How To Hurt a Narcissist
The worst thing you can do to a narcissist that will drive them insane is straightforward. But it is something that far too many victims often overlook.
Many of us cannot see the answer because we have been so hurt by what the narcissist did to us, which is understandable.
Narcissists hurt us so that we always have something to remember them by.
This is precisely why the pain that we feel blinds us from the obvious solution.
I say this not to take away from the pain we may have endured — because I know how it feels to WANT to get revenge on the narcissist.
But we must always remember that old aphorism says: “those who seek revenge better dig TWO GRAVES.”
And I ask you, is destroying our lives, this gift we have of experiencing only one time, really worth the revenge?
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The best way to get revenge on a narcissist is by…LIVING HAPPILY.
And I know right now for many of you, who are angry — those of us who are bitter.
Those of us who are upset and those who spiteful about what the narcissist did to us — that this is the LAST thing you want to hear.
I can already hear some of you.
“Just MOVE ON?”
“Don’t punish them for what they did?”
“This anger I feel needs to be let out!”
And I know. Trust me. I know.
Please hear me out for a second as I will elucidate what that (living happily) does to the narcissist.
Narcissists believe, without a shadow of a doubt, that by discarding us, giving us the silent treatment, destroying our reputation, and spreading lies about us that we will be hurt by it.
And for many people, they may be hurt. But that is EXACTLY what the narcissists want.
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The Narcissists Love Destruction: How To Hurt a Narcissist
They love seeing the destruction
They LOVE the idea that they can hurt us.
Narcs LOVE the idea that they can destroy our image and life.
The Narcissist LOVES the idea that they can mold other people’s reality and perception of us.
It tickles their ego, knowing that they can bad mouth us to other people and then have these people foolishly believe every word they have said.
I know how frustrating it can be to have someone you NEVER even said hello to say to you with disgust, “I’ve heard all about you.”
It’s frustrating, I know.
Narcissists do this to try and make us feel alone. Because in their twisted minds, they can not stand the idea of being left alone, so EVERYONE ELSE MUST think the same, right?
So when they discard us or give us the silent treatment, know that they are STILL thinking about us and that they are gleaming at the idea that we are hurt.
By MOVING ON and doing “us” and being successful, the moment they find out (and they will find out because they have flying monkeys who will keep tabs on our lives) that will DESTROY THEIR WORLD and THEIR EGO.
They will feel like, “after all the mess I did… they are still…HAPPY?”
This will disrupt a narcissist’s mind. These people get pleasure from causing harm to others, and when we can turn that frown upside down, that messes the Narcissist up in more ways than one.
It shows to the narcissists that despite EVERYTHING (and listen to this)…EVERYTHING they have done, what they did, and what they will try to do — that, it doesn’t even phase us, because they are so… UNIMPORTANT.
Narcs Are Attention Fiends Of The Highest Caliber
Narcissistic people thrive on attention. They NEED ATTENTION SO BADLY. When they have deemed us “supply” for their purposes and when we take back ourselves from them…that is a MAJOR blow to them.
Narcs are like parasites. They need others to feed on; otherwise, they will shrivel up like the vermin they are.
When you stop giving them attention, that serves as a massive blow to them, and they start to feel pain.
They genuinely feel pain.
Check out this article on “HOW TO HURT A NARCISSIST AND GET AWAY WITH IT.”
Live Our Best Life
Living our best lives is the best revenge because it keeps us from sullying who we are.
To seek revenge on the Narcissist is to BE like the Narcissist.
And when we lose who we are — that is when they take full control over who we are.
Understand these people love to control and manipulate. But more importantly, they love to destroy a person’s life, and they love to destroy our character.
When we move on and live happily, that brings down their illusion of superiority and reveals to them something they don’t want to see.
And the truth is; that they are NOTHING IMPORTANT.
Live your best life.
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