Resent The Narcissist In Your Life
Resentment is such a wonderful feeling; isn’t it? Waking up with a headache. Having dreams about what you wish you could do to the narcissist.
Taking out your anger on the kids and close relatives. All of these amazing benefits are all thanks because you keep on resenting your narcissist.
Instead of learning how to reframe the past and see what you went through as a TRAINING to make you smarter, stronger, wiser, and better…let’s use that time to make you a victim. Because if we know anything about life and the way the world works, is that victims get ahead in life.
The “Oh! That’s so sad that happened to you“, never gets tired.
Well, only until it gets tired.
But I am sure you know that.
Resentment is such an amazing feeling.
Never having a good night’s rest.
Never being able to look yourself in the mirror.
Nevermore being able to just enjoy ONE SINGLE DAY.
Nevermore being able to sit through a movie and just relax and absorb what you are watching.
Never being able to just become a better person for your children.
And all because we resent instead of learning from what happened and trying to become a better person; for not only us — but our children as well.
Why be a HERO when you can be…a VICTIM?
Resent The Narcissist In Your Life: Do Their Job For Them
Perhaps my favorite aspect about resentment, until I foolishly moved on with my life to become my own boss, travel the world, help other people, become a hero to some people I have crossed in my life, continuing to improve myself and my life, and just BE HAPPY IN LIFE, is that resentment made me do the job for my narcissists.
They know longer had to trigger me with their words or actions. Just thinking about them through the power of resentment (“oh blessed is resentment, how great an emotion thou art?”) would give me a headache.
Prior to me, now, having dreams about continuing to improve, I use to have many vivid dreams of revenge — ONLY TO WAKE UP TO SEE IT WASN’T REAL.
And that would only fuel my anger even more.
And just when I thought I was happy! Silly me.
But I am sure many of you know that.
Because we are too stubborn to let go and move on WITH THIS ONE LIFE WE HAVE.
The narcissist took so much from us, so why not finish the job for them?
Why not give the narcissist more of our time, thoughts, energy, and most importantly our life?
I think that is a good wager, don’t you think?
Giving all this time to a person who only wants us to be as unhappy as we can.
Keep On Resenting Because That Is How You Win
You don’t win a war with a narcissist by moving on.
Moving on is RUNNING AWAY.
Becoming a better person is a silly idea.
Being happy with your life is a pipe dream; so get rid of that silly idea.
And letting go of the past will only keep you, somehow, in the past.
This will allow you to keep on replaying the bad scenario over and over and over and over and over and…you get the point.
Why in the world should you look at the past as a lesson that NEEDED to be learned to TRANSFORM YOU INTO A BETTER PERSON?
Why become someone stronger, wiser, better, more influential person in your community to inspire others?
And why should you EVER THINK YOU CAN BE A HERO instead of a victim?
Heroes are only forged through trials and tribulations.
Something I am sure none of us have ever been through.
No…it’s much better to be a victim than a hero.
It is much better to take out our anger on the kids, our friends, hell even the dog.
Dogs don’t have feelings. So it’s okay to hurt them.
And it is much better to sulk around for the next few decades we have instead of becoming better.
That…that is what life is all about.
So keep on resenting because it will (explicit) up your life.
DO NOT Keep On Resenting Your Narcissist
This was a spoof!
Listen, I know how you feel.
The wronged that you feel.
The idea that you went out of your way to HELP this person and they just…used you.
I know the pain that you feel, that you gave them so much — and in the end…they have no appreciation for what you sacrificed.
And I know how confused you are by their actions.
You think maybe it was something you said or did.
You are not the bad guy here.
Resentment at times feels like it is the only way to feel. That feeling is so powerful. It can at times feel all-consuming.
But I promise you this…that you are going to die someday.
And with your last breath in your final moment, you will look back at your life and regret ALL THE TIME YOU SPENT RESENTING.
I promise you, you are not the only one hurting.
I promise you, you are not the only one who has been used and manipulated.
And I promise you that…you can live a happier life.
I have been used and manipulated and it has been caught on camera and shared around the world.
People laugh. People talk. And people tease.
But do I quit?
I will set out to be and live the life that I want.
To resent them takes from you your attention to focus on growing and steals from you, time to which you can use to become your greatest version.
We have all been hurt in life.
And this is what causes a person to become villains to many.
But the best and strongest among us use their tragedy and hurt to forge them into…HEROES.
Be the person that you want your child to be. Be that hero to them…so that you can be that hero to yourself.
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No Shame In Therapy
Narcissistic people can do a wonder on someone’s mind and psychology.
In fact, I wrote an article called “10+ Mental Illnesses Caused By Staying With A Narcissists“.
The narcissists and their legion of fools can slowly drive you insane. And sometimes the best help you can ever receive is from a stranger.
When everyone around you is trying to convince you that YOU are the bad person, sometimes an objective view of you from someone you don’t know maybe what saves you from drowning in the sea of insanity the narc and their legion of fools try and drown you in.
Therapy can help heal in ways that reading blogs, listening to videos, and talking with other WARRIORS (we are not survivors, we are warriors) can ever do.
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Narcs have a legion of fools behind them to hurt you, I think it would be a good thing to build your own army of warriors and allies to help stand by your side.