How To Manipulate A Narcissist
It can be a sweet victory to get one over on a narcissist who has continuously lied to us, used us, and abused us (emotionally and psychologically)!
Beating them at their irrational games is a great feeling, and not only that, it can save us from their insanity.
It is very important to know that these people will NEVER be reasonable.
Hurting us brings them joy.
If you are looking at escaping a narcissist relationship, here are six ways that you can do this without them even knowing what is going on.
Now, mind you, these manipulating tactics ARE NOT to get them to change.
You will not change the narcissist. Get that into your head right now!
THAT WILL NOT HAPPEN!
These are tactics to give you the upper hand for your escape.
You gain NOTHING from staying with these people. The only thing you will get is mental illnesses.
And d*mn it, they are not worth it.
This is how to manipulate a narcissist and make them pay for whatever nonsense they put you through. This is what to do when escaping a narcissist.
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How To Manipulate A Narcissist ~ 6 Things You Can Do
1 – Act Naive To The Triangulation Narcissist ~ Manipulating a Narcissist
Triangulation is a manipulation tactic where one person will not communicate directly with another person, instead using a third person to relay communication to the second, thus forming a triangle. It also refers to a form of splitting in which one person manipulates a relationship between two parties by controlling communication between them. Triangulation may manifest itself as a manipulative device to engineer rivalry between two people, known as divide and conquer or playing one (person) against another. ~ Wikipedia
Accept The Triangulation
Now, this is easily one of the narc’s favorite methods to slowly drive us insane (next to gaslighting).
They will try and make us question our sanity and worth by propping up one person and letting us down.
This is to make us question if we are good enough in their eyes. They love devaluing us.
When they do this, agree with them on how great the other person is for them.
If the partner says, “Oh, she/he is so much more attractive than you,” say, “You are so right! I am nothing like them.”
This gives this idea that you accept that you are not good enough, and by this, if they cheat and discard us for that other person…they will most likely not reach out to us again.
Because they discarded us, and we moved on.
Now depending on the narc, some may plead and beg for you to take them back.
But for the covert narc, they will want you back, but the idea of asking you to take them back coupled with the fear of being rejected WILL KEEP THEM AWAY.
How do I know, because I used this same tactic?
When they told me I was not good enough for them and didn’t need me, I accepted it.
I heard from others how they would talk about me and wondered how they could get me back.
Trust me. Let a narc think they are getting rid of you and use that as your means to escape.
Note: Linked below is a story that delves into this tactic, and I must say, I thought she did a GREAT JOB at escaping and playing the narc.