This article is about how to beat a female narcissist at their own kidult games. Men get a bad rap, but narcissistic females are just as bad as men!
Narcissistic females, especially when given power, can be just as twisted and insane as any male dictator.
The one caveat, that they have that we can use to our favor and advantage is how much more EMOTIONAL narcissistic females are!
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How To Beat A Female Narcissist At Her Own Games
Now, before I continue, this is not a misogynistic article, but a TRUTH! Women, females, FEMININE PSYCHOLOGY are just more emotional than men are.
And this is NOT a knock, Men and Women are different and there is NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT!
The best way to beat a female narcissist is to deprive her of any energy!
Grey rock her and she will go batsh*t insane. This becomes a great tactic to implement in your strategy to completely defeat her at her own game.
Narcissists cannot stand not getting attention and a reaction out of people — and when you can learn how to NOT GIVE A F*CK what they say, do, or think…you win!
Mental Hacks To Learn How To Grey Rock
Hack # 1 – Remember That They Are Kidults
It is very important to remember that these people are mentally, psychologically, and emotionally stunted.
This is NOT a knock but a truth.
What you need to remind yourself is that they are children and much like a child the worst thing they can experience (or at least in their minds) is to be punished and sent to their rooms (i.e. not given attention)!
These people FEED ON ATTENTION, deprive them of any. Know that by NOT acknowledging them, you are hurting them on a massive level!
Hack # 2 – Your Silence Hurts Them On A Massive Level
To piggyback off of the last entry, silence really hurts these people, and most people to be exact.
When people are ignored, it lights up the same areas of the brain where “pain” is located!
You literally hurt a narc when you ignore them, hence is why they love doing the silent treatment!
Hack # 3 – Think Of How You Want Your Child To Behave With This Person
Lastly, a personal favorite of mines when I deal with people like this is to think, “How would I want my son or daughter to behave with these people?’
Would I want them to get offended by them? Would I want them to lash out at them?
Or would I want them to NOT CARE?
This hack really helps me to rise above their nonsense — and to be honest, this is a hack that everyone does but in a different variation.
Think about a friend of yours who is mistreated and PROVOKED into lashing out, what do you do?
You most likely tell them “THEY ARE NOT WORTH IT,” now just do the same for yourself!
Struggling With C-PTSD?
I often say that living with a narcissist is like living in a war zone! This comparison may very well seem hyperbolic, but research has shown that living around narcissists can have the same effects on a person’s mind as people living in a war zone!
I wrote an article describing the “10+ Mental Illnesses Caused By Staying With Narcissists“.
These people are monsters, plain and simple.
If you are struggling with emotional flashbacks, dealing with mental and emotional battles that NO ONE but yourself seems to see and feel, and if you find it hard to get out of bed every day, you may be dealing with C-PTSD.
As great as support groups may be, or as profound as articles can be, they are no substitute for professional help.
Sometimes the best way to heal and move forward is with therapy.
Speaking with someone and getting the hurt off your chest is a great way to unload.
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