How To Make A Narcissist Fear You: 25 Ways To Do So

How To Make A Narcissist Fear You: 25 Ways To Do So

How To Make A Narcissist Fear You: 25 Ways To Do So

The Top 10 Things Narcissists Fear

Narcissists fear many things. They are not brave or courageous people. They are easily some of the most cowardly people on this planet, so they are such nasty people.

# 1 – Abandonment

If there is one thing that strikes fear in a narcissist it is abandonment. Think for a second and ask yourself these questions:

“Why do they always look for so many supplies?”

“Why do they enjoy discarding people?”

“And why do they go batsh*t insane when you don’t respond to a discarding?”

The reason is that this is a major fear of narcissist.

In their warped, deluded minds, they believe that if they do it to others, nobody will do it to them.

It’s a bit of reverse psychology; they are trying to project their fears and weaknesses into their partner.

This is why no contact is such a powerful tool.

It hurts the narcissist on a massive level.

Narcissists fear abandonment because most narcissists really aren’t as smart or evolved as they think themselves to be, they cannot wrap their heads around being at peace with themselves.

And this is because these people are sadly: “an existence of pure chaos”.

Peace, order, serenity are alien concepts to them.

# 2 – Criticism

Narcissistic people will criticize you in a heartbeat on how you look, walk, talk, eat, sleep and take a dump.

But “Heavens To Murgatroyd” if you “suggest” a slight change in their outfit for the office party.

“You saying I’m fat?” (When the outfit is clearly revealing the truth)

“Why you like this tie? Is it because John wore it. Huh? HUHHHHHHHH? (Foam coming out the mouth)

Narcissists fear criticism because many of them have extremely weak and fragile egos.

This is precisely why they continuously need to find errors and faults in everyone around them.

This is also why they feel a need to compare others to someone else continually.

In their minds, they cannot accept that they may not be as good as they think they/ or want to be.

So to defend their fragile egos, they love to see other people fail, and they love to sabotage others. 

They believe in their minds if they can get someone to fail, it will damage their confidence.

Narcissistic people HATE CONFIDENT PEOPLE. Click To Tweet

# 3 – Betrayal

It is okay if they betray us because in their minds “everyone betrays everyone”.

(Check out my article on blameshifting/projecting)

We better make sure that we never betray them though.

Entitlement much!

Narcissists fear betrayal.

Being betrayed to them feels like we are saying they are not enough.

And as we have already said, these people fear not being good enough, hence the need to have so many friends, flashy cars, nice clothes and plenty of supply.

They truly are addictive people.

# 4 – Humiliation

Narcissists fear being humiliated.

This is why most of them are always scowling around. If they can look like they are someone NOT TO MESS WITH then nobody will mess with them.

Flawless logic.

They are in every sense of the word the missing link in our evolution.

They are walking among us.

This irrational fear of thinking everyone is out to make you look foolish or just wanting to hurt you is an UNEVOLVED way of thinking and living.

To them, humiliation means a sign of weakness. And like animals out in the wilderness, the moment they show weakness they will get eaten alive.

And humiliation is like being eaten alive by the eyes and opinions of PEOPLE THEY DON’T KNOW.

# 5 – Loneliness

I often say, “I can occupy the same space with people and still feel worlds apart”.

Being around people doesn’t always mean you aren’t going to feel alone. In fact, this is perhaps the worse type of loneliness that one can ever feel.

Narcissists fear loneliness. To them, loneliness is like a hell.

Because despite their “I’m so great” attitude, they don’t like themselves as much as they would like others to believe. Hence the constant need for attention and validation.

And what other way to keep from being lonely than but to stir up conflict and chaos. Have people hate you will force them to keep thinking about you.

# 6 – Rejection

how to make a narcissist fear you

Narcissistic people are emotionally fragile. I know I have said this ad naseum but this is a truth.

Narcissists fear rejection.

To them is literally like feeling burned, hence the phrase “oh, you got burned” when someone is rejected.

