“I will hurt you for this. I don’t know how yet, but give me time. A day will come when you think yourself safe and happy, and suddenly your joy will turn to ashes in your mouth, and you’ll know the debt is paid.”― George R.R. Martin, A Clash Of Kings
Why The Narcissist Seeks Revenge
Revenge is for many an all-consuming thought. To be wronged by someone unjustly and to want to get back at the people who wronged us can be an enticing feel.
It feels as if we have somehow vindicated ourselves and made things right in the universe.
I would be lying if I said revenge is not a sweet emotion!
Especially if you can achieve it and succeed!
But it is without a doubt one of the most toxic emotions we have, as it erodes the minds, becomes the totality of our thinking, and stifles, if not sets us back, our progression in life.
People can conspire YEARS TO DECADES of their lives trying to get revenge on someone.
Now, of course, revenge is not so finite in its categories of wrongs.
Meaning, if someone murdered a loved one of yours and gets off scot-free in the legal system — revenge and justice would then seem to go hand and hand if you seek that person out who murdered your family member and who got away with the injustice.
But for many people, the common man, the ordinary LUNATIC that massacred around in society as a sane person, they seek revenge over the most trivial and most idiotic of reasons.
Why The Narcissist Seeks Revenge
“You didn’t smile at me this morning. I will show you!”
“You don’t look at me or think about me. I’ll show you what happens when people don’t think about me.”
These are the revenge thoughts of narcissists and petty people.
They look for — and I am on the fence if they consciously go out their way and look for drama for their pleasure or if they genuinely are just a slave to their kidult minds and see the world how their irrational minds present it to them — reasons to find revenge!
Revenge for some people is ALL THEY KNOW! It gives some people the drive to go on in life that they may very well deem boring!
When they cannot create something unique in their lives, and they cannot do wonderful things in life, the next best thing is to create chaos.
And revenge is such a boost to their petty egos!
Revenge, don’t get me wrong, can be a great feeling to have — but it is a very toxic emotion that I am aware of!
And I do believe that playing or engaging with vindictive people is just an invitation for a myriad of needless drama in your life.
Struggling With C-PTSD?
I often say that living with a narcissist is like living in a war zone! This comparison may very well seem hyperbolic, but research has shown that living around narcissists can have the same effects on a person’s mind as people living in a war zone!
I wrote an article describing the “10+ Mental Illnesses Caused By Staying With Narcissists“.
These people are monsters, plain and simple.
If you are struggling with emotional flashbacks, dealing with mental and emotional battles that NO ONE but yourself seems to see and feel, and if you find it hard to get out of bed every day, you may be dealing with C-PTSD.
As great as support groups may be, or as profound as articles can be, they are no substitute for professional help.
Sometimes the best way to heal and move forward is with therapy.
Speaking with someone and getting the hurt off your chest is a great way to unload.
Online Therapy is a site that offers visitors the chance to speak with professional therapists who will be able to help you get through your emotional and psychological battles.
If you sign up with my link, you can get 20% off your first month’s session.