Narcissists are not brave individuals. Despite their puffed up chest, they are scared little paper tigers that can easily be blown away by anyone who catches wind to their antics. In this article, I will go over 25 things narcissists hate & fear the most.
I think you will find that their fears and hatred are comical in nature, as well as superlatively pathetic. I often say that we have to laugh, NOT in a way that teases them, but laugh at their sheer absurdity. It is quite humorous to see that people can be in their 30s, 40s, 50s, 60s, and damn 80s and can still act like a child.
And don’t at me with that, “As we age we reverse back to childhood” NONSENSE.
As we age we are SUPPOSE to get better; NOT worse. The idea that it is okay to get old and become a child again instead of a, well becoming a LEADER FULL OF WISDOM DUE TO LIFE’S LESSONS, is frankly a stupid way of thinking and living out the rest of your life.
I am also quite aware that many people, as they age, develop different mental illnesses.
Understand this, mental illnesses can be hereditary but we also KNOW that many illnesses that we GAIN in life are developed of our OWN VOLITION.
What do I mean by this?
We Cause Ourselves So Much Needless and Preventable Pain
Check out this video with Dr. Dispenza on how our thoughts affect our health.
We are the ones who create these diseases for ourselves.
Working at stressful jobs, being around toxic people, staying in a narcissistic relationship and living out a stressful life are all ingredients for us developing many diseases that are otherwise…PREVENTABLE.
“Stress kills” is not just a saying, but it is a reality. The more people stress out in life the easier it is for them to develop many mental illnesses, as well as physical illnesses.
Narcissistic people focus on negativity. This is why they get old and become some of the most cantankerous people you will ever come across.
“Get off mah lawn!”
“What are you looking at?”
The angry stereotypical old man who doesn’t want people on his yard is angry because he finally realized, “I have done NOTHING with my life. I have hurt so many people.”
And like a scared little animal out in the wild who is on edge because they think they will be eaten…so too are old narcissists. So scared that all the stuff they did in their life will come back to bite them later on in life.
This is why I CHAMPION the idea of MOVING ON and GOING NO CONTACT.
These narcissists will do themselves in for us.
Staying with them ONLY hurts us.
With this said, let’s jump on into the article.
25 Things Narcissists Hate & Fear The Most
The Top 10 Things Narcissists Fear
# 1 – Abandonment
If there is one thing that strikes fear in a narcissist it is abandonment. Think for a second and ask yourself these questions:
“Why do they always look for so many supplies?”
“Why do they enjoy discarding people?”
“And why do they go batshit insane when you don’t respond to a discarding?” (This is why I PREACH THE GOOD GOSPEL OF NO CONTACT. It is the best revenge)
The reason is that this is a major fear of theirs. And because most narcissists really aren’t as smart or evolved as they think themselves to be, they cannot wrap their heads around being at peace with themselves.
And this is because these people are sadly: “an existence of pure chaos”.
Peace, order, serenity are alien concepts to them.
# 2 – Criticism
These people will criticize you in a heartbeat on how you look, walk, talk, eat, sleep and take a dump. But “Heavens To Murgatroyd” if you “suggest” a slight change in their outfit for the office party.
“You saying I’m fat?” (When the outfit is clearly revealing the truth)
“Why you like this tie? Is it because John wore it. Huh? HUHHHHHHHH? (Foam coming out the mouth)
This fear that narcissistic people have in regards to criticism comes from them having an extremely weak and fragile ego. This is exactly why they constantly need to find errors and fault in everyone around them.
This is also why they feel a need to constantly compare others to someone else. In their minds, they cannot accept the fact that they may not be as good as they think/ or want.
So to defend their fragile egos they love to see other people fail and they love to sabotage others. They believe in their minds if they can get someone to fail it will damage their confidence.
# 3 – Betrayal
It is okay if they betray us because in their minds “everyone betrays everyone”.
(Check out my article on blameshifting/projecting)
We better make sure that we never betray them. Even after the dozens of times, they have done so to us…ON A DAILY BASIS.
This fear that they have of betrayal again is a result of their fragile egos. Being betrayed to them feels like we are saying they are not enough. And as we have already said, these people fear not being good enough, hence the need to have so many friends, flashy cars, nice clothes and plenty of supply.
They are addictive people.
# 4 – Humiliation
They hate the idea of being humiliated. This is why most of them are always scowling around. If they can look like they are someone NOT TO MESS WITH then nobody will mess with them.