The reason for this is because for some people being rejected it lights up the same areas of the brain where people who have been burned are located.

In a new study using functional magnetic resonance imaging (fMRI), researchers have found that the same brain networks that are activated when you’re burned by hot coffee also light up when you think about a lover who has spurned you.

These people literally feel like they have been burned because of a rejection.


This is why I champion NO CONTACT.

You get back at them for ALL the insanity they put you through by rejecting them and going no contact.

# 7 – Being Disrespected

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Because they feel like they are worthless — having someone disrespect them only validates and confirms that they really are worthless.

Narcissists fear being disrespected.

And to them, disrespect can come in many forms, which to us don’t really appear to be disrespectful.

Signs that narcissists views as how to frustrate a narcissist:

  • Not saying “hi” to them; even though they don’t show any signs they are looking for our attention
  • Having a life without them in it
  • Not giving them attention; despite the fact that they give the same lack of attention to us
  • Being happy (you know because happiness is a limited commodity that only certain people can have in life)
  • Just being us (How dare we be who we are and NOT what they want us to be)

# 8 – Being Ignored

how to make a narcissist fear you

To ride around again back to the idea that narcissists are emotionally fragile beings.

Narcissists fear being ignored.

When a narcissist is ignored it causes pain in them because they are seeking attention.

But there is another form of silent abuse that has been found to be just as devastating – and may be going unnoticed. Recent research has found that ostracism, being ignored or shunned by others, can actually be more painful to some individuals than bullying or physical harm1,2

Learning and The Brain

The same areas of the mind that are associated with pain light up in people who are feeling ignored or ostracized.

Their fear of being ignored makes them do some of the most batsh*t and bizarre things you will ever see in adults.

These are the people who will stalk, spread rumors, break-in into your house/apartment, verbally assault you and even physically assault you, just to get your attention.

Much like a child who doesn’t get attention from mommy and daddy draws on the walls. So to will, a kidult narcissist lashes out in all manners of ways.

I remember (a quick story from my own past) some narcissistic people I worked with who I wasn’t ignoring, but simply not acknowledging (because we didn’t NEED to talk at ALL) had tried to RUN INTO MY CAR to get my attention.

They tried to RUN INTO MY CAR before I moved out the way…just to get attention.

# 9 – Exposure

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Narcissists fear being exposed for the energy vampires they are.

They are like Vampires. Being brought out into the lights will destroy them.


# 10 – Aging

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I wrote an article on “The Fate Of The Aging Narcissists“.

Narcissists fear getting old.

They know they will lose their looks, charm, status, and most of all the will over others.

Like an old lion, they will be run off to die alone. And you know what, most of them end up in old folks homes with NO ONE BY THEIR SIDE.

Am I glorifying their end?


But this is a truth to how so many of these people end up.

7 thoughts on “How To Make A Narcissist Fear You: 25 Ways To Do So

  1. I was with my ex narc for 13 years this man destroyed me in everyway he got shot and i took care 9f him for 2 and half years the first 8 years i was with him he didnt speak to his family even after being shot so i guess i was in place of them he has money so he can use it against you and hold it over your head at first he uses it to act like you are in things together had me pick out cabin for 2 years iblooked at five thousand houses with him we were a we then it was all a show i guess not to me it wasnt then at 50 he started cheating behindcmy back only to blame me then he threw me away because he started talkjing to his family again so for last 3 years of our relationship i was treated like a maid or dog or nothing at all being jealous falesly turned into not caring at all planning trips canceling them on me then going without me meeting a girl there with buddies and inviting her to come stay at his csbin shes married and a singer but at t8me he didnt know that so he invited them both because she afmires him and he loves that of course she does he treats her like shes the queen of england while i get charged for everything now and broke up with once a month for dumb reasins until finally thrown away all together then hes on pirn sites telling women how beautiful they are fetting disgusting pics and when i confronted him because r8ght in front of me her face kept popping up on phone i was crazy yet he was telling friends how he wanted to fly her in here mind you shes only 20 if real so i was told finally they were getting know eachother and she would be here soon our life our memories me taking care of him wiping his ass changing his woynds daily none if that counted i was nobody nothing and weird and crazy and a stalker after 13 years and i only wanted money it was almost like waking up in nightmare now he doesnt soeak to me at all because god forbid he admit to making a mistake what would people say dont know what hapoened with fake girl ever bit of course shes not here but hes hit on anything with a pulse anyway im history to him idk i just dobt get any of how they can live with themselves it makes me so sick

