Staying in a narcissistic relationship because of the children is something that many people do.
There is a belief in society that children need two parents to have a strong and healthy upbringing.
And although I do NOT argue vehemently against this idea, I would like to play devil’s advocate here in regards to the single-parent household when a narcissist is involved!
I believe that a child being raised with ONE healthy parent can be much better for the child’s psychological and emotional health than to be raised in a household where the parents are always fighting.
Children raised in toxic and dysfunctional homes, later on in life, start to develop many mental disorders.
Mental disorders such as childhood trauma, childhood PTSD, anti-social tendency, and anxiety, to name a few.
Check out my article about dysfunctional parents and their effect on their kids here SIGNS OF DYSFUNCTIONAL PARENTS: THEY AFFECT THEIR KIDS.
Childhood trauma can lead to children developing addictions to alcohol and drugs.
According to the National Institute of Health (NIH), children who grow up in traumatic households have a higher likelihood of developing substance abuse BEFORE the age of 18.
Read the full report here 2019 Guide: the Link Between Childhood Trauma and Addiction in Adulthood.
If you think staying with a narc partner will be best for the child, then take a moment to consider this.
With school shooting, cyberbullying, substance abuse in kids, depression in teens rising, and other mental illnesses on the rise…our kids NEED a household free of drama.
Staying In Narcissistic Relationships Because Of The Children
Many research studies have shown the adverse effects that abuse and neglect have on the brain (links to the reviews in the intro). Abuse and neglect rewire the brain structuring of children.
Childhood trauma can cause emotional damage that can make it very difficult for the child to regulate their emotions. Childhood trauma also has the effect of causing cognitive impairment.
Check out this research article “Children Exposed to Abuse and Neglect: The Effects of Trauma on the Body and Brain.”
Staying Together Because Of The Baby: Narcissistic Relationships
Staying together because you may be pregnant will be ALL the ingredients that the baby will need to develop the seeds of sociopathic tendencies/ or psychopathic tendencies.
Research has shown that kids as young as two years of age can develop these traits.
Letting your child stay around a narcissist will only help foster those traits in the child that much easier, as children are very suggestible.
Narcissistic Relationships Destroy Lives
They are UNAPOLOGETIC!
Narcissists will destroy your life, as well as your child’s life, if given the opportunity. Destruction to them is a pleasure, even if that destruction is of their flesh and blood.
These creatures have no idea how to empathize. And this is because they lack empathy. (Read the full article here about Narc’s (people with NPD) having a thinner neocortex than ordinary people.)
Staying together with the Narc can be extremely dangerous for the child’s upbringing and the life of the partner. Domestic violence is rising, and most partners are killed by the very people they were in love with.
If you see that your partner has narcissistic tendencies, you may want to do what you can to leave them. They will destroy your lives and think absolutely nothing of it.
It can be challenging raising a child all by your lonesome.
But raising a kid with a narcissistic partner will damage that kid, but it will also potentially turn that child away from you.
Narcissistic Relationships have a fantastic ability to turn their kids against the other parent who isn’t a narc.
There are many cases where children start to mimic their narc parents and lose respect and LOVE for their empathetic parents.
To raise a kid by yourself is difficult. But to lose your child to a narc (regarding that relationship you can build and them developing into a DECENT HUMAN BEING) is devastating.
Feel free to read my previous article, SIGNS OF DYSFUNCTIONAL PARENTS: THEY AFFECT THEIR KIDS.
Check out these articles for more information about raising a kid(s) with a narcissist:
- How to help your children when their other parent is a narcissist
- The Narcissistic Family: A Narcissist, An Exhausted Spouse and Anxious Children
- Why Unloved Daughters Fall for Narcissists
- 7 Ways Narcissists Retaliate Through Children
No Shame In Therapy
Narcissistic people can do a wonder on someone’s mind and psychology.
In fact, I wrote an article called “10+ Mental Illnesses Caused By Staying With A Narcissists“.
The narcissists and their legion of fools can slowly drive you insane. And sometimes the best help you can ever receive is from a stranger.
When everyone around you is trying to convince you that YOU are the bad person, sometimes an objective view of you from someone you don’t know maybe what saves you from drowning in the sea of insanity the narc and their legion of fools try and drown you in.
Therapy can help heal in ways that reading blogs, listening to videos, and talking with other WARRIORS (we are not survivors, we are warriors) can ever do.
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Narcs have a legion of fools behind them to hurt you, I think it would be a good thing to build your own army of warriors and allies to help stand by your side.