Don’t Try Loving A Narcissist
So, you can spend the rest of your life trying to please a narcissist, but in my experience, it was the biggest regret of my life.
I wasted eleven precious years of my life, loving a person unconditionally, who was incapable of even being a decent human being.
I hope you take the advice of others and step away from the situation.
Get your mind clear, educate yourself and get help. It’s a horrible existence. And if I can just keep one person from wasting their life and years, then writing my story is worth it.
I’m free now and I am learning to love me again and I’m truly happy…I have a wonderful life. I’m alone, but I’m not in pain anymore.
I found happiness in myself, my family, my truest dearest friends, and God. The process is still ongoing every day.
After 11 years, it took over 2 years to stop crying, asking why and wondering what I did so wrong?
What did I do to deserve being treated so disrespectfully?
Then I stumbled onto an article about narcissism.
I realized that it wasn’t all me, not 100%. I took some responsibility for allowing the mistreatment, about 40%, but the other 60% was in no way my fault. That was what freed me, liberated me and allowed me to look at life differently.
I didn’t have a terminal illness. I didn’t have a serious accident or injury, that left me incapable of doing the things in life I love.
What I had was a relationship with a narcissist. That couldn’t be cured. That couldn’t be fixed.
So…when he terminated the relationship…
I accepted that it was over.
I slowly, painfully, moved on one day, one hour, one minute at a time.
After two years, I’m lonely at times, still single and scared to date because I still have moments of being scared to death of dating another narcissist.
But…I am at peace.
I can laugh again.
I’m starting to see the value in myself again. I hope to one day be whole again.
That’s how I did it. Letting go of what was and focus on what is to be.
Whatever that might be. All I can say is that being alone is much better than living a lie and living in constant confusion, anxiety, uncertainty, and pain.
Good luck to you and God bless. It does get better.
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