it.
Say NO to the world and start saying YES to the UNIVERSE of possibility that is yourself!
You can be anything you want to be as soon as you stop being everything to everyone else!
Struggling With C-PTSD?
I often say that living with a narcissist is like living in a war zone! This comparison may very well seem hyperbolic, but research has shown that living around narcissists can have the same effects on a person’s mind as people living in a war zone!
I wrote an article describing the “10+ Mental Illnesses Caused By Staying With Narcissists“.
These people are monsters, plain and simple.
If you are struggling with emotional flashbacks, dealing with mental and emotional battles that NO ONE but yourself seems to see and feel, and if you find it hard to get out of bed every day, you may be dealing with C-PTSD.
As great as support groups may be, or as profound as articles can be, they are no substitute for professional help.
Sometimes the best way to heal and move forward is with therapy.
Speaking with someone and getting the hurt off your chest is a great way to unload.
Online Therapy is a site that offers visitors the chance to speak with professional therapists who will be able to help you get through your emotional and psychological battles.
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