Do Not Fight For The Narcissist’s Apology
As long as you are waiting for that apology, for the revelation, for that epiphany from the narcissist…YOU WILL ALWAYS HURT.
The apology will never come. Their awakening to their childish kidult actions will never happen.
And their epiphany has as much of a chance as you getting struck by lighting…ON A SUNNY DAY!
Every second you wait, HOPING, PRAYING, WISHING they will be an adult and admit the wrong they did, you are robbing yourself of a second of happiness.
Narcs LOVE to do people wrong, because they know in their kidult clownish minds that most people will want to get back at them.
They know that in be-clowning themselves that most people will interact with them.
Narcs want us to fight for their apology and for some form of reasoning because this is their INFERIOR MENTALITY this is how they think they can keep people in their worthless lives.
Listen, you wouldn’t fight with a five-year-old who said you were ugly.
Or at least I hope not.
You wouldn’t fight with a bum on the street for laughing at your ugly shoes.
And you wouldn’t yell at a dog for barking at you.
Narcs…are less than all the former in thinking, character, and humanity.
This is not harsh…this is the truth!
Do Not Fight For The Narcissist’s Apology: The Narcissist’s Apology
The reason that many narcs discard people is that they need to feel like they matter. They know that in discarding a person who has shown them nothing but love and care, that most people will try and reason and understand why the narc left them.
It is all a game for them, and arguing, plotting, being vengeful, spiteful, and seeking “closure” is all part of their twisted game.
When you seek any of the above, it shows the narc that, “Look! They are fighting for my attention.”
By simply accepting the discard or the insanity and MOVING ON from them, you win.
Now, you may be saying, “HOW?”
The answer is because of the narc’s craving for attention. I have written this thought to the point that it has become ad naseum on this site, but narcs NEED US, and WE DO NOT NEED THEM.
Think about this.
If they didn’t care about you, meaning they had NO FEELINGS for you, would they:
- Smear campaign you
- Gossip about you
- Try and destroy your character
- Set you up
- Stalk you
- Send their flying monkeys to get intel on you
They do all this because they are crying out for your attention, like the kidults they are.
When they find a new lover it is meant to show YOU that they are a catch.
If you keep watching them, you are only verifying to them how amazing they must be.
In their twisted minds, they say this, “I have a new lover, and my old lover is still seeking me. I must be FABBBBBB-ULOUS.”
Stop feeding their egos.
The Best Revenge
The best revenge is moving forward. Any attention is a PLUS for these losers.
And you have to understand how much of a loser these people are. They love any attention because it shows to them that they matter.
By not caring what they say, think, or do (as long as it doesn’t hurt you, your loved ones, and doesn’t jeopardize your livelihood) WHY CARE?
There are millions of people you can meet who will be MILLIONS OF TIMES BETTER than the narc.
No matter your age. No matter if you have kids or if you don’t have enough money.
THERE ARE PEOPLE OUT THERE WHO WILL NOT CARE.
You just have to look and not be scared to be turned down.
You have to imagine your last moment.
Do you want to cry REGRETTING wasting so much of life trying to get back with TRASH?
Or do you want to be able to look back at your final moment, being grateful for living your best life and not letting the narc drag you down?
We get ONE SHOT at this game called life.
Don’t waste it chasing and fighting for the narc’s apology or awakening.
IT WILL NEVER HAPPEN.
And that is 1000000000000000000000000000000000000% okay!
Live your life for YOU and not them.
Struggling With C-PTSD?
I often say that living with a narcissist is like living in a war zone! This comparison may very well seem hyperbolic, but research has shown that living around narcissists can have the same effects on a person’s mind as people living in a war zone!
I wrote an article describing the “10+ Mental Illnesses Caused By Staying With Narcissists“.
These people are monsters, plain and simple.
If you are struggling with emotional flashbacks, dealing with mental and emotional battles that NO ONE but yourself seems to see and feel, and if you find it hard to get out of bed every day, you may be dealing with C-PTSD.
As great as support groups may be, or as profound as articles can be, they are no substitute for professional help.
Sometimes the best way to heal and move forward is with therapy.
Speaking with someone and getting the hurt off your chest is a great way to unload.
Online Therapy is a site that offers visitors the chance to speak with professional therapists who will be able to help you get through your emotional and psychological battles.
If you sign up with my link, you can get 20% off your first month’s session.