It can be effusively frustrating trying to understand a narcissist’s actions.
From being their sun (meaning they revolved around us) to becoming trash in the blink of an eye can be confusing; to say the least.
More than the frustration we may have gained due to their sheer irrational actions towards us also comes a great amount of self-hatred.
We often feel as if we were fools for staying so long with them.
Everyone around us seemed to know what was going on, except us. And this idea that we were the only ones who didn’t realize kills our self-esteem.
The idea of these people hurting us, violating us, and getting away with all they have done to us can make taking revenge seem like the only choice we can make to feel…happy again.
Vengeance can feel sweet, and becoming our narcissist’s worst nightmare can feel liberating.
But as the adage suggests, “those who seek vengeance better dig two graves.”
And I ask, are they really worth it?
Is getting back at these creatures that masquerade as human beings worth a happy, successful, and loving life?
What if you had the chance to turn that negative energy into something positive?
Could you let go of that negative energy that is weighing you down and use it to lift you up?
Well, in this article, I want to explain how you can become your narcissist’s worse nightmare and do so without having to come down to their level.
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How To Become Your Narcissist’s Nightmare
Falling into a state of hopelessness, depression, paranoia, massive and sever self-hatred is what makes a narcissist happy. These people have a deprave mentality where people suffering, BECAUSE of them, is a joy for them.
Nothing riles these people’s egos up more than knowing that you are in a state of suffering and brokenness because of them.
They sit back and glee at the idea that you have become a broken mess because of them.
And I ask, “how is remaining BROKEN, helping you?”
I know for many, they find healing and recovery difficult because of:
- Financial reasons (they stripped you of your financial means [financial abuse is abuse], or they may have placed you so deep in debt that you can’t pay it off)
- Divorce (they are dragging the divorce out for as long as they can)
- Shame and regret (you feel so ashamed for taking the abuse for so long, and that time you think you have lost or can’t get back)
- SELF_HATRED (that negative monologue JUST DOESN’T SEEM TO STOP)
- STD (these hellspawn pieces of excrement may have given you some type of STD)
I know there is a myriad of reasons as to why healing is challenging.
But just because it is challenging doesn’t mean that it is not possible.
Feeling hopeless keeps you in the darkness. It keeps you feeling like a victim.
Embrace The Darkness: From Darkness…Springs Light
Narcissistic people try to envelop us into a state of darkness. They do this so we will never know what their snakey little motives are. By keeping us in the dark, we never know what it is that they are trying to do.
This is their joy.
But in turning that darkness, the dark times into a period of transformation, development, reevaluation and…ENLIGHTENMENT we destroy their dark world with our light of self-love and continued self-improvement.
I know that it is NOT easy moving on. They do so much damage to us.
But every day that we sulk and ruminate over the harms they have done to us, we only make them happy.
Learning how to turn the bad into the GREAT.
The dark into the light.
And the pain into pleasure.
Will hurt them on a massive level.
Because it shows them that despite EVERYTHING they did to us…all that they did and try to do…ONLY MAKES US STRONGER.
And for people as weak as these creatures are, this is the ultimate blow to their ego.
Think about how riled you get because they SEEM (this is just an illusion) so happy.
They seem happy.
We must become legitimately happy.
Become so successful that the sheer thought of you becoming so successful was because of all the shit they did to you, destroys their self-worth.
This, my fellow warriors, is how you defeat them and become the greatest monster in their eyes.
You become a successful angelic person is their greatest nightmare.
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Check Out This Book
In Shahida Arabi’s Book “Becoming the Narcissist’s Nightmare: How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself” she explains:
- The motives behind narcissistic abuse and techniques to resist a narcissist’s manipulation.
- Why abuse survivors usually stay with a narcissist long after incidents of abuse occur.
- How our own brain chemistry locks us into an addiction with a narcissistic or toxic partner, creating cravings for the constant chaos of the abuse cycle.
- Traditional and alternative methods to begin to detach and heal from the addiction to the narcissist, including eleven important steps all survivors must take on the road to healing.
- Methods to rewrite the narratives that abusers have written for us so we can begin to reconnect with our authentic selves and purpose
- How to rebuild an even more victorious and empowering life after abuse.
Giving in into the pain, the hatred, the dark, cold abyss of hopelessness is EXACTLY…EXACTLY what the narcissist wants.
There is no greater revenge that one can ever have on those who want to DESTROY OUR LIVES then but to take our lives and rebuild it back stronger, better, and MUCH MORE SUCCESSFUL because of being with these people.
Narcissists have an insatiable desire to destroy. And when you show them how much better you are BECAUSE of them trying to destroy you, that is the biggest middle finger to their face.
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Narcissistic people can do a wonder on someone’s mind and psychology. In fact, I wrote an article called “10+ Mental Illnesses Caused By Staying With A Narcissists“.
The narcissists and their legion of fools can slowly drive you insane. And sometimes the best help you can ever receive is from a stranger.
When everyone around you is trying to convince you that YOU are the bad person, sometimes an objective view of you from someone you don’t know maybe what saves you from drowning in the sea of insanity the narc and their legion of fools try and drown you in.
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