Loving a narcissist can be a hell that we try to turn into heaven. Narcissists are monsters who have no understanding of what love is. They have no sense of love.
And because of their lack of love, they are cruel, manipulative, irrational, illogical (“Get that for me. I don’t want this, why did you bring it”), immature as ALL HELL (They are kidult who will never grow up), and just a nasty people overall.
Narcissistic people know how much of a mess they are. And it is for this treason they are hellbent on making everyone that comes in their lives a mess as well.
Understanding and please listen to this, YOU ARE and WERE NOT AN IDIOT FOR LOVING THE NARCISSIST.
The narc saw, and sees, in YOU something they will never have or can never be.
Which is a person who has self-love and a person full of love!
And I know right now, for those of you who have just left the narcissist you feel like an idiot and you may have an insane amount of hatred for yourself for being stupid.
But trust me, this is exactly what they want.
Listen! You Weren’t An Idiot For Loving A Narcissist
Now that you left the narcissists, they may be on their whole smear campaign, which you need to COMPLETELY IGNORE (Check out my article “Why You Need To Ignore The Smear Campaign“).
The reason for the smear campaign is to make you DOUBT yourself. It is to make YOU think that YOU were the bad guy when in reality it was and is them.
After being discarded by a narcissist you feel worthless and like trash because they have found someone new.
Understand that they were fishing for people WHILE they were with you.
They devalue you because they know that if you know your worth you will be happy being separated.
Let me repeat and rephrase that.
If you know how much of a gem you really are, then you will know you can find someone who will value you for what you really are worth.
But if you feel devalued you will go running back to them, to “TAKE YOU BACK.”
They try and make you feel stupid so that you will never question them and only question yourself.
If you are so doubtful about what you are doing and thinking, they can better manipulate you.
You Are Not An Idiot
You have to understand this, as I have come to understand this, and it has made my healing process SO MUCH EASIER.
The world is insane. You cannot reason with the unreasonable. You cannot use logic with a person who is hellbent on being as illogical as possible.
And you cannot get someone to love when they are devoid of love and are hellbent on just hating and destroying as many lives as possible.
You have to know that…there are just some nasty people out there who are very IRREDEEMABLE.
And no amount of love that you can give WILL EVER CHANGE THAT.
To love is of the divine. To destroy that which is love is of monsters and demons.
Stop beating yourself up for loving a monster. Love is what you and we are. And love is one of life’s most precious gifts.
Think about who misses out on this gift.
It’s not you.
It is the narc.
No Shame In Therapy
Narcissistic people can do a wonder on someone’s mind and psychology.
In fact, I wrote an article called “10+ Mental Illnesses Caused By Staying With A Narcissists“.
The narcissists and their legion of fools can slowly drive you insane. And sometimes the best help you can ever receive is from a stranger.
When everyone around you is trying to convince you that YOU are the bad person, sometimes an objective view of you from someone you don’t know maybe what saves you from drowning in the sea of insanity the narc and their legion of fools try and drown you in.
Therapy can help heal in ways that reading blogs, listening to videos, and talking with other WARRIORS (we are not survivors, we are warriors) can ever do.
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Narcs have a legion of fools behind them to hurt you, I think it would be a good thing to build your own army of warriors and allies to help stand by your side.