They are in every sense of the word the missing link in our evolution. They are walking among us. This irrational fear of thinking everyone is out to make you look foolish or just wanting to hurt you is an UNEVOLVED way of thinking and living.
And yes, I know that there are many people out there like this. Hence is why I say “Narcissists aren’t as rare as we think they are.”
They are the missing link in our evolution. We can’t find it because they are standing right next to us. Being an empath is a step up in our evolution.
To them, humiliation means a sign of weakness. And like animals out in the wilderness, the moment they show weakness they will get eaten alive.
And humiliation is like being eaten alive by the eyes and opinions of PEOPLE THEY DON’T KNOW.
# 5 – Loneliness
I often say, “I can occupy the same space with people and still feel worlds apart”. Being around people doesn’t always mean you aren’t going to feel alone. In fact, this is perhaps the worse type of loneliness that one can ever feel.
Loneliness for a narcissist is like a hell. Because despite their “I’m so great” attitude, they don’t like themselves as much as they would like others to believe. Hence the constant need for attention and validation.
And what other way to keep from being lonely than but to stir up conflict and chaos. Have people hate you so they will keep thinking about you.
# 6 – Rejection
Narcissistic people are emotionally fragile. Rejection to them is literally like feeling burned, hence the phrase “oh, you got burned” when someone is rejected. The reason for this is because for some people being rejected light up the same areas of the brain where people who have been burned is located.
In a new study using functional magnetic resonance imaging (fMRI), researchers have found that the same brain networks that are activated when you’re burned by hot coffee also light up when you think about a lover who has spurned you. – Health.com
These people literally feel like they have been burned because of a rejection.
THINK ABOUT THIS FOR A SECOND.
This is why I champion NO CONTACT. You get back at them for ALL the insanity they put you through and they destroy themselves without us even having to lay a hand on them.
# 7 – Being Disrespected
Because they feel like they are worthless — having someone disrespect them only validates and confirms that they really are worthless. And disrespect for them can come in many forms, which to us don’t really appear to be disrespectful.
Some incidents that they believe us being disrespectful are:
- Not saying “hi” to them; even though they don’t show any signs they are looking for our attention
- Having a life without them in it
- Not giving them attention; despite the fact that they give the same lack of attention to us
- Being happy (you know because happiness is a limited commodity that only certain people can have in life)
- Just being us (How dare we be who we are and NOT what they want us to be)
You know the typical disrespectful things in life.
# 8 – Being Ignored
To ride around again back to the idea that narcissists are emotionally fragile beings. Being ignored has been shown to cause pain in people who are seeking attention. The same areas of the mind that are associated with pain light up in people who are feeling ignored or ostracized.
Their fear of being ignored makes them do some of the most batshit and bizarre things you will ever see in adults.
These are the people who will stalk, spread rumors, break-in into your house/apartment, verbally assault you and even physically assault you.
This is their way of showing they are hurt and because they are hurt you have to hurt. They are children at the highest caliber.
Like a child who doesn’t get attention from mommy and daddy draws on the walls. So to will, a kidult narcissist lashes out in all manners of ways.
I remember (a quick story from my own past) some narcissistic people I worked with who I wasn’t ignoring, but simply not acknowledging (because we didn’t NEED to talk at ALL) had tried to RUN INTO MY CAR to get my attention.
They tried to RUN INTO MY CAR before I moved out the way…just to get attention.
# 9 – Exposure
They are like Vampires. Being brought out into the lights will destroy them.
EXPOSURE! It burns. It BURNNNNNNNNNNS
# 10 – Aging
I wrote an article on “The Fate Of The Aging Narcissists“. Narcissists are scared to grow old. They know they will lose their looks, charm, status, and most of all the will over others.
Like an old lion, they will be run off to die alone. And you know what, most of them end up in old folks homes with NO ONE BY THEIR SIDE.
Am I glorifying their end?
But this is a truth to how so many of these people end up.
The Top Ten Things Narcissists Hate
# 11 – A Person Who Has Self- Respect
Having self-respect will piss off a narcissist. And the reason for this is because they will not be able to hold you and forge you into a person that they want. This is exactly why they are always looking for people who are broken.
They love to pick these people because they are hurt and vulnerable. This is more the reason I preach laughing at narcissist.
See them for what they are.
Narcissists aren’t mighty lions. Graceful Eagles. Or Terrifying Orcas (screw shark).
They are vultures, hyenas, and piranhas.
