Surviving narcissism is a possibility and in this article, I want to show you how you can move on and grow STRONGER because of the relationship. Your life did not BEGIN with the narcissist and it doesn’t have to END after being or staying with the narcissist.
To wallow around in pain, to cry out for their love, and to question their IRRATIONALITY only serves to make them happy. These creatures and I say this not as a jab at them, DO NOT THINK LOGICALLY.
What makes normal human beings happy is:
- Uplifting each other
All of these things are anathema to the narcissists. Many narcissists are very disturbed people. They get pleasure from seeing others suffer. And the reasons for this are not always crystal clear, as narcissists are several in numbers.
What do I mean?
There are three main types of narcissists with there being 5 different subsets of these main types. And just when you thought that one was enough, right?
Narcissists are extremely dangerous as they can act like they want to be your friend or lover ONLY so that they can destroy your dreams and life.
But, it is very possible to survive narcissism and in this article, I want to show you what you NEED to do in order to survive and move on in life.
Be Not Destroyed
If ever there were anything that would make the narcissist superlatively happy is the idea of you being destroyed.
And by breaking, cracking, losing our dreams in life we hand our happiness, success, and goals to them.
And like a small bully on a beach who sees a kid build a sandcastle… what will they do?
Narcissistic people are not too dissimilar to kids. In fact, I dare say that their mind isn’t as mature as a pre-teen. Of course, this is just my opinion.
When we sit back and moan and complain about how much the narcissist took from us, we are only doing the job for them.
And you know what?
That pleases them.
They love the idea that they don’t even have to be in our presence to harm us. It gives their absurd way of seeing themselves as omnipresent.
“I am wherever YOU ARE. MUHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH!”
By wallowing around in the wrongs they have done to us, we only strengthen them and make them happy.
And I know it can be difficult to let go of that anger, pain, resentment, and hurt (check out my article “100 Ways To Let Go And Move On With Life After Narcissistic Abuse”) — but in holding on to all these negative feelings you, by proxy, still hold on to them.
THEY WANT YOU TO HURT.
It Is True Power In Letting Go Of Them
Narcissistic people are kidults. The wrongs that they do to us is a means by them to grab and keep our attention. But we aren’t only empaths; we are also adults. You have to get to the point where you can see their childish little antics and be the BIGGER PERSON.
It takes so much strength to control your emotions. It takes so much strength to live your life on your terms. And it takes so much strength to move on in life after a brutal injury.
Most people get sucked down in life over the simplest things. And narcissistic people know this.
Which is why we have to be the better person.
I know this from personal experiences.
I have met so many narcissists in my life. All of whom have tried to drag me down in life.
And how I defeated them, and I know I have because I get messages from people who say they still talk about me and want me to come back (so I guess they can finish the job. HA!) is by MOVING ON AND SUCCEEDING LIFE WITHOUT THEM.
That is a PLAIN FULL ON PROOF that they were just dead weight holding me back.
By staying away from them and just being happy and successful despite what they have done — we win and they lose.
Their teasing, the smear campaigns, the character assassinations, and the rumors are all meant to try and reel you back in.
Staying away from a toxic person/ and people is NOT A SIGN OF RUNNING AWAY.
It is a show of force.
That EVERYTHING THEY SAY, DO, TRY, and ATTEMPT DO…NOTHING TO YOU.
That…that is real power.
When you become so unphased by their antics.
You become like Superman. Their words and opinions of you bounce off like a bullet on Superman.
Life After A Narcissistic Abuse Relationship
In a few of my previous articles, I explain how you can move on. In my “100 Ways To Let Go And Move On With Life After Narcissistic Abuse” I give actionable steps on how you can learn to start letting go.
My previous article, “The Benefits Of Incense For Your Physical & Psychological Well-Being“, I mention how certain incense really has a huge impact on your psychological health.
I highly recommend that you give these articles a read.
If you change NOTHING about your situation and only wallow in the pit of self-pity you will only make the narcissist happy.
Decide to NO LONGER BE BROKEN.
Because the one thing that makes a narcissist happy in life is…destroying a life.
Be Not Destroyed.
No Shame In Therapy
Narcissistic people can do a wonder on someone’s mind and psychology.
In fact, I wrote an article called “10+ Mental Illnesses Caused By Staying With A Narcissists“.
The narcissists and their legion of fools can slowly drive you insane. And sometimes the best help you can ever receive is from a stranger.
When everyone around you is trying to convince you that YOU are the bad person, sometimes an objective view of you from someone you don’t know maybe what saves you from drowning in the sea of insanity the narc and their legion of fools try and drown you in.
Therapy can help heal in ways that reading blogs, listening to videos, and talking with other WARRIORS (we are not survivors, we are warriors) can ever do.
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Narcs have a legion of fools behind them to hurt you, I think it would be a good thing to build your own army of warriors and allies to help stand by your side.