Fight For A Great Adulthood, Don’t Let Your Narcissistic Parents Win At Destroying You
Narcissistic parents are a special breed. They can make you feel like you’re the most fantastic person in the world or the worst screw-up on the planet. They can make you feel like you’re their entire world or completely expendable. They can be loving and caring one moment and raging and abusive the next.
To have great adulthood, you can’t let your narcissistic parents win at destroying you. They will try to convince you that you are not good enough and need them to be successful, but don’t give in.
You are capable of so much more than they will ever be able to give you. Stand up for yourself and fight for the life you want. Don’t let them control you anymore.
Understand their motives
Narcissistic parents want to maintain control over you and will do anything to make you feel small. If you’re dealing with a narcissistic parent, it’s essential to understand their motives. They may be trying to control you or make you feel inferior.
They may also be trying to make themselves look good in front of others. By understanding their motives, you can work on building a stronger relationship with them.
Why would a narcissistic parent want to do this?
Many reasons why a narcissistic parent would want their child to suffer. It may give the parent a sense of power and control over the child.
The child is made to feel small and insignificant, which can be gratifying for the narcissist.
Additionally, making the child’s life difficult may cause the child to turn to the parent for support and approval more frequently, thus further reinforcing the narcissist’s false sense of superiority and dominance.
Lastly, if the child is perceived as being successful or happy, it may make the narcissist look bad in comparison and threaten their ego. In short, there are many ways in which a narcissistic parent can benefit from their child’s suffering.
It’s important to set boundaries with narcissistic parents and stick to them. Boundaries are essential when dealing with a narcissistic parent. Without them, you will constantly give and sacrifice your happiness to make the narcissist happy.
This is what they want; they thrive off of the chaos and drama. Boundaries will help protect you from their manipulation and enable you to have a healthier relationship with them.
Three main types of boundaries can be helpful when dealing with a narcissistic parent: physical, emotional, and mental.
- Physical boundaries can be setting limits on how much time you spend with them or how close they can get physically.
- Emotional boundaries involve protecting yourself from their insults and criticism by not taking it personally.
- Mental boundaries are about maintaining your thoughts and opinions, even if the narcissist disagrees.
Don’t let them guilt you
Narcissistic parents will try to make you feel guilty for setting boundaries or not living up to their expectations. Don’t let them guilt you. You didn’t do anything wrong.
Narcissistic parents are experts at making their children feel guilty. They’ll use every trick in the book to make you feel like you’re the one who’s responsible for their unhappiness. They’ll make you believe that your mere existence is the cause of all their problems.
But don’t fall for it. You didn’t do anything wrong. The narcissist is the one who’s responsible for their happiness- or lack thereof. It’s not your responsibility to make them happy.
You deserve to be happy and healthy, without feeling guilty. So don’t let them guilt you into doing things their way. Stand up for yourself and do what makes you happy.
Use your support system
Lean on your friends and family members who will be there for you during this challenging time.
When dealing with a narcissistic parent, it can be challenging to find support. After all, who can understand what you’re going through better than someone who’s been there?
Unfortunately, most of your friends and family members are likely to be just as in the dark about narcissism as you were before you started your journey.
This is where support groups come in. There are a number of them available online and in-person, and they offer a safe space for you to share your experiences and get support from people who understand what you’re going through. These groups can also provide a great deal of education about narcissism and how to cope with it.
If there isn’t a group available near you, or if you’d prefer to talk to someone privately, consider finding a therapist who specializes in working with children of narcissists.
Don’t Let Your Narcissistic Parents Win At Destroying You
Narcissistic parents are difficult to deal with. They can be demanding, manipulative, and often self-centered. If you have a narcissistic parent, it’s important to seek professional help.
A therapist can provide you with the tools to manage your relationship with your parent and protect yourself from their manipulation.