No one has the right to destroy a life; personality disorder or not.
I often call Narcissistic people, losers, kidults, monsters, and parasites.
I say this not to tease or be cruel — but to name them as what I see them like.
To be fearful that others can accomplish their dreams and goals and do so NOT at the expense of stealing anything from you — makes you a loser.
Only losers sabotage people trying to accomplish their goals at the cost of taking NOTHING from anyone.
Narcs do this, and this is why I call them LOSERS.
Demanding that other people KNOW what goes on in your mind and never believing that you need to articulate your thoughts cohesively through verbal communication is childish.
Toddlers expect parents to know what they want by crying, yelling, and throwing a temper tantrum.
To be a grown adult and cry, yell and throw a temper tantrum…MAKES YOU A KIDULT.
To cause people who love you to develop mental health issues because you seek and work hard to cause them to develop anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, and suicidal ideation…MAKES YOU A MONSTER.
And you are a parasite if you leech off of someone’s life and give NOTHING IN RETURN.
Disorder Or Not…No One Has The Right To Destroy A Life
I often hear from many of these narcs and enablers who yell, “they are not losers/kidults/monster/parasites — they have a disorder. They can’t help it.“
Let’s accept that argument!
How does it make it right or acceptable for the person in the narc’s life to stay and to put up with their nonsense?
What good can come from staying with these people, who do not see anything wrong with them, but they do in the world?
Why must good people give up their lives and dedicate it to someone who will only try and destroy it (with many of these people doing so)?
Now, let me be clear.
When I call narcs, losers, kidults, monsters, and parasites — I AM NOT TALKING ABOUT PEOPLE WITH NPD.
I understand they have a disorder. That still doesn’t make what they do okay!
I am calling out these people who exhibit narc traits and believe they never have to apologize to anyone. I am calling out these people who think they have the right to destroy lives because they can.
And there are people out there who think they can do this.
Look at “Winnie The Pooh” Xi Jinping or the leader of North Korea, to name a few!
Would you use that argument, “they have a disorder,” when MILLIONS OF PEOPLE ARE BEING KILLED UNDER THEIR RULE?
There are many people out there who have narc traits but don’t have the disorder.
There are some people out there who want to cause harm to others and do so.
And there are some people out there who believe they never have to grow up.
The callousness of bunching ALL these poeple into NPD is very destructive as you give these LOSERS a chance never to grow up.
“It’s Not My Fault…I have a disorder.” – Said every narc who just never wanted to take accountability for their actions (Stay young Peter Pans)
Some legit people have NPD and seek therapy and seek ways to think normally.
Enablers, by b*tching that, “they can’t help it. They have a disorder,” you give these people a pass to be a jack@ss and get away with their evil deeds.
You Are Not A Bad Guy For Leaving These People
Disorder or Not, you are not in the wrong for leaving these people, or at the very least, you are not in the wrong for setting up boundaries.
I understand that sometimes you cannot kick them out of your life because maybe they are family.
Still, you have to ask yourself, what do you gain from staying with these people?
I have met many narcs in my life, and no matter how much I did for them, it was never enough.
And why wasn’t it enough because they feel like they are supposed to get stuff.
What many of these enablers will try and do is guilt us into being the better person and just put up with the narc’s nonsense.
“They need you. Be strong. Be their punching bag.”
But why the hell should we destroy our lives for a person who will move on to another person after our lives have been destroyed?
And by them no less!
Will they learn anything?
Will they stop and think to themselves, “Man, that was real sh*tty what I did to that person. Let me become a new, better, and moral person?“
These people will use our loss to hook someone else into their drama.
They will use their pity of “No one loves me” to bait and lure a new VICTIM into their lives.
AS MANY OF THEM DO!
Disorder Or Not
Disorder Or Not, no one has the right to destroy a life. We get only one life to live, and when I hear the stories of people losing years to DECADES of their lives, “trying to make things work,” it saddens me.
We are told that we must sacrifice our happiness and joy for someone who gets happiness and joy from hurting us.
How is that not what a monster would do?
They may have a disorder, which is saddening, but that doesn’t make them a SAINT or martyr.
If these people are UNWILLING even to get help, then you have to ask yourself, are they worth it to be around?
These people have needlessly damaged too many lives because people feel sorry for them.
Who feels sorry for the victim?
Who feels sorry for the father who can’t see his kid?
Or the mother who is gaslighted daily?
What do people say when she finally leaves, “why did you stay so long?“
Who feels sorry for the kid who grows up in a narc household?
Who feels sorry for the years that have been wasted?
Because far too many LOSER enablers and LOSER narcs know how to play the victim.
Disorder or not, NO ONE HAS THE RIGHT TO DESTROY A LIFE.
If you can’t leave these people, you should start looking into setting up boundaries.
Because YOU more than anyone on this planet is deserving of your LOVE and HAPPINESS.
And you shouldn’t have to sacrifice it for someone else to be happy.
Disorder Or Not…No One Has The Right To Destroy A Life
Struggling With C-PTSD?
I often say that living with a narcissist is like living in a war zone! This comparison may very well seem hyperbolic, but research has shown that living around narcissists can have the same effects on a person’s mind as people living in a war zone!
I wrote an article describing the “10+ Mental Illnesses Caused By Staying With Narcissists“.
These people are monsters, plain and simple.
If you are struggling with emotional flashbacks, dealing with mental and emotional battles that NO ONE but yourself seems to see and feel, and if you find it hard to get out of bed every day, you may be dealing with C-PTSD.
As great as support groups may be, or as profound as articles can be, they are no substitute for professional help.
Sometimes the best way to heal and move forward is with therapy.
Speaking with someone and getting the hurt off your chest is a great way to unload.
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