It is not uncommon for those who have to deal with a narcissist or who have been with a narcissist to want to hurt them for the irrational harm they unleashed upon us. In this article, I will explain how to hurt a narcissist and how you can get away with it.
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Dish Out Pain To The Narcissist
I know for many people out there who have been harmed by their narcissists that they want to hurt them. And you know what…
THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT.
Narcissists are such parasites. They are some of the most self-absorbed people on this planet and among the most delusional. They have no emotional regulation, and their perception of the world borderlines infantile solipsism.
(Infantile Solipsism is ‘you only see what you want to see,’ although that is only half of it because ‘you also won’t see what you don’t want to see.’ This can explain why some people – especially Narcissist – have difficulty empathizing with others; if you are meaningless to her, then all your actions are meaningless.) – The Female Psychosis part 3: Solipsism
Hurting a narc can feel like we have vindicated ourselves for allowing them to use and manipulate us.
So with this said, “how do you hurt a narcissist and get away with it”?
Well…by NOT ACKNOWLEDGING THEM.
What NOT Acknowledging Them Does To Their Mind
Okay. Hold on.
Hey! Wait a second.
C’mon. Give me a minute to explain before clicking off.
There is science to PROVE IT.
I already hear some of you.
“I have read this before.”
“This is not hurting them.”
“I want to punish them.”
Just hear me out because you HAVE TO understand the narc’s mind and what NOT acknowledging them does to them.
Narcs are in every sense of the word ‘attention fiends’. They thrive on attention, even if the attention is bad.
They don’t care.
As long as someone is thinking about them, they are happy.
Because in their delusional minds, if people are thinking about them, they are important. And narcs want always to feel like they are important.
The moment you stop giving them attention, they will start to hurt.
And when I say hurt, I am not talking about emotionally…I am talking physically.
How Does This Work?
I want you to draw upon your feelings. Think about how they did you wrong; what does that do to you?
It gives you a headache. It raises your blood level. And it may even make you sick.
Anger really messes up our minds and thus affects our bodies as well.
Now anger alone can cause a whole plethora of physical ailments on someone, but ignoring someone, cutting them out of our lives, DOES MORE HARM.
A research study revealed that when a person is ignored, it lights up the same areas of the brain where the pain is located.
Let me repeat this in layman’s terms.
When you ignore a narcissist, you are hurting them. The same area that lights up when they feel physical pain lights up when they are ignored!
When you ignore a narc, they are feeling pain.
Remember, these people are attention fiends and delusions beyond comprehension.
Not giving them attention brings down their world of importance.
Narcissists Are A Needy Breed
Narcs thrive on attention. Narcissists are some of the neediest people you will ever come across. When we deny them OURSELVES and OUR ATTENTION, we are hurting them.
And this is EXACTLY why narcs will do some of the most bizarre and batshit insane things when they see we are going to leave them.
Despite their “I am SO tough” and “I am SO great” facade — they are scared little children that are afraid to be alone.
They are scared of the truth, the truth being that they are NOTHING.
This is precisely why they gossip and spread rumors. They don’t want us to see our worth, hence is why they devalue us.
The moment they see we don’t NEED them, they will start to hurt.
And like a rabid animal out in the wilderness which is timid or trying to keep their food, they will lash out in irrational ways.
Because that is the only way they know how to defend themselves and to keep us in their insane world.
How To Hurt A Narcissist: Do Not Feed The Creatures
I call narcs creatures NOT to name-call or to be childish, but because when you look at them at an objective vantage point — they CANNOT be considered equal to a normal human being.
A rational person doesn’t go out there thinking everyone that comes in their peripheral…THEIR PERIPHERAL VISION… should fixate on them.
(This is the insanity that I am talking about.)
A rational person doesn’t go out there smear campaigning people FOR NO REASON.
And a rational person wouldn’t believe they are the center of the universe.
Rational people do not go out of their harming people for the hell of it.
But narcissistic people do.
And the best way to hurt them is NOT to come down to their level and dish out an eye for an eye.
Because that is what they want, they want to wallow in the mud together. They love destroying people’s characters.
The way to hurt them and to really dig into them is to… move on and NOT ACKNOWLEDGE THEM.
By not giving these energy vampires any energy, they will die inside. They will shrivel up like the pathetic creatures they are.
The research has shown that ignoring people cause pain.
So if you want to hurt the narc the same way they hurt you then…move on in life.
This is how you hurt a narc and to do so without coming down to their level.
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