Narcissism & Fear: How To Scare A Narcissist
There is a misconception about narcissist in society. Many people believe that ALL narcissists are stuck up, vain, arrogant, and confident.
However, this is far from the truth.
Many narcissist are not as confident as they may appear to be. They may be vain, stuck up and arrogant — but these are NOT signs of a confident person.
These are all signs of a person who is lacking any self-esteem or emotional regulation.
As I often write in many of my articles, narcissistic people are kidults.
They meander around in life, believing that good things are just supposed to come to them.
So, like the entitled kidults they are, when they see someone who is amazing, and amazing by doing nothing more than being themselves, this angers, but also frightens, a narc.
They are forced to reflect upon themselves — and to a person who actively seeks to live a lie, this hurts them.
So what these LOSERS will do, is enter the life of the WINNER they see and try and tear them down.
They will first start by love-bombing the heck out of a person. This acts as a “Trojan Horse.” Now that they have entered the WINNER’s life, these losers’ next plan is to destroy that person’s life via entering it.
They win if they can get the person to be depressed, angry, vengeful, hurt, and shell of the former self.
They don’t fear vengeance because that will ultimately show that they are the superior person.
No, what they fear from a person they hurt is…
How To Scare A Narcissist
It’s frustrating, thinking about how they used us, manipulated us, lied to us, and dared try to mold us into what they wanted.
To healthy-thinking mature adults, we understand that other people can live their lives on their terms.
As long as it doesn’t interfere with our livelihood, there is no need for drama or chaos.
Narcissistic kidults, however, are not like this.
These losers have an insane amount of envy, jealousy, and disdain for ANYONE who dares think highly of themselves — and to think highly of themselves without having to put anyone down.
As Martha Stout wrote in her fantastic book “The Sociopath Next Door,” narcissism is in psychological pain:
“Narcissism is a failure not of conscience but of empathy, which is the capacity to perceive emotions in others and so react to them appropriately. The poor narcissist cannot see past his own nose, emotionally speaking, and as with the Pillsbury Doughboy, any input from the outside will spring back as if nothing had happened. Unlike sociopaths, narcissists often are in psychological pain, and may sometimes seek psychotherapy.” – The Sociopath Next Door (👈 Give this book a read and you will understand why staying away from these people is a MUST)
Our success is a defeat to a narcissist.
Let me repeat that.
And the funny thing is that we may not even have any reason for these people to be in our lives for them to feel this way.
Due to their fragile egos and low self-esteem, these people take EVERYTHING WE DO, even if it has NOTHING to do with them, as an attack.
They are losers of the highest order.
And this is why seeking revenge against them, only pleases them.
I highly recommend not holding a grudge against these losers.
If you want to put the FEAR OF GOD in these losers, all you need to do is…
How To Put The Fear Of God In A Narc
How you can put the fear of God in a narc is by becoming EVERYTHING the narc tried to keep you from becoming.
Listen, think about this for a second.
For those who had goals and who told those goals to a narc, what did they do?
They sabotaged it!
For people who had a hard exam and told their narc partner, what did the narc loser do?
They try and agitate you or disrupt your study. Some may try and break up with you the night before the exam to get your mind in a frenzy.
If you had dreams of being a dancer or actress, what will they do?
They will tell you you have no rhythm or that you are too fat or ugly to be on screen.
These are just examples, but they illustrate my point.
Narcs, as I said, enter our life just to destroy it.
Us realizing our worth and potential FRIGHTENS THESE LOSERS.
For a person who is forever fated to be a loser, seeing a WINNER become what they want crushes them.
Because it reveals to them…EVERYTHING THEY WILL NEVER BE ABLE TO BECOME.
These people are losers.
DO NOT SEEK REVENGE!
SEEK BECOMING THE PERSON YOU WANT. SEEK LIVING THE LIFE THAT YOU WANT.
AND SEEK BEING AS HAPPY & SUCCESSFUL AS YOU CAN.
To a loser, the success of others is the scariest thing.
Narcs are such clowns!
Struggling With C-PTSD?
I often say that living with a narcissist is like living in a war zone! This comparison may very well seem hyperbolic, but research has shown that living around narcissists can have the same effects on a person’s mind as people living in a war zone!
I wrote an article describing the “10+ Mental Illnesses Caused By Staying With Narcissists“.
These people are monsters, plain and simple.
If you are struggling with emotional flashbacks, dealing with mental and emotional battles that NO ONE but yourself seems to see and feel, and if you find it hard to get out of bed every day, you may be dealing with C-PTSD.
As great as support groups may be, or as profound as articles can be, they are no substitute for professional help.
Sometimes the best way to heal and move forward is with therapy.
Speaking with someone and getting the hurt off your chest is a great way to unload.
Online Therapy is a site that offers visitors the chance to speak with professional therapists who will be able to help you get through your emotional and psychological battles.
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