    1. This is the mindset of narcissists. They can take no responsibility for their actions. They will place blame on others. They will do us wrong and then say we are crazy.

      They are like grown children.

      You may not see it know but once you heal you will come to see that him leaving is a blessing in disguise.

  2. I was raised by an entire family of narcissists and they abused me my whole life then when I finally became a mother very late in life, they abused my son and scapegoated us both. My narcissistic 88 year old mother assaulted my son many times, once I pulled her off of him and she told everyone we were on top of her. My brother and sister assaulted me and my son and they completely lie about it. My oldest sister isn’t physically abusive just extremely passive aggressive and believes all of their lies. My son and I went no contact in January and I can tell you it’s the only way to truly become joyful and whole again. My regret is that for financial reasons I stayed in the narcissistic mothers home too long. We didn’t ever need her. I just didn’t realize how well we would do without her. I hear now that she cries to people how much she misses us. Yet, she discarded us with a protective order after assaulting us and lying about it. I’m super relieved looking back that she did the PO. She’s nuts and I see it so clearly now. Not a mother, just a biological life giver. I can’t even call her my mother anymore. If you know a narcissist, then you know I’m not being unkind and I’m not exaggerating how bad they are. And so dishonest! And yes they do their best to steal from you whatever they can. It’s pathetic. But I won’t waste anymore of my energy thinking of them. They never deserved us. My son and I are doing very well now. He’s a 4.0 student and thinking pre-med! I’m a happy property manager and singer who loves to be a full-time mom. We are relieved and happy to be 100% no contact with ALL of them. Narcissistic people are extremely toxic. Get out and be 100% no contact! It’s the best and only way!

    1. So very happy for you and moving on. You are so right that moving away from them is when happiness begins. Your story could inspire many people.

  3. Nicely put. I’ve sent this to my daughter. She’s with a bi-polar, narcissist. It breaks my heart. She keeps saying, “mom u taught us unconditional love, and everyone deserves to be loved. ” I respond, yes that includes u. He self harms which scares me. He has scars down his face from slashing himself with hunting knives. Last spring he stabbed/slashed himself in the chest over his heart so bad he needed many stitches. I hope ur article helps her. Its very good thank you.

    1. My heart goes out to you and your daughter. And to the guy as well. He seems like he has NPD, not narcissism (as they are different).

      I applaud your daughter for having such a heart.


      We are human. And as I often say, we get ONE GO AT THIS THING CALLED LIFE.

      Is it fair to give up this GIFT (because life is a gift) to save someone who is HELLBENT ON NOT BEING SAVED?

      I understand that Bipolar and NPD are mental illnesses — but if he really wants to change and he really loves your daughter then he might want to speak with a therapist.

      Bipolar can be treated.

      I hope your daughter also finds this article helpful.

      I can imagine the conversations he has with your daughter. He probably says he will kill himself if she leaves him or that he will hurt himself if she walks out on him.


      And that is a form of abuse, even if she isn’t being physically harmed.

      Praying for the best (for everyone)!

  4. I am waiting for my estranged younger sister to need, need, need a victim again. She has no clue that I have learned what to do . She will be so freaked out and yeah, she will cry. She hates that. When she sees she cant touch me in any way, physically and emotionally she will go to the bar and drink until she can’t shit or go blind. She is so lovely . UGH !

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