Forgive and forget. This is what so many people tell us. Just accept and move on. As callous and as annoying as it may sound, there is a great amount of power in this statement. Moving on is never easy. Especially when the narcissist has put so many of us through hell.
The idea of just allowing what they did, to just…”go”, is a frustratingly difficult thing to do.
But here’s the thing.
Holding on to that anger and resentment is exactly what the narcissist wants. But more importantly, it is exactly what the narc themselves would do.
They have been wronged by someone in life and they never learned how to let it go. This is why they are so frantic all the time. They think someone will hurt them again.
For example, they can remember something as nefarious as someone not sharing their “lego blocks“, with them.
“Oh! You say they were just kids and that left an indelible mark on them.”
Yes, very true, but the narc will be like 38 years old and will throw a temper tantrum at a 5-year-old over lego blocks.
This makes sense only to a narc.
So Why Just Accept and Move On
In accepting and moving on with your life you show the narc how FRAGILE they are. You show them that NOT everyone breaks down and falls apart when they don’t get their way.
By moving on and accepting what has happened and staying focus on your dreams and goals, you show the narc that despite everything they did…THEY COULD NOT BREAK YOU.
These people are glass people. So easily shattered by the slightest thing.
By moving on and accepting what has happened you polish up the diamond that you are.
The narcissist is like glass and anything can make them crack.
Us being the diamonds we are, appear to be glasslike but we are so much more durable.
This is why these nutjobs work so hard to crack us.
They may have smudged our exterior with their smear campaigns and gossiping.
But moving on and accepting is polishing up the diamonds we are.
And thus we can shine BRILLIANTLY once again.
And to a narc who is nothing more than fragile glass…THIS IS THE GREATEST INSULT.
They will never be as durable, as valuable, and as shiny in character as we will.
And this is why they try and hurt us so bad.
So please, if they hurt you…move on and get back to being you. Your success will be the biggest slap in the face to these fragile glass people.
No Shame In Therapy
Narcissistic people can do a wonder on someone’s mind and psychology.
In fact, I wrote an article called “10+ Mental Illnesses Caused By Staying With A Narcissists“.
The narcissists and their legion of fools can slowly drive you insane. And sometimes the best help you can ever receive is from a stranger.
When everyone around you is trying to convince you that YOU are the bad person, sometimes an objective view of you from someone you don’t know maybe what saves you from drowning in the sea of insanity the narc and their legion of fools try and drown you in.
Therapy can help heal in ways that reading blogs, listening to videos, and talking with other WARRIORS (we are not survivors, we are warriors) can ever do.
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Narcs have a legion of fools behind them to hurt you, I think it would be a good thing to build your own army of warriors and allies to help stand by your side.