Let Their Rejection Backfire: You Are Not Suppose To Be Happy

Let Their Rejection Backfire: You Are Not Suppose To Be Happy

Let Their Rejection Backfire: You Are Not Suppose To Be Happy

Narcissistic people have this insane idea that they are the creme-de-la-creme. That the sun rises because they open their eyes. That their sh*t doesn’t stink. And that the universe revolves around them.

Some believe this; others PRETEND.

Either way, they believe that when they give us the silent treatment, reject us, or discard us that our world is supposed to come crumbling down around us.

When a narc gives us the silent treatment, rejects us, or discards us, they expect us to hurt.

Use their rejection of you as a means to go no contact which will serve as a backfire.

Show them that they are not the center of anyone’s universe.

Let Their Rejection Backfire: You Are Not Suppose To Be Happy

I have had several incidents where the narcs I would be dating, the narcs I would work with, or the narcs I would have a somewhat friendly relationship with, would all of a sudden say they no longer wanted to pursue a relationship.

And this is how I would handle these situations.


One relationship I recall was years ago. We had dated for about close to two months, and out of nowhere at work, she comes and tells me, “I think we should just be friends.”

I said, “I understand.”

The look on her face. 

Sheer confusion.

She asked me, “Are you mad?

I said, “No.”

She replied, “Whatever.”

The same week she went on a campaign talking badly about me to everyone at work.

And I just accepted it. She would quit her job because she found someone in a few weeks who proposed to her.

FYI: They never got married!


I had a job where I was just a dishwasher. I helped to keep the kitchen clean and even helped to prepare dishes for the chef.

Dishwashing is not a challenging job. Taking out the garbage is what teenagers can do.

So, these were not tasks that were too difficult for me. I worked there for about two months, and I noticed that around the third week of working there, the energy towards me changed.

The boss would say “hi” to everyone and prepare meals for them and offer me nothing.

I took no offense.

I would notice that they would converse and joke with others and ignore me.

“Cool! No problem. I’ll stick to doing my job.”

I do my best to not make things personal!

Coming to the end of my two months working there, the boss would pull me outside to “chat.”

And here is what happened:

Narc Covert Boss: Hey! Man. We gotta let you go.

Me: Sure! No dramas. I understand.

Narc Covert Boss: Yeah, because things aren’t working out with you.

Me: Sure. No dramas! I understand.

Narc Covert Boss: Yeah, because you don’t seem like you want to be here.

Me: Sir! I Understand.

Narc Covert Boss: Yo..you seem okay with this.

Me: It’s just a job. I can find another one. And I don’t want you to waste the money if I am not doing the job correctly.

Narc Covert Boss: (Looks confused as hell and grits his teeth.) O-okay! 

Um.. thanks for your understanding.

Me: Sure. No problem, and thanks for the opportunity.

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA! I’m not BEGGING you for anything!

Moral Of These Stories

Narcissistic people want us to feel like they don’t need us. They want us to think this is because they need us, and they don’t want us to know this.

By pretending that they don’t need us in their lives, they expect us to try hard to try to win them over.

This is reverse psychology, and CHILDREN and TEENAGERS do this.

The best thing to do when a narc rejects you, discards you, or gives you the silent treatment is to GO WITH IT.

Accept it and move forward with your life.

Let their petty psychological tactics backfire on them.

I promise you that you are NOT worthless — as they try and make you believe.

These people are losers, and they are trying to convince you that you are a loser as well.

But the truth is that you are a WINNER.

They didn’t discard you, reject you, or ignored you…they freed you of their drama.

Struggling With C-PTSD?

I often say that living with a narcissist is like living in a war zone! This comparison may very well seem hyperbolic, but research has shown that living around narcissists can have the same effects on a person’s mind as people living in a war zone!

I wrote an article describing the “10+ Mental Illnesses Caused By Staying With Narcissists“.

These people are monsters, plain and simple.

If you are struggling with emotional flashbacks, dealing with mental and emotional battles that NO ONE but yourself seems to see and feel, and if you find it hard to get out of bed every day, you may be dealing with C-PTSD.

As great as support groups may be, or as profound as articles can be, they are no substitute for professional help. 

Sometimes the best way to heal and move forward is with therapy.

Speaking with someone and getting the hurt off your chest is a great way to unload.

Online Therapy is a site that offers visitors the chance to speak with professional therapists who will be able to help you get through your emotional and psychological battles.

If you sign up with my link, you can get 20% off your first month’s session.

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