The desire to get revenge on a narcissist is understandably reasonable. They do so much harm to us. But there is no need to destroy a narc because narcissists will destroy themselves.
For many of us who have had the unfortunate turn of events to fall in the hands of a narcissist, after leaving them/ or being discarded, the primary feeling that we have for them is…REVENGE.
Their destruction and downfall can become an intoxicating thought that festers across our hearts and mind.
Revenge can feel SO SWEET.
But I am here to tell you…
That narcissists will destroy themselves.
And if you think I am wrong then continue to read on.
Covert Narcissists Are Emotionally Unstable
Narcissists have no emotional regulation.
They are in every sense of the word “kidults”, “grown children”, “toddlers in adult bodies”.
And before you think it childish of me to name call, let me explain.
The names to which I have ascribed to the narcissist are not meant to tease but to show the narc for what they are.
Throwing a temper tantrum because you couldn’t get what you want is…CHILDISH.
Lying to get what you want is…CHILDISH.
Being scared to take responsibility for your actions is…CHILDISH.
Adults do not act like this. We make mistakes and we learn from them.
Heck, I make mistakes EVERY DAY and admit it. If I have wronged someone, I apologize.
Narcissists DO NOT DO THIS. It is everyone else’s fault.
But to get back at the issue at hand. Due to their lack of emotional regulation MANY, a great majority, of them get addicted to drugs, alcohol and uncultured partners (STDs are not uncommon with many of these people).
“Unlike wine, they do not get better with age.”
And this realization HITS THEM.
They may act like it doesn’t… but it hits them. Hence the need to continually drink and use drugs.
The Addiction Is To Numb Their Sadness
Those of us who have been with a narcissistic partner know that many of them are heavy drinkers, lovers of cigarettes, users of drugs and they may get around with a lot of partners who never quite fill that void inside of them.
Hence the need to have so many partners.
All the things that these people do, when viewed from an objective vantage point, are all signs of a person who is crying out in pain.
These people will slowly tear themselves apart.
What Eventually Happens To Narcissists
A sad, lonely and tragic end.
- divorced (Read here if you are considering divorcing your narcissistic partner)
- being estranged from family
- legal problems
- financially DEPENDENT
- damaged reputation
- missed opportunities
- REGRETFUL ON THEIR DEATH BED (“I wasted so much of my life”)
We have all had narcissist enter our lives. And I can say that a majority of them never end up well in life.
Whatever car, house, marriage, money they have…NEVER LASTS FOR LONG.
Their immaturity coupled with their lack of emotional regulation slowly destroys them over the course of their life.
And this is because they never focus on developing their character. Many of them end up alone in an old person’s home (a sad BUT fitting end to a narcissistic parent) or they O.D from drugs or too much alcohol.
It sounds harsh…but what is TRULY NEFARIOUSLY HARSH, is destroying the life of someone who…LOVED YOU.
This is exactly why I champion the idea of going NO CONTACT.
Narcissists will do themselves in.
Let them have hurt us.
The best way to get back at them is to not think about them and to focus on making our lives better.
In becoming our best version we not only get a victory over them but we also have a much better ending in life.
Unlike their sad ending.
If you are hung up on getting revenge on the narc; STOP.
Because the narcissist will do themselves in for us.
For those who feel like they have lost so many years/ and their life to the narc here is how you can reclaim the amount of time you have left.
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No Shame In Therapy
Narcissistic people can do a wonder on someone’s mind and psychology.
In fact, I wrote an article called “10+ Mental Illnesses Caused By Staying With A Narcissists“.
The narcissists and their legion of fools can slowly drive you insane. And sometimes the best help you can ever receive is from a stranger.
When everyone around you is trying to convince you that YOU are the bad person, sometimes an objective view of you from someone you don’t know maybe what saves you from drowning in the sea of insanity the narc and their legion of fools try and drown you in.
Therapy can help heal in ways that reading blogs, listening to videos, and talking with other WARRIORS (we are not survivors, we are warriors) can ever do.
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Narcs have a legion of fools behind them to hurt you, I think it would be a good thing to build your own army of warriors and allies to help stand by your side.