Why People Who Harm Us Are People Who Hold Grudges The Most

Why People Who Harm Us Are People Who Hold Grudges The Most

Why People Who Harm Us Are People Who Hold Grudges The Most

“Grudges are for those who insist that they are owed something.” – Criss Jami 

It is strange, to be wronged by someone and then to be hated and have a grudge held against us for the wrongs THEY DID TO US!

Life is a constant teacher and a reminder that people in life are not playing with a full deck.

Most people aren’t playing with half a deck.

The emotional immaturity of people is astonishing.

Most people have the emotional maturity of a three-year-old and the mental capacity of a five-year-old, i.e., Kidults.

Much like a spoiled brat who does something wrong but is ashamed of doing what they did — they throw a hissy fit at the person they did wrong to.

Note: I have been published in a book called “Empathic Warriors Survival Stories“. If you are looking for a bit of inspiration feel free to give this book a read. 

Why People Who Harm Us Are People Who Hold Grudges The Most

People Who Hold Grudges

It is a shame of wronging someone that makes them hold a grudge.

Is it our fault they did wrong to us?


But in their irrational, immature, and backward minds, they get angry that they wronged us. And they get angrier that we don’t try and wrong them back.

Nothing shows toxic and negative people how disgusting a person they are — then but for them to harm us and to have us NOT trying to harm them back in the same manner.

What destroys people like this — is for us to be wronged and then for us to become even better people after the harm they did to us.

The best revenge, as Marcus Aurelius once said, “is to be unlike him who has done you the wrong.”

Struggling With C-PTSD?

I often say that living with a narcissist is like living in a war zone! This comparison may very well seem hyperbolic, but research has shown that living around narcissists can have the same effects on a person’s mind as people living in a war zone!

I wrote an article describing the “10+ Mental Illnesses Caused By Staying With Narcissists“.

These people are monsters, plain and simple.

If you are struggling with emotional flashbacks, dealing with mental and emotional battles that NO ONE but yourself seems to see and feel, and if you find it hard to get out of bed every day, you may be dealing with C-PTSD.

As great as support groups may be, or as profound as articles can be, they are no substitute for professional help. 

Sometimes the best way to heal and move forward is with therapy.

Speaking with someone and getting the hurt off your chest is a great way to unload.

Online Therapy is a site that offers visitors the chance to speak with professional therapists who will be able to help you get through your emotional and psychological battles.

If you sign up with my link, you can get 20% off your first month’s session.

Online Therapy

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Back to top