For many of us who have been hurt by the kidult narcissist (who has crawled their ways into our lives like toddlers), we are upset.
And JUSTIFIABLY SO!
We are frustrated. We are confused. And we want revenge.
For some, we simply want them to know the horrors they put us through. We want them to acknowledge that they lied and cheated us out of happiness, years (decades) of our lives, dreams, and LOVE!
And to a rational, mature, and empathic person that would hurt them to know they hurt someone.
But to a narc….
I truly believe that we must NEVER LET THEM KNOW THEY HURT US.
Going back to these kidult monsters and telling them how they hurt us, only gives them more information on how to hurt the next person even more.
Us telling them about the harsh lies and treatment and what it did to us, is MUSIC TO THEIR EARS!
One of our members, a fellow warrior, (their names will not be placed here out of respect) messaged me.
They were telling me about an ordeal they have been going through!
Being made an outcast and having their dreams destroyed by envious people!
I have often said this and will continue to say this that “jealousy and envy are MENTAL DISORDERS”!
Jealous people and envious people do not see the world the way it is…they see it the way their messed up minds present it to them.
Jealous people will talk crap behind your back, spreading rumors but will then smile and talk nice to you in your face.
I call these people kidults because to them EVERYTHING IS A F*CKING GAME!
In their based LESSER MINDS they truly believe that when they set their reptilian eyes on us, that we are somehow placed in their petty little games.
To them, everything is about either winning or losing!
And they are out to make you a failure and loser in life.
To a person who cannot hold more than two ideas at a time in their mind, if you are a loser, that by default, makes them a winner.
It sucks losing to these people at games that you never knew you were playing.
But what sucks, even more, is to play their games and to win ON THEIR TERMS!
You Don’t Win The Game Against The Narc By Playing
Much like a 6-year-old who draws on the wall to get attention from my mommy and daddy — so too are these kidult narcissists who attack us unjustly, critics, smear campaign us, and spread nasty rumors about us.
They are trying to get our attention.
They are trying to hurt us because simply being who we are HURTS THEM.
Their egos have been hurt by our presence, by our existence.
So to defend their ego they will try and destroy us, remove us from existence and then take on our qualities like the body snatcher parasites they are!
You don’t reason with people like this.
You don’t get them to see the error of their ways.
Because they don’t want to see their flaws.
You don’t win their nonsensical games by playing with them.
You win by going NO CONTACT and living happily!
Staying to try and PROVE THEM WRONG is exactly what they want.
When you stay and try and prove them wrong what you are showing them is that their opinions matter.
And to people who want to feel superior, by you not caring about their thought you only show them how worthless they are.
You don’t win by playing…you win by living happily after leaving them.
- Succeeding in your dreams.
- Getting into a great relationship!
- Starting a family!
- Becoming wealthy and helping out other people!
- NOT HOLDING A GRUDGE AGAINST THEM!
As long as you are thinking about them, they are winning.
And the more you hold back on life and keep staying in the past (“They did this to me! They did that to me!”, and not working to create a better future — YOU ARE GIVING THEM A HUGE VICTORY!
Just because they DELAYED YOU doesn’t mean you have to STOP!
See them merely as a roadblock and not as the end!