4 Signs of Narcissistic Collapse
When a narcissist experiences a major life setback, they often react in one of two ways: with narcissistic rage or narcissistic injury. Narcissistic rage is a reaction to feelings of powerlessness and is often characterized by an angry outburst.
Narcissistic injury, on the other hand, is a reaction to feelings of shame and is often characterized by withdrawal. In either case, the narcissist’s ego has been damaged and they are struggling to cope.
When this happens, they will experience a narcissistic collapse.
What Is Narcissistic Personality Disorder
NPD is a mental disorder that is described by an exaggerated sense of self-significance, a need for excessive attention and respect, and a lack of empathy for others.
People with NPD often have a grandiose view of themselves and believe that they are superior to others.
They may require constant praise and approval and can become easily upset or enraged when they don’t receive it. Lack of empathy, exploitativeness, and entitlement are also common symptoms.
NPD affects both men and women, though it is more commonly diagnosed in men. It is estimated to affect 1-2% of the population. The cause of NPD is unknown, but it is believed to be a combination of genetic and environmental factors. Treatment for NPD typically involves therapy and medication.
There are several types of narcissists:
- Grandiose narcissists
- Covert narcissists
- Classical narcissists
- Communal narcissists
Narcissist Try To Protect Their False Self
Narcissists have a false sense of self that they work hard to protect. They do this by putting up a wall around themselves and only letting certain people in. They can be very charming and convincing, but it’s all an act. Deep down, they’re insecure and scared that people will see the real them.
If you’re in a relationship with a narcissist, you may have noticed that they take criticism very personally. They can’t handle even the slightest bit of negative feedback. This is because their false self is fragile and can’t withstand any type of criticism.
If you suspect that someone you know is a narcissist, there are some telltale signs to look for.
What Is A Narcissistic Rage?
A Narcissistic Rage is an intense emotional reaction to a perceived slight, criticism, or disagreement. It is characterized by anger, resentment, and sometimes violence.
Narcissists are very sensitive to criticism and feel threatened by any disagreement. They see any challenge to their beliefs or authority as a personal attack. This can trigger a Narcissistic Rage, which is usually disproportionate to the situation.
Narcissistic Rage can be destructive and even dangerous. It is important to understand what triggers it and how to deal with it.
What Is A Narcissistic Collapse?
A narcissistic collapse is a type of mental breakdown that can occur in people with a narcissistic personality disorder. Symptoms of the collapsed narcissist include feeling worthless, helpless, and hopeless.
In severe cases, a person may experience delusions and hallucinations. Treatment for a narcissistic collapse typically includes psychotherapy and medication.
Early signs of narcissistic collapse
Early signs of narcissistic collapse can include:
- a decrease in self-esteem
- feelings of emptiness and hopelessness
- intense sadness
- impulsive behavior
- isolation from friends and family
- substance abuse
- compulsive gambling
- eating disorders
- risky sexual behavior
- lost control over emotions
- reckless driving
Narcissistic collapse can also lead to anxiety, depression, and suicidal thoughts or behaviors. If you or someone you know is exhibiting these signs, it is important to seek professional help as soon as possible.
1 – Excessive Drinking
When a narcissist experiences a narcissistic collapse, they may engage in excessive drinking. This is because they are trying to cope with the overwhelming feelings of shame and insecurity that come with their collapse.
They may also drink excessively in an attempt to numb themselves from the pain of their collapse. Narcissists who engage in excessive drinking often end up worsening their condition and causing more damage to themselves and those around them.
2 – Substance Use
When a narcissistic individual experiences a collapse, substance use is often a coping mechanism. This can be because narcissists often have difficulty dealing with difficult emotions and situations.
When a narcissist is faced with a difficult situation, they may turn to alcohol or drugs to numb themselves from the pain.
This can lead to further problems, as substance abuse can make a narcissistic collapse even worse.
3 – Increased Irritability
When someone with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) experiences a collapse, they may seem more irritable than usual. This is because their sense of self-worth and grandiosity have been shattered, and they are struggling to cope with the resulting feelings of insecurity and vulnerability.
The four main types of narcissistic collapse
1 – Erratic and Non-Typical Behavior: Intense Lashing Out
When a person with narcissistic personality disorder experiences a stressor or setback, they may have what is known as a narcissistic collapse. This can lead to erratic and non-typical behavior, including intense lashing out.
A narcissistic personality disorder is a mental disorder that is characterized by an inflated sense of self-importance, a need for excessive attention and admiration, and a lack of empathy for others. People with this disorder often believe they are better than others and deserve special treatment.
2 – Increased Sensitivity Toward the Narcissistic supply
Narcissistic people are very sensitive to any changes in the availability of their narcissistic supply. If they feel that someone is no longer providing them with the attention and admiration they need, they may become angry and withdrawn.
People who are in relationships with narcissists often find themselves walking on eggshells, never quite knowing what will trigger their partner’s anger. It can be exhausting trying to keep up with a narcissist’s demands for attention and admiration.
