For those of us who have been with a narcissist, we know all too well about their patsies. One of the patsies is Enabling Ed!
So who is Enabling Ed? Well, allow me to introduce you to Enabling Ed!
Introducing Enabling Ed: Keep On Putting Up With Abuse…Be A Nice Person
Sunshines And Rainbows
There is GOOD in everyone, except the victim, of course. To be honest, Enabling Ed(s) thinks the victim can be good, but only if they put up with the narc’s abuse and nonsense!
Irrational Narcissist: “Who put cheese on my grill cheese sandwich?”
Learning how to deal with stuff like this makes you a good person!
See, to Enabling Ed(s), it is the victim’s job to bring out the good in a dark soul that will never become good.
To leave an abusive, irrational, emotionally unstable narcissist is bad. To stay with a narc is Good!
This is the mindset of Enabling Ed(s)!
Rose Red Tinted Glasses
It is no fun dealing with the harshness of reality! Seeing the real world will drive you insane. But with the Rose Red Tinted Glasses, you can live in a fantasy world!
Where everyone can be friends, there are no wars, everyone gets along and sings Kumbaya songs!
It’s always sunshine and rainbows and birds sing songs of heavenly proportion.
This is the vision of Enabling Ed(s)!
The Heart Of Fake Gold
To Enabling Ed(s), love can change everyone!
The reason that the narc boyfriend/husband keeps giving you a black eye is not that he is an angry, emotionally unstable LOSER OF A MAN — No!
It is because YOU ARE NOT LOVING HARD ENOUGH!
The reason that narc girlfriend/wife plays the victim and keeps you from seeing your kids, taking alimony, and making your life a living hell, so much so that you contemplate…you know — is because you aren’t loving hard enough as a man should.
The heart of fake gold, ladies, and gentleman!
The Fist Of War & Peace
On the one hand, you have Enabling Ed(s) defending the narcissists (The Fist of Peace), no matter how messed up the narc is.
Remember, everyone can change!
Even people like Hitler, Mao Zedong, The nut-job LUNATIC In North Korea, the genociding monsters in China, the guerilla mercenaries in the Congo, and certain political leaders in America who love their ice cream — and do so in contrast to millions of Americans who don’t know where their next meal is coming from. Keep on stocking up on that Ice cream! 🤣
These people, remember, have the ability to change!
On the other hand, you have the fist of war.
“You dare have the AUDACITY to leave the narc who was abusing you for NO JUSTIFIABLE REASON? Okay! Okay! We will see how that ends for you. Get ready for the smear campaign and the victim card we will play!”
Speed Of Mercury
They say that rumors spread faster than the truth! And this is especially true with Enabling Ed(s)!
Flash, ain’t got sh*t, on Enabling Ed(s)!
Spread the lies as fast as they can and slow down any truth that may dare to reach the ears of others!
When the narc’s gaslighting starts to lose its flame of lies, Enabling Ed(s), like the good friends they are, come and lends the narcissist a bit of oil to keep the narc’s gaslighting burning strongly!
“Oh, yeah! You did say that. I and we remember you saying that. You must be going a bit crazy, dear!” – Enabling Ed(s)
Struggling With C-PTSD?
I often say that living with a narcissist is like living in a war zone! This comparison may very well seem hyperbolic, but research has shown that living around narcissists can have the same effects on a person’s mind as people living in a war zone!
I wrote an article describing the “10+ Mental Illnesses Caused By Staying With Narcissists“.
These people are monsters, plain and simple.
If you are struggling with emotional flashbacks, dealing with mental and emotional battles that NO ONE but yourself seems to see and feel, and if you find it hard to get out of bed every day, you may be dealing with C-PTSD.
As great as support groups may be, or as profound as articles can be, they are no substitute for professional help.
Sometimes the best way to heal and move forward is with therapy.
Speaking with someone and getting the hurt off your chest is a great way to unload.
Online Therapy is a site that offers visitors the chance to speak with professional therapists who will be able to help you get through your emotional and psychological battles.
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