31 Signs You Are Dating A Narcissist & How You Can Get Out Of This Relationship


Signs You Are Dating A Narcissist

Relationships can be exciting and magical. It is for these reasons; some of us overlook certain actions our partner may do that shows that they may not be who we thought they were initially.

In this article, I give you 40 Signs You Are Dating A Narcissist & How You Can Get Out Of This Relationship.

There are many narcissists out there.

And they all have their own underhanded and twisted ways of manipulating people.

Not all narcissists that you come into contact with are going to be loud and obnoxious.

Learning how to recognize someone with covert narcissism will be very useful for you, as you will not waste so much of your time trying to figure out a person whom many consider “complicated.”

Love is many things...but rarely is it complicated. Click To Tweet

If you, by the end of reading this article, still feel like you need to be their rock, their partner…their hero, then STOP!

The amount of research I have done has revealed to me that treatment for narcissism can only happen if these people WANT IT.

And as much as we toss out the idea of love can change and heal everything to the point it becomes Ad Naseum, that is just a stone-cold LIE.

Pathological narcissists are everywhere. If you need to learn more about what is a narcissist, check out my article in the link provided.

Being an empath and having empathy for these parasites will only eat at who you are, bit by bit, the longer you stay with them.

With this said, you owe NOBODY “yourself.”  

31 Signs You Are Dating A Narcissist: Dating A Narcissist

1 – Let’s Hurry Up And Get Married…EVEN THOUGH WE JUST MET!

Signs You Are Dating A Narcissist

Oh! Too early on the list?

No.

No, it isn’t.

Especially not with a narcissist. Narcissists need that commitment RIGHT AWAY. They want to trap you in their web of lies, depravity, and insanity. These people have an insatiable desire to be connected with other people.

Now, not all narcissists are the same, as mentioned above (click on the link above to read the article).

But for some narcissists out there, they have a desire to lock you into their prison of a life. Click To Tweet

And they do this by trying to get married as soon as possible.

Oh, you just met them a month ago?

That is just enough time to know this person is THE ONE.

Right?

If you have been caught in their “prison of a life” and you are trying to get out (divorce them) check out this article, “How to divorce a narcissist or psychopath and WIN.

2 – The Rules Do Not Apply To Me

Having rules can make life SO MUCH EASIER.

And I am by no means suggesting that at times rules ARE NOT MEANT TO BE BROKEN.

Rules can often be broken and should be broken.

But with narcissists, they will require that you follow all their insane rules — and them…well, HA!

They are special; they don’t need to follow any rules.

3 – Do I Get Bonus Points If I Pretend To Care

Signs You Are Dating A Narcissist

They think them pretending to care about your well-being or others well being makes them a good person.

Worst is that they think they should be rewarded for putting on a fake smile or face of concern.

4 – I Don’t Like Taking Orders

Much like not following the rules.

They have a strong disdain for taking orders.

“Hey! Don’t you ever tell me what to do.”

5 – The Sunshine Shined Out YOUR A**: They Were Initially Very Charming

Signs You Are Dating A Narcissist

Narcissists do this thing called “love-bombing.” What this is, is when you initially meet them, they are the GREATEST PERSON YOU HAVE EVER MET. 

They treat as if you are a God/Goddess.

Everything you do, they worship and praise. They place you on a pedestal. They shower you with gifts. And they make life so magical.

All of this is to capture you on their hook. It is bait.

Once they have caught you, their mask then starts to come off, and their real self emerges.

6 – They Are Superficial: Signs You Are Dating A Narcissist

Signs You Are Dating A Narcissist

They won’t have a good-paying job, but they will have the flashiest clothes, shoes, and jewelry.

You know, gotta look good for…STRANGERS.

To hell with what you think of them.

7 – Anything You Can Do I Can Do Better

Everything is a competition with them.

You had a good day. They had a GREAT DAY.

You just started to learn a new language. They INVENTED A NEW LANGUAGE.

You happened to take a huge dump in the bathroom. THEY MADE AN GIGANTIC EPIC DUMP in the bathroom.

They are all about one-upping.

8 – They Are Disinterested in You

They show little next to NO interest in anything you want to do. They will blow your activities or plans aside, to lounge around.

9 – Their Reputation Means…EVERYTHING

Signs You Are Dating A Narcissist

They will treat strangers better than they treat you.

The neighbor next door.

“Hey, Bob! How are you doing? Let me know if you are free this weekend and we can catch up.”

The people at church.

“Hello, Pastor! Your sermon was SO TOUCHING.”

The mailman.

“Hey, Frank. Always good to see you.”

And then you.

You should be happy if they even grunt your way.

They care about how others perceive them.

10 – That’s Enough Of Me Talking About Me…Let’s Hear You Talk About Me: It’s All About Them

Signs You Are Dating A Narcissist

11 – Your Emotions Are Weak To Them

These people hate to see weaknesses in others.

I think this may be because it reminds them of what they are.

They want to live in an illusionary world.

If they yell at you for crying over something like “LOSING A FAMILY MEMBER“, you might want to consider this relationship ending.

12 – They Are Drama Queens: Signs You Are Dating A Narcissist

Signs You Are Dating A Narcissist

Everything with these people has to be EXTRA.

I often say these people can give Hollywood A Stars lessons in acting.

THEY ARE DRAMA QUEENS!

