For many people, the idea of walking away from a narcissistic relationship can feel very much like a defeat. It can feel like we are letting people walk all over us.
It is natural when we have been wronged to want to seek justice. And it is natural for us to want to get revenge.
The old aphorism, “revenge is the sweetest joy,” can seem very appealing.
Heck, I know myself.
The dreams that we have about getting revenge can feel so…good.
But revenge with a narc is not justice. It is not getting back at them. And it is not in any way shape or form…a way to heal.
With a narc, the worse thing that you can ever do to them is to…walk away.
And I know…I know…this is NOT what you WANT to hear.
But it is something you NEED to hear.
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When You Walk Away, It Is A Victory Not A Defeat
“Beware that, when fighting monsters, you yourself do not become a monster… for when you gaze long into the abyss. The abyss also gazes into you.”? Friedrich W. Nietzsche
I am a firm believer and practitioner of BEING ME. I think there is no greater defeat that I can ever face in life…than but to become my enemy.
A narc’s favorite thing to do is to keep people from moving on or achieving anything in life.
The narcissist takes great pleasure in having people think about them, even if the thoughts are bad. This is because they need attention… ALL OF THE TIME.
Narcs need constant attention and validation. They don’t know how to function if they don’t have attention. Narcs are, as I have stated many times, like children.
They are the small kid who draws on walls just to get the attention of their parent.
When you lash out at a narc and get into a verbal fight with them, you are actually doing what they want.
You are feeding their ego.
To a narcissist, if they can get you angry, upset, anxious, or emotional…they are winning. And they are succeeding because they are controlling your emotions.
When you walk away from a narcissistic person, you are taking back your life and energy.
By not feeding into their drama…you win.
You win this battle that you didn’t even know you were fighting because you don’t feed the narc. And when a narc is devoid of supply and attention, they die inside.
Win By Not Fighting
Narcs are incapable of loving someone other than themselves. The more you try and change them, the more time you waste.
Narcs will never love anyone but themselves. And what makes things worse is that they get pleasure from causing people to suffer.
They love the idea that we love them and in withholding love from us that it hurts us.
They are irrational people.
When you walk away from them, you take back your pride, your dignity, your integrity…but most of all, you take back your self.
And when you can save you from them…that is a victory unlike anything else in this life.
Walking away is NOT a sign of weakness.
Because when you have a narcissist, along with their flying monkeys, trying to hold you BACK and you decide to keep moving FORWARD, that shows you are powerful beyond measure.
Most people give in into the trolling.
Move on in life because the narc will only keep you down and back in life.
Stay strong. Live happily. And always love yourself as much as you would love someone else.
Feel free to read more of my blogs if you found this helpful, with my most popular article being THE WORST THING YOU CAN DO TO A NARCISSIST.
No Shame In Therapy
Narcissistic people can do a wonder on someone’s mind and psychology.
In fact, I wrote an article called “10+ Mental Illnesses Caused By Staying With A Narcissists“.
The narcissists and their legion of fools can slowly drive you insane. And sometimes the best help you can ever receive is from a stranger.
When everyone around you is trying to convince you that YOU are the bad person, sometimes an objective view of you from someone you don’t know maybe what saves you from drowning in the sea of insanity the narc and their legion of fools try and drown you in.
Therapy can help heal in ways that reading blogs, listening to videos, and talking with other WARRIORS (we are not survivors, we are warriors) can ever do.
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Narcs have a legion of fools behind them to hurt you, I think it would be a good thing to build your own army of warriors and allies to help stand by your side.