Instrumental Aggression: Why The Narcissists Attacks You FOR NO REASON

Instrumental Aggression: Why The Narcissists Attacks You FOR NO REASON

Instrumental Aggression: Why The Narcissists Attacks You FOR NO REASON

I know I am not the only one who has ever wondered, “what the hell did I do to this person for them to lash out, attack, and hate me with such fervor?

Narcissistic people are masters at making people believe that they are the bad guys. This is primarily because they have mastered the art of being “The Victim”!

“Oh! Woe is me! Nobody understands my greatness.”

They know so well, how to make others take on their blame (Blameshifting), be remorseful when they do something shameful, and HATE THEMSELVES for not admiring their LESS THAN MEDIOCRE characters and ways of thinking.

God! These people are such losers.

And I think it is because these people, at some subconscious level, know how worthless and how much of a loser they really are, that makes them find enemies in people, where in actuality, there is no enemy.

Hell, there isn’t even a friend.

That person they hate SO MUCH is NO ONE and literally NOTHING to them, which in their base, primitive, unculture, and uncivilized mind, turns into an enemy.

Instrumental Aggression: Why The Narcissists Attacks You FOR NO REASON

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Narc’s Deluded Thoughts:

“You look like you wouldn’t like me.”

“You don’t like me.”

“So, You think you better than me.”


“I’ll show you. Think you better than me and you don’t like me.”


Person They Are Thinking About: “Excuse me! Can you tell me where…”

Narc: Figure it ou yourself *sshole!

Now the example above MAY seem hyperbolic, but I have dealt with many of these deluded people to understand now, what goes on in their looney toon minds.

Many people have a misconception about narcissists.

There is this idea that “Narcissists act out aggressively because they had a bad childhood.”


“They only act this way because they have a disorder. Would you laugh at a person who had BPD?”


The first argument that many people make on behalf of these CLOWNS is that they had a bad childhood.

There are many people who have bad childhoods but don’t grow up to become douchebags losers who hurt other people FOR FUN.

And even if they had a bad childhood, what MORAL JUSTIFICATION can be argued that it is acceptable to hurt someone who ONLY TRIED TO LOVE YOU and HELP YOU!

What is up with this sacrificial sentiment that “One needs to suffer to show supreme love”?

The second argument I hear quite often is that they have a disorder.

This is also ANOTHER LIE!

Narcissism and NPD are NOT THE SAME THINGS!

Narcissism is a characteristic TRAIT that has been picked up.

NPD is a personality disorder, something one is born with/ that is genetic.

The latter, ironically, has people actually going to therapy to reverse their ways of thinking. While the former puts people into therapy because their thinking has been so royally messed up!

So now, what is Instrumental Aggression???????

What Is Instrumental Aggression?

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Instrumental aggression is deliberate aggression waged against a victim for the purpose of fulfilling an agenda or getting some sort of reward. This type of aggression, also known as proactive or predatory aggression, is planned, premeditated, and often unprovoked by their victims; it is controlled, purposeful, and used to achieve personal gain, usually an external goal like money, social status, fame, drugs, the maintenance of their self-image, the fulfillment of grandiose fantasies, or even sadistic pleasure derived from the act of inflicting pain. – The #1 Myth About Psychopaths and Malignant Narcissists: What People Get Wrong About These Types

These people and I will keep saying this, are unevolved LOSERS!

The only way they know how to look good or important is to make enemies and put others down around them.

They need to pull others down and they need to pull others who appear better than them DOWN!

We have learned, for some time now, that people get pleasure from hurting and punishing others.

This is exactly why people who are GIVEN power (given being the operative word here) to punish others SEEK OUT PEOPLE TO PUNISH.

And if there are no actions that provoke punishment, they will create situations, where there is a need to punish a person!


Because they been given the power to do it!

You Did Nothing To Provoke Their Anger — But Simply Being You!

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The vitriolic hatred that you receive from the narcissist has NOTHING to do with you and EVERYTHING to do with their deluded minds.

In their warped, deluded, and unevolved minds, they attack you without provocation on your part, because hurting you is a sign of power.

If they can hurt you, humiliate you, make you suffer, make you angry, get you to crack psychologically, emotionally, and mentally — then they are powerful.

The way in which you beat these CLOWNS, is not by attacking them or trying to reason with them — because this will never happen.


“Against stupidity even the gods are helpless!” – Old Jewish Proverb (I think attributed to, correct me if I am wrong)

How you defeat these clowns, these JOKERS, is simply by not playing the game!

You are fuel for their insanity.

Walking away, and I know it hurts because they may have taken much from you, is the only way to win.

To stay only gives these nutjobs more fuel to keep hurting you.

Don’t be their fuel, their supply, or their punching bag.

Walk away and let them live with their own insanity!

Struggling With C-PTSD?

I often say that living with a narcissist is like living in a war zone! This comparison may very well seem hyperbolic, but research has shown that living around narcissists can have the same effects on a person’s mind as people living in a war zone!

I wrote an article describing the “10+ Mental Illnesses Caused By Staying With Narcissists“.

These people are monsters, plain and simple.

If you are struggling with emotional flashbacks, dealing with mental and emotional battles that NO ONE but yourself seems to see and feel, and if you find it hard to get out of bed every day, you may be dealing with C-PTSD.

As great as support groups may be, or as profound as articles can be, they are no substitute for professional help. 

Sometimes the best way to heal and move forward is with therapy.

Speaking with someone and getting the hurt off your chest is a great way to unload.

Online Therapy is a site that offers visitors the chance to speak with professional therapists who will be able to help you get through your emotional and psychological battles.

If you sign up with my link, you can get 20% off your first month’s session.

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