Sexual narcissism occurs when one partner in a relationship becomes obsessed with their sexual gratification, often at the expense of their partner’s pleasure. This can be a difficult problem to overcome, as it can be hard for narcissists to see beyond their own needs.
What Is Sexual Narcissism?
Sexual narcissism is a specific type of narcissism that revolves around a person’s sexuality and sexual conquests.
Sexual narcissists are fixated on themselves and their own needs and desires. They see sex as a way to get what they want, regardless of who it may hurt. They are often charming and seductive, making them hard to resist. But beneath the surface, they lack empathy and care only about themselves.
If you’re in a relationship with a sexual narcissist, you may feel used, unimportant, or even worthless. They may also feel you can never measure up to their previous partners or meet their needs.
Signs Of A Sexual Narcissist?
- Believes they deserve sex anytime they want it
- Expects sex in return for giving you gifts
- Tricks people into having sex
- Only cares about their satisfaction
- Think they have superior sex skills
- Throw temper tantrums when they are denied sex
- Hate that others are having more and better sex
1 – Believes they deserve sex
There’s a type of person who believes they deserve sex, no matter what. They might be single or in a relationship – it doesn’t matter. If they want sex, they feel entitled to it. This entitlement can lead to some pretty unhealthy behavior.
This type of person is often called a sexual narcissist. They’re focused on their own needs and desires and don’t care about anyone else’s. If their partner isn’t up for sex, the sexual narcissist will often do it anyway.
This can be harmful to both partners in a relationship. It can create a feeling of powerlessness and resentment in the person being coerced into sex. And it can damage the trust between partners.
2 – Expects sex in return for giving you gifts
The sexual narcissist will expect their partner(s) to give them sex anytime after they have done something nice for them.
They view giving gifts or helping someone out as a means that we now “owe them” something.
This is one reason why they can lovebomb people. In their mind, “I am giving you so much, you will HAVE TO give me what I want.”
3 – Will trick someone into having sex
These narcissists are not too dissimilar from any other narcissists out there. They have no qualms about lying to get what they want from a person.
They will coerce, gaslight, manipulate, or project to a victim to get sex from them — and this is to be expected from someone like them.
They are addicts in every sense of the word.
4 – Only cares about their satisfaction in the bed
When it comes to the bedroom, they only focus on themselves. Getting off is their main objective; your needs and desires are nonexistent.
5 – Think they have superior sex skills
Much like any narcissist, they have “delusions of grandeur.”
Sexual narcissist’s “delusion of grandeur“:
- THEY have the biggest “general.”
- THEY have the best hip movement
- THEY give the best head…aches
- THEY are the best kissers
- THEY are the best touchers
- THEY have the best bodies
- THEY have the best butt
All the while, they may be mediocre at best.
6 – Throw temper tantrums when you don’t give them sex
It is not uncommon for these kidults to throw temper tantrums when you do not feel like giving them what they want.
7 – Hate that others are having more and better sex than them
Like the “scarcity-minded” idiots they are, they HATE with a passion that other people are getting sex and may be having better sex than they are getting. They are such losers.
What Do Narcissists Want Sexually?
These narcissists desire several things in the bedroom, depending on what type of narcissist you are dealing with. Some want to have orgies, some want to be dominated in the bedroom, and some want to get off. Some may even crave sex with their family members.
F.A.Q
Do narcissists have many sexual partners?
According to a new study, the answer is yes. Narcissists are more likely to have had more sexual partners than non-narcissists.
The findings suggest that narcissists are more promiscuous than others. Narcissists may be attracted to the thrill of new conquests and the attention that comes with having multiple sexual partners.
Can a narcissist go without sex?
Most likely, the answer is no. Sex is like a drug to these people, and because so many of them lack any emotional regulation, they will do anything and everything to get it.
Do narcissists stop having sex?
Yes. When they become old and worm out. This is when they become the most bitter in life.
Will a narcissist come back for sex?
They absolutely will. They will try and hoover you to supply them once again. In their minds, they honestly believe that they own you.
Do narcissists like to be dominated in bed?
Some do. Usually, covert narcissists are the ones who would like this to happen to them, as they are the ones who are less aggressive with their narcissistic antics. They are very passive-aggressive and seek for others to provide for them and do for them.
Final Thoughts
It is important to be informed about sexual narcissism to protect yourself from its potentially harmful effects; sexual narcissist abuse is a thing.
If you think you may be in a relationship with a sexual narcissist, it is essential to seek professional help. Remember, you are not alone, and there is help available.
Check out this sexual narcissism scale to see if the person you are with is a sexual narcissist.
