Accept The Silent Treatment and You Win!
The silent treatment for many people is devastating. Thoughts cross your mind, rushing and raving! You wonder, “what did I say?“
You ask yourself, “What did I do?“
And you spend your time thinking about them and wondering what you can do to make things better.
This is exactly why the narc does this.
These people feed on people’s attention and thoughts about them.
Nothing makes them happier than but to know that someone is thinking about them and someone NEEDS them.
It gives them a sense of power. They have this sense that they are important.
To them, knowing that you are hurting because of their lack of attention validates their ego.
“I AM SOMEONE.”
And this is precisely why you need to accept the silent treatment.
Accept The Silent Treatment and You Win!
Now, I know for many people it hurts.
It hurts being denied attention from the person you feel you love.
As a matter of fact, the silent treatment is abuse.
We are social creatures, after all.
Attention is something that we all crave. It is natural.
Narc’s know this because they FEEL it at a more intense feeling.
These people CRAVE attention like addicts craves illegal dr*gs.
I often say that narcs are addicts, and we are their drug.
So when they give us the silent treatment, it is supposed to be the cruelest and meanest thing they can think of doing to someone.
Because it is something that would hurt them.
And this is why I say to accept the silent treatment.
Silent Treatment? More Like Silent Treat
I have come across many narcs in my life. And many of them would give me the silent treatment.
They made sure I knew they weren’t talking to me.
They would say hi to everyone around me and nothing to me.
But see, I have always had a strong sense of self-love.
Someone not talking to me doesn’t tear me down.
But I did notice it would hurt them when their silent treatment didn’t hurt me.
The silent treatment, despite being called “silent” is a cry out for attention.
What they are saying is, “You hurt me, and now I am going to hurt you.”
Or, “Ask me why I am not talking to you. Come on. Ask me.”
The more they try to SHOW you, they are not talking to you or trying to show you they are ignoring you, only revealing that they are still thinking about you.
Embrace The Silence
By you NOT chasing them or asking them why they are ignoring you and juts accepting it, you show them how UNIMPORTANT THEY ARE.
They want to be chased.
They want to be thought about.
And they want you to hurt because of their lack of attention.
Going on with your life and not caring that they are not talking to you show them that they do not and NEVER mattered in the first place.
The silent treatment is supposed to make them feel like they matter.
But in going on with your life, they only hurt themselves more.
How do I know, because I have accepted the silent treatment many times from narcs.
And I have often heard, from their flying monkeys, later on, that, they still think about me.
Believe me, if you accept the silent treatment, YOU WIN.
You show them how little influence they have on your life.
And that destroys their egos.
Struggling With C-PTSD?
I often say that living with a narcissist is like living in a war zone! This comparison may very well seem hyperbolic, but research has shown that living around narcissists can have the same effects on a person’s mind as people living in a war zone!
I wrote an article describing the “10+ Mental Illnesses Caused By Staying With Narcissists“.
These people are monsters, plain and simple.
If you are struggling with emotional flashbacks, dealing with mental and emotional battles that NO ONE but yourself seems to see and feel, and if you find it hard to get out of bed every day, you may be dealing with C-PTSD.
As great as support groups may be, or as profound as articles can be, they are no substitute for professional help.
Sometimes the best way to heal and move forward is with therapy.
Speaking with someone and getting the hurt off your chest is a great way to unload.
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