They go after what is weak and helpless and stay as far away from those that are deemed strong.
# 12 – A Person Who Knows Their Value
I wrote an article titled “Why The Narcissist Devalues Us“. I explain why they devalue us in a metaphorical way. They hate a person who knows their value because then they cannot have that person.
Because they know who they are is not enough to keep the person by their side. Instead of trying to reach higher in life, they will try and drag others down.
# 13 – People Who They Think Are Successful
Narcissists fume at the idea that other people are successful in life. Which is why they are always trying to sabotage and tear others down. The phrase “keep your dreams to yourself” is not too far off and is very poignant.
Not all narcissistic people become successful. And we know this evident as so many narcissists are usually drunk off their posterior.
Drowning the pain.
Drowning their pain from being unsuccessful people.
LEAVE THESE PEOPLE.
# 14 – A Person Who Has Courage
Much like a person who has confidence, a person who has courage will NOT put up with their BS. I have taught myself to be courageous. Because courage, like confidence, are SKILLS that must be learned.
# 15 – People Who Have Dignity: The Power Of Humanity Compels You
Dignity, integrity, morality is anathema to the narcissist. These traits are like holy water to them.
“The power of humanity compels you. The power of humanity compels you.”
# 16 – Your Pet (Yes, I Am Not Lying)
They will not only kick your cat but they will beat your dog, starve the puppies and stomp on the kittens. These people have NO BOUNDARIES.
They just don’t care.
# 17 – Your Children
If you have kids then these kidults WILL fight them for your attention. Like a four-year-old who just meets the newborn baby. They will grow jealous OF THE KIDS.
They’re the babies gotta love them?
Get the reference?
If not check out this video to jog your memory.
# 18 – Your Family
They will try and isolate you from your family. I have had many friends of mine lose touch with their family because of their narcissistic relationship.
# 19 – Your Friends
Not too dissimilar to your family, kids, and pets. They will not want you hanging out with your friends as much because they think they will take you away from them.
# 20 – Your Exes
“Was he BIGGER than me.”
Oh, poor poor insecure narcisistic male.
“You still thinking about that skank.”
Oh, poor poor narcissistic female.
They just never seem to be good enough.
Things Narcissists Fear and Hate
# 21 – Their Mortality
Narcissists know they are not going to be here forever. This is why they try and damage as much as they can.
“If I can’t get credit for this…NOBODY CAN.”
Like a small child on the beach who destroys another kid’s sandcastle.
These people NEVER GROW UP.
# 22 – Being Forgotten
The reason that so many of these narcissists go on such smear campaigns and try and do as many nasty things as they can is that they are scared of being forgotten. The only way that they believe they can be remembered is by doing bad things.
Again they are the kids who will draw on walls, dirty up the kitchen and destroy stuff around the house because this is the only way they will not be forgotten.
The actions of a narcissist are not too dissimilar to a kid.
# 23 – F.O.M.O (Fear Of Missing Out)
Their fear of missing out is an addiction. This is why they send their flying monkeys to keep tabs on you.
“Oh, “so n so” says hi.”
“Oh, they miss you so much.”
So are you seeing anybody?”
They may discard you but they are still watching you like the stalkers and vultures they are.
# 24 – GROWING THE HELL UP
These people think they are in a 90s sitcom family show.
“You got it, dude.”
And the crowd laughs and says ahh in their twisted minds.
They believe they are on a TV show and they are the breakout child.
Everything they do is just cute and humorous.
The reality is that they are grown adults who just don’t want to grow up and they are terrible of taking responsibility for their actions like an adult.
Hence the blame-shifting and projecting.
# 25 – Themselves
The greatest thing that narcissists fear and HATE the most in life…is themselves. Behind the bravado is nothing more than a person who is so out of tune with themselves. The way that they act only reveals that they are people so disassociated with themselves.
They hurt others because deep down they are hurt. They make people envious and jealous because deep down they are easily led to feeling envious and jealous.
And they lash out at the world because that is the only they feel like they can get attention. Because just being themselves would garner them NO ATTENTION.
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We laugh NOT to tease… but to heal.
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Narcissistic people can do a wonder on someone’s mind and psychology. In fact, I wrote an article called “10+ Mental Illnesses Caused By Staying With A Narcissists“.
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When everyone around you is trying to convince you that YOU are the bad person, sometimes an objective view of you from someone you don’t know maybe what saves you from drowning in the sea of insanity the narc and their legion of fools try and drown you in.
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