Healing Word Of Truth
Why you aren’t healing after your split with the toxic cesspool that is a narcissist, has very little to do with them and more about what you want. You have finally left your narcissists.
Maybe this has arisen due to you being discarded or perhaps by you just walking away because you couldn’t stand their kidults mentality anymore.
You should feel and be happy!
No more drama.
No more chaos.
And no more IRRATIONALITY.
But you just can’t let go and heal.
And you may be wondering…
You know they were no good for you.
You know that life is really better without them in it.
And you know that going back to them would be sacrificing your happiness.
The answer is because you want them to regret what they did to you. You want them to have some remorse and show that they understand the pain they put you through.
But here’s the thing.
Narcissists are kidults who will NEVER apologize or feel bad about the wrongs they have done to you.
You want to move on and be happy.
And I know…
You want them to KNOW and suffer and feel regret about you leaving.
But it is this thinking that is halting your healing process.
Why You Aren’t Healing After Your Split With The Narcissist: Healing Word Of Truth
You think that in the narcissist saying “sorry“, and then realizing the pain they put you through that your healing will finally begin.
That just in having some type of closure you will finally move on.
But you have to understand this.
THEY DO NOT GIVE CLOSURE!
And the reason is that they want you to keep thinking about them.
NARCS ARE ATTENTION WHORES!!!!
They feed and survive on attention; like parasites.
They know that if they kick you to the curb and hurt you so badly you will keep thinking about them.
Or at the very least, this is what they want.
And this is exactly why I preach the good gospel of No Contact.
When you go no contact and do not seek their apology or the closure from them…that KILLS THEM.
“Preach Laughing At Narcs!”
“Preach on Brother!”
Educational Church is in Session.
Listen, these people want to leave a scar on you.
So you always have something to remember them by.
Not acknowledging what they have done and not seeking an apology messes them up.
It shows them how unimportant they are. But more importantly, it shows them how IRRELEVANT THEY ARE.
You Are The One Hurting Yourself NOT THE NARC: Healing Word Of Truth
Understand this, every time you think about how they wronged you…YOU ARE PLACING YOURSELF BACK INTO THAT PAIN.
Every time you pine for their apology…YOU ONLY FIRE UP THE “WRONGS” THEY DID TO YOU.
And every time you say why you can’t heal and move on because of what they did to you…YOU DO THEIR JOB FOR THEM.
Chill And Find The Pleasure In Your Freedom
They may never apologize for their actions.
And you know what?
That is 1000% okay.
You don’t need their apology to heal and move on in life. The best revenge is just moving on and being happy. And the icing on the cake is that they will live the rest of their lives being the embodiment of insanity they are.
We get one go at this amazing thing called life.
Live it well and live it WHILE YOU CAN!
No Shame In Therapy
Narcissistic people can do a wonder on someone’s mind and psychology.
In fact, I wrote an article called “10+ Mental Illnesses Caused By Staying With A Narcissists“.
The narcissists and their legion of fools can slowly drive you insane. And sometimes the best help you can ever receive is from a stranger.
When everyone around you is trying to convince you that YOU are the bad person, sometimes an objective view of you from someone you don’t know maybe what saves you from drowning in the sea of insanity the narc and their legion of fools try and drown you in.
Therapy can help heal in ways that reading blogs, listening to videos, and talking with other WARRIORS (we are not survivors, we are warriors) can ever do.
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Narcs have a legion of fools behind them to hurt you, I think it would be a good thing to build your own army of warriors and allies to help stand by your side.