10 Ways To Emotionally Detach Yourself From The Narcissist

10 Ways To Emotionally Detach Yourself From The Narcissist


Always forgive your enemies –
nothing annoys them so much.
– Oscar Wilde

Moving on after leaving a narcissist is not always the easiest thing to do. For many of us who have had the unfortunate experience of being with them, the sheer idea of moving on after all the harm, chaos, and hurt they put us through seems like they are getting off scot-free. 

The idea that they hurt us and get away with it can drive many of us INSANE

And believe me, I know. 

I wholly understand where some of you are coming from. 

There is also the unfortunate truth that many of us also become, so trauma bonded to these parasites that moving on, EVEN WHEN IT IS GOOD FOR US, also seems unbearable. 

We know with every fiber of our being that they are not the ones for us. 

Our happiness, gone.

Our beauty, faded. 

And ourselves, no longer in the picture. 

Moving on, as so many people champion, is not that easy. But just because I say it is not easy does not mean it is impossible. 

This trauma bond can be broken. The rage and anger you feel can be quenched. 

And who you are can go back to who you were

And you know what…you can become so much better BECAUSE of being with these parasites. 

Quick Note: I call narcissist parasites because they are. I am not name-calling. I am not denigrating the. Check out my article, “Narcissists Are Parasites,” to get a better understanding of what I mean. They feed on people’s lives just so they can survive. If that is not a parasite, I don’t know what is. 

In this article, I will give you 10 ways to detach yourself from the Narcissist emotionally.

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7 thoughts on “10 Ways To Emotionally Detach Yourself From The Narcissist

  1. A great read.. I am struggling with hovering but this has definitely given me a boost to keep looking away and not romanticise what could have been.

  2. A refreshing, interesting & enlightening read. Unfortunately I can’t do complete detachment as my narcissist ex is the father of our child, but this post has given me great incentives to continue as I’m doing – objective thinking, acceptance of the situation & that life is not all rainbows & butterflies, thinking positively & doing things I enjoy while focusing on building a happy future for myself & our son. Thank you for the encouragement. 💖🙏🏻💕

    1. Many years ago while divorcing my NPD husband, I was told by my doctor to keep an eye on my two sons, as this can be inherited. That was about 20 years ago. Now I am going though this all over again with one of my sons who is 30 years old. So, please beware, this can happen. It is truly heart breaking. The only positive thing is that I know that he (like his father) cannot be cured or treated. This is not something that I can fix. This is not like a mood disorder, which in many cases can be treated. This is not like dyslexia which also cannot be cured, but the dyslexic can learn to read by using another method. This is here to stay. Also, as for dealing with your ex while co-parenting, I found it extremely helpful to try to keep conversations with him in email format as much as possible. If we did have an agreement on something, concerning the boys, in a verbal conversation, I would nicely back it up in an email. With emails, you have a record. You also are not talking over one another. You are careful of what you write and not just reacting to his bait. Good luck. And do watch your children carefully. They too can become parasites and break your heart. While I now realize that my one son doesn’t love me, I also know that it is not his fault. I plan on keeping my boundaries with him and not taking his bait.
      Wish me well….

  3. Good steps to take but I am keeping some of the things I like because it’s easier for me to detach from the things they gave me that I would have chosen for myself, but the things that were given that show how “nah, you don’t get my taste” — to charity. Because those things remind me of how they really didn’t get me at all and I’m better off without them and the “gifts”.

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