They overreact over the silliest things. And when they KNOW they are wrong for being so extra, instead of just admitting that was wrong or going too far…

What do they do?

THEY GO EVEN FARTHER DOWN THE RABBIT HOLE OF LUNACY.

The only way to make things right is to make things so wrong that it becomes normal.

Does this make sense?

No.

Well, it doesn’t have to with these nutjobs.

13 – They Step Over Your Boundaries

Signs You Are Dating A Narcissist

14 – Where Were You? What Are You Doing? What Are You Thinking? “Controlling” Much

These people will grill you worse than a crooked cop or TSA Staff member who has nothing to do with their time.

They need to know what you are doing AT ALL TIMES.

The reason they do this is because they are scared you will:

  • Leave them
  • Cheat on them
  • Use them
  • Abandon them
  • Find someone better (Which is NOT that difficult)

15 – Your Praise and Adulation Is Their Substance: Ah! Your Praise…It Nourishes Me

16 – Everyone Is Jealous Of Me

In their child-like Soplistic mind they believe that everyone that comes across their peripheral is jealous of them.

Why?

Well, because they are “THEM”, of course.

17 – They Cheated On Many Of Their Previous “Lovers”

They may gloat about how many times they cheated on their previous partner. But then tell you they are not going to do that to you because you are special.

Know this is a tactic to let you know if they want to “they can cheat on you. So you better act up straight.”

18 – They Idolize Their Friends: Signs You Are Dating A Narcissist

They will place some people on a pedestal. Almost to the point that they worship them.

19 – They Throw Temper Tantrums

Signs You Are Dating A Narcissist

21 – This Is Mine…And This Is Mine…And This Is Mine

21 – Nope You’re Wrong…I’m Right (Stubborn Mules)

This clip below summarizes exactly what the title suggests.

22 – Attention Whores: “You’re Not Looking”

These people don’t want attention from others.

THEY NEED ATTENTION FROM OTHERS.

They will want to be the center of attention where ever they go.

And damn you to hell if you put someone over them in ANY SITUATION.

23 – Previous Relationships Lasted Very Short

They will have a string of relationships before you that never lasted over more than half a year!

And ALL the people they were with WERE THE PROBLEM.

It was never them.

24 – You Being Happy Irritates Them: Signs You Are Dating A Narcissist

These people have a scarcity mindset. If you are happy that means they cannot be happy.

How does that work?

Narc Logic.

Not familiar with Narc logic?

Check out my article here.

#narclogic

25 – They Lie Over Silly Things

Lying to them is a form of being intelligent. If they can make you believe that “Drop Dead Fred” burned your wedding dress and you believe it, they are Stephen Freaking Hawkings.

26 – They Like To Point Out Your Flaws

The Narc Devalues Us Because

They love to devalue people.

I want you to imagine this for a second. A man walks into a pawn shop with a very rare antique. This antique cannot be found anywhere else in the world.

The man that comes into his shop, however, is in desperate need of money. He needs supply to build his Engine steam (hint- hint).

The pawnshop owner, seeing the value in the antique — and NOT wanting this guy to go elsewhere, commence to point out all the flaws in the antique.

He tells the guy that it is in bad shape, but “from the kindness of my heart, I will give you such and such. If you go elsewhere, they will pay you LESS. What I am giving you…this is A LOT. You should appreciate it.”

The guy not understanding the real value of his Engine steam gives in to the pawn owner and gets far less than he would have had he went elsewhere.

27 – They Are Afraid To Enter Couples Therapy

Signs You Are Dating A Narcissist

Getting them to speak with a couple’s therapist may be near IMPOSSIBLE.

They have a strong fear of being found out and discovered.

28 – They Are Chatty Patties

These people can give high school teenage girls a run in gossiping about others.

Males and females.

All they do is talk about other people.

29 – “You Didn’t Say That”: Gaslighting

Narcissistic people gaslight because they are out to simply control people’s perception of reality. Most often time it is just a means for them to try and control us.

But it is also a means for them to try and make us dependant on them. To narcissistic people, it is all about control. And gaslighting is one of their favorite tactics to use against their victims.

30 – Smear Campaigns When You Leave Them

If you by chance left them, know they will go on a SMEAR CAMPAIGN.

They will drag your name through the mud and will send their flying monkeys to spread the rumors.

31 – It’s Not My Fault: They Never Apologize

This picture sums them up in a nutshell.

How To Get Out Of This Relationship: Dating A Narcissist

The best way to get out of a relationship with these people is to:

No Shame In Therapy

Narcissistic people can do a wonder on someone’s mind and psychology. 

In fact, I wrote an article called “10+ Mental Illnesses Caused By Staying With A Narcissists“.

The narcissists and their legion of fools can slowly drive you insane. And sometimes the best help you can ever receive is from a stranger. 

When everyone around you is trying to convince you that YOU are the bad person, sometimes an objective view of you from someone you don’t know maybe what saves you from drowning in the sea of insanity the narc and their legion of fools try and drown you in. 

Therapy can help heal in ways that reading blogs, listening to videos, and talking with other WARRIORS (we are not survivors, we are warriors) can ever do. 

Join my Facebook Fan Page “No Shame In Therapy” to get a 20% discount on your first-month session, as well as articles and updates on the benefits of therapy.

Narcs have a legion of fools behind them to hurt you, I think it would be a good thing to build your own army of warriors and allies to help stand by your side. 

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