For many people, the idea of walking away from a narcissistic relationship can feel very much like a defeat. It can feel like we are letting people walk all over us. It is natural when we have been wronged to want to seek justice. It is natural for us to want to get revenge.
It can be one of the hardest challenges we will ever face in our lives; moving on. Moving on from an event that took so much of our time, our energy, our hopes, and dreams, but most importantly…ourselves.
How to heal after a narcissistic relationship can seem like it is an endeavor that will never happen. Quite often when we leave a narc (either by being discarded or of our own volition) we feel confused.
When a narcissist finds someone new, for many it can feel like we weren’t good enough. We can feel like our world is coming around us. And we can feel like we just want to be back in their lives because then our validation and worth will be back again.
Staying in narc relationship because of the children is something that many people do. There is a belief in society that kids need tow parents to have a strong and healthy upbringing. And although I do not oppose this idea, I would like to play devil’s advocate here.
Narcissists are nothing more than paper tigers. They are grown children playing it adult. They are the big kid on the playground. They are the three-year-old out of control. They are nothing more than immature children in grown adult bodies.