Hey! Your Narcissist COULD Change, But…
If only we love them a little bit harder, maybe they would change.
If only we support them more, maybe they can change.
Maybe if we sacrifice more, they will see we love them.
Maybe if we do more for them, they will see we care for them.
If only WE give ALL of ourselves PLUS MORE maybe…maybe…they will finally change.
I have noticed that there are some people out there who are fully aware of the partner they are dating. They are fully aware that the person they are with is a narcissist. Yet they stay.
Some people even want to marry them, hoping that maybe the marriage, that their love, will let them see that they are loyal to them…and only them.
There is an intense desire by some empath to “save” the narcissists from a prison to which the narcissist themselves have placed themselves in and have no desire to leave.
They have placed themselves in the lowest dungeons of morality and reasoning and get great pleasure from seeing others so high up come down to their level, trying to save them from a hell that they like being in.
This idea that a narcissist can change is very plausible.
As a matter of fact, there have been research studies revealing that narcissists can change their behavior.
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Can a Narcissists Change?
Before I give my opinion on this and give you more information, it is important to know that there is a difference between narcissism and NPD. I am strictly talking about narcissism here. I am NOT talking about NPD (which itself can also be treated).
This is why you will notice that in some of my articles, I consider narcissists to be creatures. And I say this NOT to denigrate them, but to express that they are not like regular people.
The sheer idea that someone gets pleasure from destroying life, and to make this worse to destroy a life of someone who is LOVING THEM, is so nefariously wicked that you cannot entertain the idea that they are in anyway HUMAN BEINGS.
Human beings, care and help other human beings.
Hence, humanitarian efforts.
But I digress (as this is another article unto itself).
To clarify the difference between narcissism and NPD briefly, check out this excerpt from the article “Can Narcissists Actually Change Their Ways? We Asked The Experts“:
It’s important to note that narcissism itself is not a disorder; and it’s a trait that occurs in all people to varying degrees. It’s only when those narcissistic traits begin to negatively affect a person’s life and relationships that they become part of a diagnosable mental health condition known as a narcissistic personality disorder or NPD. It’s also possible for someone to have a few of the characteristics of narcissism without meeting the clinical criteria for full-blown NPD.
Narcissism is a trait that has been picked up. And because it is a trait that has been “picked up”, it is also a trait that can be put down.
So Can They Change For The Better?
The answer is Yes.
In the research experiment, that I have linked to, it was revealed that when narcissist was instructed to see things from someone else perspective that they showed “empathy” towards the person.
Narcissism, as I have already said, is a trait that is picked up. It is not always innate to a person.
It may be because of poor upbringing, getting knocked down by life too often, or a host of other reasons.
With this said, one should NOT HAVE HIGH HOPES.
Is it possible for a narcissist to change?
But it is also possible to survive a fall from a plane that explodes in the air.
It is possible to survive a jump from the Golden Gate Bridge.
And it is possible that you could get struck by lightning and still survive.
However, the chances are VERY SLIM.
And even if you survived any of the previous examples, you would be injured very very severely.
Why stay and cling on to someone who will destroy and injure you mentally, psychologically, and emotionally?
Physical pain can, in of itself, be excruciating.
But the psychological, emotional, and mental pain that narcissists put people through IS NOT WORTH IT.
Note: Yes, people can survive plane crashes.
There Are Other People Out There
Listen, I know it can be challenging leaving a narcissist. In my article, “Why Is Going No Contact So Difficult?” I give five reasons as to why it is so challenging.
One of the major contributing factors as to why going No Contact and breaking it off with a narcissist is due in part to our psychological bonding with these people.
Narcissists are like a drug, or like a symbiotic parasite that makes it very challenging to separate from them.
Despite all evidence showing they are NO GOOD for you.
Finding love may not be the most effortless endeavor to achieve, but love, like friendship, should be rare, and it should be something that you have to search long and hard for.
If love were that easy to find and attain, it would NOT be worth having.
No Shame In Therapy
Narcissistic people can do a wonder on someone’s mind and psychology.
In fact, I wrote an article called “10+ Mental Illnesses Caused By Staying With A Narcissists“.
The narcissists and their legion of fools can slowly drive you insane. And sometimes the best help you can ever receive is from a stranger.
When everyone around you is trying to convince you that YOU are the bad person, sometimes an objective view of you from someone you don’t know maybe what saves you from drowning in the sea of insanity the narc and their legion of fools try and drown you in.
Therapy can help heal in ways that reading blogs, listening to videos, and talking with other WARRIORS (we are not survivors, we are warriors) can ever do.
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Narcs have a legion of fools behind them to hurt you, I think it would be a good thing to build your own army of warriors and allies to help stand by your side.