If you are wondering if you are dating a narcissist then in this article are 9 signs of narcissism relationships that you should be on the lookout for.
Narcissistic relationship abuse can leave a person broken, hurt, confused, and torn apart.
To help you prevent falling into these cesspools of a relationship, or to better shine a light on you if you are with a narcissist, I have taken the liberty to outline 9 signs you should be on the lookout for.
Know this, before we continue on, narcissist DO NOT and CANNOT LOVE. If you are deep down thinking that you are dating a narcissist and think you can change them…STOP.
Do not waste your time and do not allow them to damage you to the point you no longer see your value.
There are plenty of other fishes out there in the sea.
Don’t settle for a piranha when you can bag you an angelfish.
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9 Signs Of Narcissistic Relationships
1.) THEY ONLY WANT TO TALK ABOUT THEMSELVES
“That’s enough of me talking about myself – let’s hear you talk about me!”
Narcissist’s definition is… “IT’S ALL ABOUT MEEEEEEEEEEEE”.
Narcissistic people love talking about themselves. But what they really love is when other people are talking about them.
This is why those of us who have healed say No Contact is the best thing. Our silence and lack of attention eat away at them.
2.) THEY ARE SKILLED MANIPULATORS: Narcissistic Relationships
They are, what I love to call them, “psychological warriors”. They will gaslight, project, and shift the blame on others. The gaslighting is one of the favorite tactics to use on their victims.
“I never did that.”
“I never said that.”
3.) THEY NEED TO CONTROL EVERYTHING: Narcissistic Relationships
They will constantly ask you where you have been, who you were talking to, what you plan on doing, and so on. They are some of the most intrusive people you will ever come across.
And they make some of the worst bosses, managers, and supervisors that you will ever come across. They are what makes workplaces and homes so TOXIC.
4.) THEY ARE ENTITLED AND DON’T MIND TAKING ADVANTAGE OF OTHERS
Narcissists have what is known as infantile solipsism.
Infantile Solipsism is also the principal belief behind the sense of entitlement. A woman only sees those who are wealthier than her, she becomes envious and she wants that wealth for herself, not acknowledging that there are many people around her that are not as well off as she is. – The Female Psychosis part 3: Solipsism
This goes for both genders. They believe that they are just owed something.
5.) THEY MAKE THEMSELVES LOOK LIKE THE UNFORTUNATE VICTIM: Narcissistic Relationships
Narcissists are master of shifting the blame and ending up the victim. They can go around and destroy lives with all the evidence pointing back to them and they will say, “But they made me do it. It is all their fault.”
This is not hyperbole and it boggles my mind at how many people out there give so much power to a bunch of “kidults”.
They will do YOU wrong and when you don’t apologize or if you ASK them why they are mad they will shift it on you and say you are attacking them.
6.) THEY CONSTANTLY OVERSTEP BOUNDARIES: Narcissistic Relationships
It is very important to set up boundaries. Narcissist, however, will find your boundaries and step over them just to see if they can. If they did it once they will do it again.
7.) NOTHING IS EVER THEIR FAULT
“You made me do it”.
If you have found your partner doing something that damages the relationship, such as flirting, and you call them out on it and they shift they say the aforementioned.
YOU ARE DEALING WITH A NARCISSIST.
8.) THEY ARE ENVIOUS OF OTHERS
Be watchful and mindful of the green eye. Also known as the reptilian stare/gaze. Trust me, you will know it when you see it. Just a blank, void-less, un-human gaze they give to people.
9.) THEY CONSTANTLY COMPARE
The last signs of narcissism relationships can be found in comparing. Narcissists love to compare you with other people. They do this in an attempt to devalue you.
Narcissists love to devalue others so that that person doesn’t know their worth. Narcissists fear people who know their worth.
And the reason being is because they cannot control them.
If the person you are dating exhibits any of these signs then for the love of your psyche and heart…LEAVE THEM ASAP.
Your future self will thank you.
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Narcissistic people can do a wonder on someone’s mind and psychology.
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The narcissists and their legion of fools can slowly drive you insane. And sometimes the best help you can ever receive is from a stranger.
When everyone around you is trying to convince you that YOU are the bad person, sometimes an objective view of you from someone you don’t know maybe what saves you from drowning in the sea of insanity the narc and their legion of fools try and drown you in.
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