3 – Manipulation Tactics Like the Silent Treatment or Ghosting
When it comes to relationships, narcissistic people can be extremely manipulative. They may use tactics like silent treatment or ghosting to control and manipulate their partner.
Silent treatment is when someone deliberately ignores or refuses to communicate with another person. It can be a form of emotional abuse, as it can be used to punish, control, or manipulate the other person.
Ghosting is when someone abruptly cuts off all communication with another person without any explanation. It can be hurtful and frustrating, especially if you were in a committed relationship with the person who is doing it.
4 – Self Harm That Can Lead To Suicide
Narcissistic people are at a higher risk for suicide because they often have a difficult time coping with criticism and rejection. They may also feel like they are not good enough or that they do not deserve to live.
They may also use the act of committing suicide to control the empath. They know that empaths are caring people and the idea of someone committing suicide because of the empath, is incredibly painful to empaths.
The Causes of Narcissistic Collapse
1 – Experiences a Failure
Narcissists are brought down by their sense of entitlement. They believe that they are better than others and deserve special treatment. This sense of entitlement leads them to make demands that are impossible to meet.
When they don’t get what they want, they become angry and aggressive. When they receive a failure, they lose their minds.
Their behavior eventually causes them to lose the support of those around them. This leads to a feeling of isolation and loneliness, which can trigger a narcissistic collapse.
2 – Humiliated
Humiliation is the experience of having one’s personal flaws or shortcomings exposed to others. For someone with a narcissistic personality, this can be devastating. The loss of their carefully crafted confident image can trigger a range of negative emotions, including shame, anger, and anxiety.
In some cases, the humiliation may be so severe that it leads to a complete breakdown (also known as narcissistic collapse). This can happen when the narcissist is faced with a major life change or challenge that they can’t control or manipulate.
3 – When Their Mask Has Fallen
Narcissists are often lauded for their boldness, their confidence, and their seemingly unshakeable sense of self. But what happens when the mask that they’ve so carefully crafted falls away?
The causes of a narcissistic collapse can be many and varied. Sometimes it’s due to a loss of power or status. Other times, it may be the result of a relationship ending or some other major life stressor.
Whatever the cause, the effect is always the same: complete and utter devastation. For those who have built their entire lives around being “perfect,” the fall can be especially hard for a collapsed narcissist recover.
How to deal with a narcissist in a collapse
1 – Stop Caring About Their Child-Like Feelings
It’s not your job to care for a narcissist’s childlike feelings. It’s quite the opposite.
If you’re in a relationship with a narcissist, you know that they can be selfish, demanding, and even cruel. But what you may not realize is that their behavior is often motivated by deep insecurity and fear of abandonment.
In times of stress or crisis, the narcissist may become even more withdrawn and self-centered. They may lash out at you or try to manipulate you into caring for them.
But it’s important to remember that you are not responsible for their well-being. You cannot ‘fix’ them or make them feel better. The best thing you can do is set boundaries and take care of yourself.
2 – Let Them Suffer In Their Own Drama
It’s no secret that narcissists love drama. They are always the center of attention and they thrive on making other people suffer. So, what do you do when you’re stuck with a narcissist in a collapse?
Here are some tips:
- Don’t try to reason with them. Narcissists are not reasonable people. They will only use your logic against you.
- Don’t try to help them. Narcissists only care about themselves. They will not appreciate your help and they will only use you as a tool to further their own agenda.
- Don’t get drawn into their drama. Narcissists love to drag other people into their messes. It gives them a sense of power and control. Just walk away and let them deal with their own drama.
- Keep your distance.
3 – Walk Away From Them
Walking away from a narcissist is not easy, but it is possible. Here are three things to keep in mind if you find yourself in a relationship with a narcissist:
- Know that you are not alone. Narcissistic relationships are more common than you might think.
- Understand that narcissists are expert manipulators. They will try to control you and make you feel guilty for wanting to leave them.
- Have a support system in place. Talk to friends or family members who can help you through this difficult time.
You don’t have to be their rescue! Let them collapse while you build your life back up.
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I have been married to a Narssisist for 35 years. Just realized a year ago his behaviour could be labeled. A daughter in law was divorced by her narc. Who is my Husband’s son. So I began informed searching. My spouse fits all definitions of this ….I got the book about loving a Narsissist. It has he?ped me tremendously as I do not plan to leave at 85 years old. He is 92 and surely will never change? I have had 20 years of Alanon and that is my therapy! My childrens father was an alcoholic. I did not jump right back into marriage, I was single 7 years in recovery after divorce. But I can see now how I really fell for that groom ing techn ique
by a NARC. It lasted about 5 years. Then he shared some personal sex things with his grown granddaughter! I was humiliated! Couldn’t figure out why? Now we are aged…..I see that h is Supply is now food instead of sex. So since I have been a good cook he keeps me so he will eat well. What happens when I get tired of cooking?