The Narcissism Of Sacrificial Love

The Narcissism Of Sacrificial Love

The Narcissism Of Sacrificial Love

Sacrificial love is love that parasitic people feed on. It is the love that parasitic people search out for in others. It is a love that is a narcissist’s major source of fuel and supply to keep their small little egos satiated!

Many of us, who have been profoundly negatively affected by a narcissist — who has wallowed and stumbled their way into our lives, have been grossly miseducated.

We have been taught that true love is sacrifice. That if you love someone that you must give a little bit of who you are for that person.

Compromise” is the word that so many of us have become accustomed to saying and hearing. We have allowed this word to become a mainstay in our relational vernacular.

This is why so many of us stay MUCH LONGER with the narcissist than reason would have allowed us to otherwise!

This is why being conscious of what we say and what we say to ourselves is very important!

Sacrificing who you are for someone else’s happiness is NOT A VIRTUE!

Sadly, many people have been conditioned to believe this way.

The Narcissism Of Sacrificial Love

“If you really love me, you would do X.”

“See, you don’t love me because if you did, then you would do Y.”

“My mother said you were no good. I should have dated/married Z, they would have no problem doing what I want or giving me what I want.”

This idea of sacrificing a little bit of who you are time and time again is NOT MORAL. It is NOT virtuous. And it is NOT LOVE.

Love never requires that you give up who you are — but that you help to add more value to the person because of who you.

Let me repeat that!

Love never requires that you give up who you are — but that you help to add more value to the person because of who you.

Love is inspiring; it is uplifting; it is improving oneself and their partner simply by having the presence of each other in the company!

Narcissistic Parasites feed on the light, the joy, the happiness, the character, the charisma, the self aura of others like a mosquito feeds on a living host for sustenance.

Because these parasites cannot create anything of value, they cannot achieve anything worthwhile, and they can never BECOME anyone worth mentioning — like a slug, leech, or parasite that lives in infested waters, symbiotically attach themselves to those whom their primitive minds, views as a great lover (A HOST)!

The Narcissism Of Sacrificial Love: They Will Suck The Years From Your Life And Still Never Be Happy

Sacrificial Love

These parasites — and I know the name may seem harsh and a bit crude — but the truth is that this is what they are…Parasites.

Emotional vampires who feed on the good hearts, minds, and characters of other people to satiate their livelihood.

These are the women who marry a man for money. These are the guys who find a girl who likes them and damages her because he is scared to lose her.

The politicians play on the hearts and minds of the “less privileged.”

“Oh! Look how hard I work on your behalf. I work so hard for you. Sacrifice so much for you. Now vote for me.”

Yeah, they work so hard…so hard to keep people deluded and gaslighted!

Narcissists will keep you around for months, years to decades, constantly leech off you, and make you feel bad to satiate their sociopathic pleasures.

And because so many of us have been so miseducated, we believe that it is OUR job to sacrifice a bit of our happiness for them.

We play small so that they feel big.

We dumb down our intelligence so as not to make them feel stupid.

And we become less attractive so as not to make them feel less appealing!

Tell me, what sense of good do we do for ourselves, our friends, our family, and the world we inhabit by playing less than to make a fool fill big about themselves?

A fool whom history will not even recognize or acknowledge!

Sacrificial love is a disgusting manipulative tactic used by these parasites to continue to leech off of good and honest people.

“I can’t do something great, and you hurt my feelings when you do great things and don’t allow me to bask in your greatness.”

These parasites are LOSERS.

Stop Being Their Sacrificial Lamb

Sacrificial Love

I wrote an article titled “It Is Not Your Job To Be The Narc’s “Hero”and I express in the article how foolish it is for us to stay and continue to be sacrificial lambs to these wolves in sheep clothes. To be Jesuses to these judases.

“This idea of an empath being a sacrificial lamb or some “JESUS” to these “JUDAS” is a ludicrous idea.”

Unfortunately, these people had a bad childhood (as if they are the only ones to have one), it is unfortunate that they just can’t seem to get a break (go whine to me after reading Victor Frankel’s “Man’s Search for Meaning”), it is unfortunate that life is hard for them (because life is only hard for THEM and no one else) — what sense, what right do they have to YOUR HAPPINESS, YOUR DREAMS, YOUR GOALS, and YOUR SANITY?

The answer is none.


Walk away and start giving yourself the same amount of love you gave to them, and you will start to see how much better life can be!

“Man—every man—is an end in himself, not a means to the ends of others; he must live for his own sake, neither sacrificing himself to others nor sacrificing others to himself; he must work for his rational self-interest, with the achievement of his happiness as the highest moral purpose of his life.” – Ayn Rand

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Struggling With C-PTSD?

I often say that living with a narcissist is like living in a war zone! This comparison may very well seem hyperbolic, but research has shown that living around narcissists can have the same effects on a person’s mind as people living in a war zone!

I wrote an article describing the “10+ Mental Illnesses Caused By Staying With Narcissists“.

These people are monsters, plain and simple.

If you are struggling with emotional flashbacks, dealing with mental and emotional battles that NO ONE but yourself seems to see and feel, and if you find it hard to get out of bed every day, you may be dealing with C-PTSD.

As great as support groups may be, or as profound as articles can be, they are no substitute for professional help. 

Sometimes the best way to heal and move forward is with therapy.

Speaking with someone and getting the hurt off your chest is a great way to unload.

Online Therapy is a site that offers visitors the chance to speak with professional therapists who will be able to help you get through your emotional and psychological battles.

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