When a Covert Narcissist finds someone new, it can feel like we weren’t good enough.
We can feel like our world is coming down around us. And we can feel like we want to be back in their lives.
The narcissist in your life knows precisely this.
This is why they hurried up and moved on after the split. The narcissist had people (supply) waiting when they decided to discard us.
The discard is to give them pleasure because they know that getting rid of us — and then finding someone else to replace us — is just emotional and psychological torture that many of us would not be strong enough to bear; initially.
And I dare say that a majority of these people have no concept of what love is.
No matter how much they (the partner and supply) may smile in their Facebook post, Instagram post, or other social media platforms, the new supply is nothing more than a …lie.
And the sad thing about it is that most times, the new supply “doesn’t even know this themselves.”
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The New Supply
This is ALL AN ILLUSION. The narcissists know that you are watching.
The new supply is just a tool to HURT US. The narcissist is not happy.
And sadly, instead of being angry at the new supply, pity them.
Even if they know the narcissist left us for them.
They have no idea that they are just being used. This is what the narc does; they only use everyone.
They are master of distorting people’s images and spinning their words against them.
You Are Worth Something Without The Narc In Your Life
What do I mean by this? As empaths, we love. And when we love, we love so unconditionally and innocently. This is what this narc creature can somehow sniff out.
When a narcissist finds someone new, it isn’t because we weren’t good enough. It is their sneaky little tactic of trying to make us jealous. It is their sneaky small way of trying to hurt us.
To them, everything is a game. The narcissists we have encountered in our lives, know that some of us will be watching.
And this is more the reason why I champion the idea of NO CONTACT.
Because it will make everything they do, living the FALSE LIFE, be for nothing. And furthermore, by going NO CONTACT, we will be able to get back to who we were before the narc’s irrational thinking poisoned us.
I know it hurts now, but if you go back and keep thinking about them, you will remain hurt for the rest of your life. Stay strong and go NO CONTACT.
Your future self will thank you.
Note: If you cannot go No Contact due to having kids then I highly recommend “Grey Rocking.”
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