Stop Fighting For The Vulnerable Narcissist To Understand You
It is impossible to get someone to understand you when they are hellbent on NOT UNDERSTANDING YOU. The narcissist in your life will know what they do is wrong — and they will try and drive you insane trying to prove to them their errors.
So…stop fighting for the narcissist to understand you.
They get great pleasure in making us angry, upset, and irritated by their childish little antics of “why are you acting so irrational“?
I often state that “for a narcissist, victory and success to them is in being able to break someone”.
Because many of them are so broken themselves, the idea that someone can be whole is a great insult to them.
The Vulnerable Narcissist Doesn’t Want To Understand You
Oftentimes it seems to me that many people would rather fight for an “okay” life with the narcissist than a GREAT LIFE without the narcissist in their life.
This somewhat “Stockholm Syndrome” condition that many of us seem to have developed is the main reason why so many of us are suffering.
The saying that “pain is always there but suffering is a choice” is very real with many people who CHOOSE to stay and fight for their narcissist to understand them instead of just moving on.
And I must be a bit abrasive here with my verbiage in this article but sometimes people just need to hear the hard cold rough truth.
YOUR NARCISSIST DOES NOT GIVE A D*MN ABOUT YOU.
The only thing they care about you is:
- You being their emotional punching bag (Waaaah! You don’t really love me. Wahhhhhh!)
- You being their physical punching bag (I only hurt you because I love you and want better for you. RIGHTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT!)
- Being a piece of meat for sexual pleasure (male or female)
- Being someone they can blame all their INADEQUACIES ON
- You suffering (they love to see us suffer it makes them happy)
Narcissistic People Know Exactly What They Are Doing
Narcissistic people know exactly what they are doing when they are “playing” stupid. Everything is a game to these kidults. They believe themselves smarter than they actually are.
And most often times we seem foolish because we think we are dealing with an adult when in actuality we are dealing with a kidult.
(A person who is a kid in an adult body.)
And like a kid who thinks he is getting over on a parent or adult, so too will a narcissist.
They take our empathy and our desire to make them better people as a sign of weakness and foolishness.
Understand this before you continue to give any more time and energy to these irrational people; they are hellbent on driving you INSANE.
Stop trying to get them to understand you and move on with your life. It is the only way to save your sanity and to improve your life.
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No Shame In Therapy
Narcissistic people can do a wonder on someone’s mind and psychology.
In fact, I wrote an article called “10+ Mental Illnesses Caused By Staying With A Narcissists“.
The narcissists and their legion of fools can slowly drive you insane. And sometimes the best help you can ever receive is from a stranger.
When everyone around you is trying to convince you that YOU are the bad person, sometimes an objective view of you from someone you don’t know maybe what saves you from drowning in the sea of insanity the narc and their legion of fools try and drown you in.
Therapy can help heal in ways that reading blogs, listening to videos, and talking with other WARRIORS (we are not survivors, we are warriors) can ever do.
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